I agree with the answers here. I used to worry about eating alone as well because my friends were usually parts of other friend groups they'd rather eat with at lunch. We already spend all day in the same classes, so they hung out with people who weren't in our classes, or those from their extracurricular activities.My solution for most of middle and high school was to eat in a teacher's room. It was me and a few other students who would do so. The added bonus was that we had desks, so we could study or do homework if we needed to!I think if lunch is not a period where they check on you, you can do whatever you want to avoid eating alone at the cafeteria. Walk around the school, find a quiet spot, and so on. Good luck.
Sitting alone at lunch?
I know that this seems to be a worst case scenario for most high schoolers, but trust me...It's not significant at all. If you have someone you talk to in class, ask if you can sit with them. The worst that can happen is they say no. Just keep thinking to yourself, the opinions they have about you after high school don't matter. Through high school I was picked on by a few people. I wasn't unpopular by any stretch, but there were a few people who were pricks to me. I now go to college with them, and we basically started new in college and now we hang out. The cliques in high school seem tight now, but if you don't join a clique and talk to everyone, you will be happier. Even the biggest loser can find a great friend with a little confidence. You'll be fine. If you do sit alone, sit out of the way, where people won't stare at you, bring a book, bring homework. And most importantly, don't feel bad for yourself.
How can I not feel stupid about sitting alone at lunch?
I'm in 10th grade. I'm known as the shy or quiet one. I've gone through different groups of people at my school since High School and only stuck with still being bit of friends with some of them. I'm use to being the loner type. I don't really mind, I can deal with being on my own, but sitting at lunch alone now makes me feel a bit awkward. I only have one friend in my lunch, the rest are in second lunch period. We sit together alone and I usually follow her around while she talks to some of her other friends. I have another friend in that lunch but she always sits with other people who I don't know and walks around with other people and is friends with a lot of others. But she probably wouldn't want me to sit with them and I don't really want to since I have a crush on her best guy friend and it's really awkward to sit with her and him when he knows I like him and has never said anything to me. The friend I sit with said she might be moving or might be absent tomorrow because of something going on with her mom wanting an apartment in another area and maybe have to switch schools. Last year she was gone for a couple weeks because of her mom and step dad fighting or something and her mom took her to another state than they came back. So, I really don't understand what goes all on with them. TLDR; I might have nobody to sit with at lunch. I never eat lunch at school too since I'm not too fond of eating in front of people/don't eat much anyway. I don't care if I sit alone, I like being by myself, but it's a bit awkward. Advice? I'll probably just read my Stephen King book the whole time and stare at the clock to go faster.
There are a couple of things you can try.First, is there someone in a class that you can invite to discuss the class over lunch? Then allow the conversation to develop naturally. Or some other extracurricular activity?Second, you can alleviate the awkwardness by immersing yourself in some activity (like reading, listening to music, watching video) where being alone isn't an issue.It's quite possible that your activity will draw interest from friendly people with similar interests, and your days of eating alone will be behind you.Good luck with your sophomore year.
I sit alone at lunch...how can I not look awkward? ?
I was the same way. i always thought adults felt bad for me and that i looked weird. or that people assumed nonone wanted to sit by me.but id rather sit alone too. Read, write, do homework, draw, pretend to read : ) i understand how you feel and it doesnt matter what they think, but making yourself look busy helps!
Was it, is it, often that you drop into different bars where you don’t know anyone?It would be better to have a regular bar where you get to know the bartenders, then other regular patrons.If the bar isn’t busy, you could strike up a conversation with a bartender.The more confident you are, the less awkward you’ll feel or look.If you’re a woman, have some reading with you, or check your phone. Look around at other patrons. If you have a watch, check it so it looks as though you’re waiting for someone to join you. I have a female friend - that is, I didn’t know her at the time - who was in a situation like this where she was actually waiting for a guy to turn up and checking her watch.A male friend of mine noticed this, and moved over to talk to her, buy her a drink. They ended up having three kids and currently have 8 grandchildren. :-)
Many a times I have done so when I have travelled alone. Women eating alone seems odd even nowadays. But I have done that boldly right from the days of my BEd study (late 80s). Those days we had contact classes in far away cities and lunch time was a whole one and a half hour. So I used walk into a big bright restaurant and sit down alone. Once the bearer comes it's easy.I walk in confidently, choose a place not facing the restaurant main door or the cashier. Then it's easy. Otherwise people tend to stare. Eating is also easy when no one looks at you. Finally I give a tip to the bearer and walk out proudly.Similarly I have also walked to roadside shops and had lime juice or soft drinks with a feeling of “I am as thirsty and I am as equal as a man” in hot weather !One thing about India the shopkeepers, hotel staff, bearers are all considerate and serve women with respect and quickly too.
I Find It awkward to be alone at school at lunch. What can I do?
Hi, In addition to the good advice on making friends, I have an "In-the-mean-time" suggestion. While you are building your social status, I'll tell you, being alone doesn't have to be awkward. Have you ever been out in public and seen someone who was by themself but didn't look lonely? When you go to lunch and you have to sit by yourself, bring a book, bring something to work on, or people watch (don't stare people down, of course, but observe. Since you share the world with these people you might as well know what they look like :) When I was a freshman in high school none of my middle school friends were in my lunch bell so for the first few weeks I sat alone. But I brought my sketch book and drew things during lunch. Someone from one of my classes came over and asked me what I was drawing, middle middle middle, and then I was invited to sit with them and their friends. It could happen to you too, just saying. Even if it doesn't happen like that, you won't be caught bored and lonely at lunch anymore, as long as you have something to do when you run out of food. As for skating, you can enjoy that too without someone else. Focus on perfecting your moves, laugh at yourself when you fall, and try to do better each time you get back up. When you are focused on that, I bet it will be a bit harder for you to think about being alone or the fact that you don't enjoy it. And, it won't be awkward. I hope this helps :)
Sits alone at lunch ....................... ?
Aw, poor guy. I'll tell you a little story from my high school experiences: I was the goth queen. Black everything. Only a few select people came through to actually get to know me, personally. I believe that people should get to know the person, not biased on what they look like. Well, starting Junior year, I saw a guy - I could tell that he was in a lower grade - sitting alone, looking a bit timid about everyone flowing their way past his table. I felt bad, mainly because about 80% of the time I was in high school this is how I sat even amongst some people that knew me. A person, not really considered a friend, he was rather annoying in his arrogant ways, was around me. I said that I wanted to go talk to him. He told me "Why? He's just a stupid freshman.". I told him that just because he was a freshman doesn't mean that he couldn't have any friends. I went over to his table and started talking to him. He turned out be a really great guy, very friendly, and in love with theatre. I was very grateful to go talk to him. Oh, and that "friend" of mine started to try to get him away from me (he's gay, the friend that is. The "stupid freshman" thought that was extremely weird). I honestly think that you should go and sit with him. Who knows what friendships can bloom?
No matter what I say, everything still depends on you.One thing is that you shouldn't avoid attention from people. I know you are an introvert, but you shouldn't feel too shy about coming to contact with people.There will always be someone to judge who you are. You have to be expected of what's coming your way.Besides, everybody have that issue, insecurities. Not all the time, no one would show it. It means you are expressing vulnerability. (how people perceive you.) I know you are strong but prefer to be reserved and usually stuck in a deep thought.Situation like sitting in college class by yourself, you just need to focus on your professor or check stuff if you get bored during class. Here are why: just because everyone is talking to each other and seem like they are having fun gossiping. Doesn't mean they are actually happy. Human, we use sight to observe and then choose what we desire.( something you wanted to be just like everyone else). We should not forget that we can created our own… If you’re confidence in what you are doing, those people feel jealous of you than you are of them. You know how to do it, but they don't. They can't end up being indecisive, and continue to follow each other footsteps. ( sometimes without realizing they did it.)