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I Feel Distant Lately

I feel distant lately..?

What I mean is everyday for the past three weeks or so lifes felt hurried and rushed. I leave for school and when I come back it only feels like 20min. Everything seems like a blur and I can't focus or remember most of the stuff that happened that day. I don't even know what day it is half the time! Time is like an illusion and nothing seems real. I don't hallucinate, I have some petty delusions, and I've been meditating a little and my stress has gone down. So I don't think it's that.. Just some opinions if this is normal part of life, thx

My boyfriend seems distant lately?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years, it will be three in November. I am 22 and he is 25. He has lived with girlfriends before, but this is a first for me. We moved in together in Jan. of this year. Of course when we were dating, before we moved in, he was very affectionate towards me. Once we moved in, the affection seemed to dwindle. Now, I am not a clingy person. However, like any girl, I would like a hug and kiss or SOMETHING when he gets home. I go to school, and work at night. When he gets home, he just seems to not pay attention to me. We sit on the couch and he doesn't speak, and I try but it goes nowhere and I give up. One night he asked me to make him a snack, so I was in the kitchen making his snack for him and he walked in. I, being in an affectionate kind of mood, tried to kiss him and love on him. He looks at me and says "What are you doing?" I was completely upset and more embarassed, and just left. I was mortified that my boyfriend would say that, when all I was doing was trying to love on him. Tonight was date night, and when we got home, once again, I was trying to kiss him and show him affection....he wasn't having it. We were on the couch, and with his eyes on the t.v. he said "Let's just cuddle." He's told me he doesn't see us as "dating" anymore because we are living together. But I still see us that way.

May be a little T.M.I. but when I am in the mood, it seems like its up to him...if he's not in the mood it's just NOT happening at all!!!

Am I wrong to be upset about the situation? He does work all day, and I completely get that. But I need something from him, that Im just not getting right now, and he doesn't seem to understand that.

He just seems very distant, and I have no idea how to get out of this rut we are in... I feel like I am too young to be feeling this way. HELP!

My boyfriend seems very distant lately...?

Lately, my boyfriend just seems like he doesn't care anymore. We've been dating for about 5 months, and in the beginning he was great. Now, he barely texts me first, lately he's been just leaving text conversations abruptly, he doesn't talk much in school, and he hasn't asked me to hang out in awhile. I don't know what's wrong with him. I texted him yesterday and asked him if he was okay, and he just responded with "Gotta go, bye." Do I need to give him space or do I need to call him up and ask him what's going on?

Lately I feel distant from my husband but I don’t know how to express my reasons. How do I find a way to express it best?

There may be a few issues at play here. One could be that your husband is overworking himself. If building the house is stressing him out so much, why is he doing it? Was it originally envisioned as a labor of love - but now turning into a parade of headaches? Perhaps he’s trying to do too much on his own, or the people who are supposed to / could be helping him aren’t really doing so. See if you can figure out why it’s stressing him out so much, and whether there’s any available solutions.Another issue could be that he may not feel like you value what he’s doing as much as he does. Maybe you see the house-building differently than he does - as excessive or counterproductive. Meanwhile, he may be doing this out of his drive to support the needs of the family, or to create an asset on which you two can build a more abundant future. So if this is the case, maybe he’d be more receptive if he heard you validate what he’s doing more often.Something else that could be contributing to the problem is that perhaps you two are speaking different “love languages.” You might see the previous paragraph as inapplicable because you naturally issue words of affirmation, while what would really make him feel connected with you is something else. The other 4 categories are acts of service, quality time, gifts, and physical contact. Suppose his primary love language is quality time - but he’s not getting any with you because he’s focusing almost all of his energy and time on the house project, and feels that he can’t afford to allocate time (let alone set his thoughts on the house aside for awhile) to properly spend with you.These are just some suggestions to get you thinking about possibilities. I hope they help and I wish you well. I also welcome you to comment or send me a message if you want to further discuss this. :)

My girlfriend has seemed distant lately?

Over the past week or so my girlfriend has began to act strangely towards me. She takes longer to reply to text, less talkative and much less affectionate. She's going through some family issues, school and her own health so I can understand that she's stressed but I don't see why she's blocking me out of her life. We've officially been together for 2 months but have liked each other for about 8. Weve had no problems since this. Out of nowhere.I asked if I did anything and she told me no and I've told her I'm here if you need her. It's really affecting me and I've felt single this whole time basically. It has me thinking the worst but I also over think a lot. I've tried to give her space by not double texting or obsessing over it. Im going to leave her be and she will come to me if she wants. Any advice out there? Thanks!

Why do I feel distant from my friends?

Lately I've been feeling distant from the group of friends I always considered myself closest with at college. I feel like they never really do fun things anymore and as much as I wanna hang out with them, whenever I do I don't really have fun. I feel like it's getting harder to talk to them. I still love them and I think they love me, but I'm getting worried that I'm losing friends.

Feeling Distant from my husband....?

I bet you sound hateful a lot more often than just the 3rd or 4th time you say something. Thats why he dopesnt pay attention. I am not trying to pick on you, but an awful lot of women are condescending and "bitchy" and dont even realize it after they get married. Again I am not picking ion you. But it is true I see friends I swear I would walk out on their wives immediately because they are rude, condescending, hateful and do not even realize yet they become offended very easily if he says anything they do not like.
I think some of may have to do with a lot of women expecting their husband to act like theirs friends, Mne are not women with a penis, we do not care to talk about all the same little forgive me "nonsense" women get hung up on talking about.

When you have something to say or talk about be close to him and just touch , like his shoulder or arm and say "hey" then talk nicely. If he really never reacts their is probably a problem there. If he does you may find that you have been naggy so he tunes you out.

I have a friend and his wife swears he never listens to her or pays attention. I love her to death she is an awesome person and very kind and thoughtful to other people but I would divorce her in 2 hours if I was him. She is insulting, rude, demanding, talks down like he is a kid (ironically he is much smarter than she is) yet she explodes if he says the slightest thing she things isnt respect ful.
Ofcourse he may just be an ***.

NOTICE how all the women here just address how to manipulate him by a romantic outing (just sex to train the dog) instead of actually examining the possibility you may nag and be hateful too often. They completely over look you you talking about being hateful. You even said he says your are condescending and I would bet you are with out knowing it. Thats because the average american women views it as ok to be insulting and hateful or condesnding to thier husband to the point where they dont even notice it.

You are condescending i would bet anything, thats why he doesnt pay attention to you. He has to block you out because if he responds, then you will say he his "controlling" "says MEAN THINGS TO ME" No offense but that is typical behavior for women here it is a one way street they can be hateful and rude and thats ok, but if the husband does the same EXACT thing he is controlling or hateful borderline abusive.

Ive been feeling distant with my Scorpio boyfriend lately, why?

No I don't think so. Some Scorpios get in bad moods sometimes and it affects people close to them without them realizing it themselves. It must something from an another source. Maybe his family got problems. Or maybe you did something. Try to address the problem and try to work it out. I'm sure he will understand. You got to give the Scorpios some time. Believe me, I am a scorpio.

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