Why do I hate sharing my feelings and emotions?
It’s probable that you’ve had a few bad experiences with vulnerability.Opening up to others makes us vulnerable to things they may say or do. And having even a few bad experiences when someone opens up to another person can have scarring effects on them.People sense you as cold precisely because you don’t like sharing your feelings. It isn’t because you’re a heartless person, but because you’re intent on shutting others out.It’s a defensive mechanism you’ve developed over time, and though you may even have developed it out of necessity, others sense it in you, and perceive you as cold; indifferent; uncaring.After all, the more we care, the likelier we are to be willing to expose ourself to the vulnerability of letting someone in.So while you may be reluctant to let people in to safeguard yourself, how can you build a warm relationship with them? How do you hug someone while holding them at an arm’s distance from yourself?After all, they can’t see the real you until you let them, right?P.S. People will hurt you. Repeatedly. They’ll make you regret having opened up to them. It’ll happen time and again.Like it does with me. I could teach a university course on being betrayed.But here’s the thing: I will never allow myself to go numb. Because there are people out there who will make it all worth it, not just the sharing of your emotions in a particular situation; but every single betrayal, regret and terrible memory of yours.That’s the thing. Sometimes you meet beautiful souls and they’re everything you’d wanted. It can be a friend, a partner, a relative, a colleague, anyone.Finding that person is a truly rare thing. It doesn’t happen to everyone. Not even close.But that’s all the more reason for me to never give up.If they’re that tough to find, and I may never even find them, how the hell is it even possible for me to find them if I don’t try my absolute best?And that’s why I’ll keep looking for more such people.To the end of time. What about you?When everything goes wrong, and it seems like there’s no hope left for humanity, there’s one thing that keeps me going. No matter what I go through, it always does the trick. I’ll elaborate on what that is if someone asks me to.Anyway, good luck!
Why do I feel guilty for having a good life?
Perhaps you’re empathetic and altruistic by nature and the guilt that you’re feeling is prompting you to do something about it, which is, no surprise, GIVE.Give your time, money and/or talent to those who need. That way, you transform your privileges to something beneficial for others…and you could in turn find that that’s where your happiness will come from.I too, from time to time, feel guilty for having a relatively easy life (I’m not rich in financial terms but I know in many areas in life, I’m blessed with a lot) so to assuage my guilt, I give.Think of it this way: if you grew up poor and always have to worry about your livelihood and are preoccupied with putting bread on the table, you most probably wouldn’t have the means and resources to care for and give others. Your privileges, on the other hand, allow you to do that. Perhaps your privileges are given to you for a good reason. ;)
Why do I feel bad about my life when looking at other people’s Instagram accounts, and what should I do about it?
Trust me, pal, life would be much better and easy if we know how to and when to demarcate between reality and virtual reality.You are not alone.Almost every other person on social media feels mentally down for one reason or the other, seeing the highlight reels of others on social media platforms like Instagram, Facebook or Snapchat.I am no different.But having a career in digital media AND growing to know this social media world better, I have understood that it is foolish on anyone’s part to buy everything that social media sells to us, at face value.A simple way of putting this would be, you have a bad, bad day, wherein, say, you had a fight with your parents, your cat died, or you just simply don’t even feel like waking up from bed and do nothing but laze around the whole day.Now, would you put this negative/mundane angle of your life on social media?Chances are marginal, for you may feel the onus of the possibility of being judged, being called an attention-seeker, moody, et cetera.Now compare this to a day where you just feel good about yourself. Say, you got a damn nice dress, which fetched you a plethora of compliments, a bevy of people viewed your Snapchat stories, etc. And you do feel like basking in this glory for a change, and you click a picture and post it on Instagram/Facebook.These are all highlight reels that you are sharing.There are people (though less) who share as much of their sad stories as they do for their happy ones, and then there are people who only let their positive side show on social media, concealing the chink in their armor fairly well, simply for the reason that they do not want the world to see their inner demons.But amid all this: truth remains just one. Everyone has their dark days and perfection is just a myth. Nobody’s life is as perfect as their Instagram Feed or Snapchat history might look, and this is a fact.You may feel like, ‘’Oh, she’s got a perfect life!’’ ‘’He has nothing to worry about! I wish I had a life like that!’’ but bottom line is, those persons aren’t living a life that’s hunky dory either, just like you. Just that their problems might be different than yours.It’s the best to thus treat highlight reels as they are: ‘’Reels’’ and know that ‘’Real’’ is quite different. It is basic, it lacks background music, and sometimes, it sucks! But hey, that’s life. We make, we break, and we gotta live it the way we want, whatever it takes! :)Good luck!
Why do some people don't want to share anything with anyone?
People like this arent by birth like this !situation and the people surrounded by them make them this way they might be the person in past who shares everything but may be came across such people that dont care or dont understand them may be surrounded by people who dont even lisens to them and so thats why they once decided not to share anything with anyone.people like this get attacted to person deeply who truly understands them.people never are by birth like this situation and time make them like that they could be sharing with you if you make them realise that you understand them or make them feel little loved or they are cared by you.sometimes your little care and love make person change ❤️if it helps you please motivate me through your upvote show some love here too.
Why do I feel sorry for bad people?
It's because you are a very empathetic person, which I consider a good thing. I also can't help but feel sorry for certain "bad" people, such as James Holmes. He seemed like any other young adult out there. I think it's obvious he is struggling with a serious mental disorder. Sane people like you and me don't make elaborate plans to kill random people then go through with it. And besides, I've now heard that some of the victims in the shooting also feel bad for James. They can see that he is not well. It's a bit disturbing when hear people say that James deserves to rot in hell/prison. I know what he did was horrible, but considering everything, I think wishing death upon him is wrong. There are too many people who lack empathy and the knowledge about mental illness, it's scary. It's very sad that an intelligent young man who seemed to be doing ok with his life will now most likely spend his life in prison or be executed for something that I'm sure could have been prevented. Those who believe he's just an evil person I think are cold heartless individuals. But people like that, are also people who would say I should rot in hell or be shot for feeling bad for James. Yeah.. that's the type of lovely world we live in.
I think I'm actually a terrible person...?
If it's any consolation, your thoughts and ideas don't sound all that far-fetched or outlandish to me! Personally, I too am the type of person who will become fascinated by people with strange or unique minds, even if those people are serial killers or lunatics. As for your other examples...again, they don't sound nearly as odd as other people have made you believe they are. I know plenty of people who share your views of suicide, and I've seen many people online express similar opinions on cyber-bullying, that it shouldn't be taken so close to heart and that some people need to grow a thicker skin about it! So don't worry, your ideas are original and everything, but others do in fact share similar views as yours. :) Try not to let others make you feel as though you need to conform your thoughts to please them. Your thoughts and ideas are your own, and you should even feel proud whenever they differ from the ideas of others; it means you're able to think for yourself, despite the influence of others. Never mind what other people think of you; stick to your own standards and morals, not those of someone else.
I want to kill myself, im such a bad person?
No point in beating around the bush, let's get straight to it. Here are my top five ways to reduce stress, depression and anxiety. 1. When at work it is important to remember to take regular breaks from your desk. Working intensely without one is sure to create a build up of stress and tension, which can lead to anxiety and depression if maintained over a long period of time. Take at least one 15 minute break during the morning and one mid- afternoon as well as a lunch break. Try and have a change of scenery and eat your lunch away from your workstation. Also, if you have a lot of issues going on in your life right now, make time and take yourself away for a day, or a weekend to give yourself some breathing space, you will really feel the benefit. If removing yourself from the situation seems totally out of the question allow yourself a few hours to distance yourself from your problems by doing something that you really enjoy. Creating some free time will help reduce your stress levels, but it also gives you some much needed space to gather your thoughts. 2. Regular exercise is a great way to alleviate moments of stress, depression and anxiety. Regular exercise releases chemicals called endorphins into your blood stream, giving you a natural boost of happiness. It will also
I feel like a bad person.?
The past couple months have been hard. I'm almost 18 & I've been under a lot of stress. Everything that I had in life that made me happy got taken away from. My family moved away from & was forced to live with my grandma who's a drunk. There was always fighting so I left to move in with my boyfriend. With all the stress going on I had really bad anxiety & atarted devolping a problem with xanax. Just recently quit & that put me in a more worse state of mind. I feel like such a bad person cause I can't feel & I'm always in a bad mood. I don't even know what life is anymore. I've always beloeved in god and now it's hard for me. I've always wanted to be happy & have kids now I'm afraid to be around kids cause what if I am a bad person & I hurt them. I'm afraid to go home to my family for that reason. I love them so much & would never want to hurt them. But I get intrusive thoughts & it makes me sick to my stomach. Like what if I'm a bad person. I just hate living like this. I want to be me again. Full of life & carefree. Cuddling with my baby brothers until I fall asleep. Being a good person. I feel like I'm losing myself. How do I bring me back. This is not how I want to live anymore.
I'm a very private person.... Is this a bad thing?
I am sorry you have gone through so much at such a young age, but you don't seem abnormal in any way. I watched my daughter go through too much illness and saw her withdraw a lot from an extroverted life. I attributed some of that to her problems and changing body image, etc., but a lot of it also has to do with the changes every person your age goes through. It is all a part of recognizing yourself as an individual and, based on your experiences, having to begin to make judgments about the types of other individuals you want in your life. After this awareness, the challenge of relationship continues throughout adulthood. We are all facing it and it doesn't necessarily get easier. There is no reason to be unhappy with yourself, or with others. You don't have to have any prescribed number of close friends, or any certain depth of relationship with anyone except as you choose it. The "meaningfulness" of a relationship is only defined by its meaning to you.
Being an introvert, I do not share anything with anyone, not even my best friend who shares everything with me. I feel creepy sometimes, but still I don’t want to share anything with anyone. I like the way I am. Am I doing anything wrong?
No you are not doing anything wrong….i dont understand what is there to feel creepy about it…So many people are there in this world who don't like sharing their feelings with anyone even i am one from those people….Some people like to keep their feelings within their self..we don't like to open up with any 1 may be there are several reasons like…1.we think that if we say anything about our feelings the people will not understand it.2. We do have fear that if we express our feelings to other person they might make fun of us.3.we also think that even if we share our feelings with other they will just give us sympathy and nothing else..( which i just really hate it)But sometimes it is important to share our feelings,our thoughts,our pain,our sorrows,our happiness etc..to that person whom we can trust.. especially our parents if not then to that one friend whom you can trust and have faith that he/ she will not back fire on you or take advantage of you because of your feelings and secrets..But then again you still can't share your feelings so its ok…its not at all cumpalsory to share your feelings with other and don't feel bad about it…because Every person is different and thinks differently..So be your self and enjoy your life the way you want to:-)