Why do I always feel bad about myself?
The answer is very simple, you don’t love yourself.You don’t love yourself hence your confidence lies in other people’s perception of you which with time changes into your reality.You don’t love yourself enough, hence the remote control of your happiness or sadness is in other people’s hands and not yours.You don’t love yourself which is why you believe in others more than you believe in yourself.Change yourself from today, give all the things you seek in others like happiness, worth, appreciation, acceptance to yourself. Love yourself enough to set standards and whoever doesn’t fit those is kicked out of your life.Become a being full of self love and you will become the magnet of love.Being the person who went through the same change, I can affirmatively say that change is hard but not impossible.
I feel alienated from my friends :(?
Ben, this can happen at any time in our lives. That is why it is important that we keep making new friends. all the time. You seem to be very kind by helping the guy who seems to need your friendship. Maybe you will make some new friends in some of your new classes.
I feel like I need to cut myself off from society, should I?
There are some people in my life that I feel are a negative influence. It's not just their influence on me, but it's also my influence on them. It sucks, because these people do have some great qualities, but I feel like in the end we cause more harm to each other. I'm also hesitant in cutting off these ties because I have VERY few friends left, and the ones I do are out of state, or will be sometime soon. I feel so alone as it is, and I know ultimately it's my fault. I'm driving people away thanks to my depression, anxiety and paranoia. To be honest, I don't even know if it's their fault to begin with. I have also had a similar issue with jobs, especially over the last year. With 4 employers in under 10 months, I've had issue after issue, and quit ALL of these jobs at the drop of the hat. At two of the jobs I suspected illegal activity, one of which could have directly involved me (basically sex trafficking). The other job I left because I was convinced a co-worker was legitimately trying to hurt me. At the time these relationships and situations felt so real, and the red flags seemed so blatant. However, when I look at the pattern and consistent threats I face each day, I have to wonder if it's ME who's the issue. I don't know what to do. My life is crumbling. Regardless if I cut the rest of my social contacts off, I feel they will eventually abandon me anyway. One friend laid into me today and threatened to cut me out of the picture if I didn't "stop feeling sorry for myself". Thing is, I don't feel like I'm "feeling sorry" the obstacles and demons I have faced have been against me. I know that's life, but it's more than that. I legitimately feel my life is in danger, and that people ARE out to get me. I've tried to explain, but pretty much no one understand the fear and helplessness I feel. Should I cut myself out from humanity and become a hermit?
How can I make myself emotionally insensitive?
I know this is possible because some people I knew (one of them is my bf) have done this. But I just can't approach them and ask how did they do it. I'm sooo tired of crying, being depressed, and being affected with even those little eeky love and family problems... I really want to be emotionally insensitive. How can I do this?
Alternatives to cutting myself? I want to so badly right now..?
I started cutting last August. My mom found out and I started counseling November 2nd. I kept cutting, but made sure it was always somewhere that I could hide it, and lied to my counselor about if I cut or not. So then in April I got so depressed that I was getting physically sick. I ended up having a doctor's appointment for that, and the same morning I cut on my arm again. I told my mom, we told the doctor, she referred me to a psychiatrist and I was prescribed Zoloft. So I've been taking that and I didn't really have the urge anymore. I went from April 19th to July 10th without cutting. I guess my counselor is supposed to talk to me about alternatives to cutting, but she NEVER DOES. So I just can't cut myself again, I don't want to go back down that road. But at the moment I want to so badly, I don't want to be told to go to another counselor or anything like that, I simply just want to have a list of alternatives to cutting that will make me feel better, something I can do. Not exercise or snapping a rubber band. Neither of those work for me... Please help, the longest list you can possibly think of ( keep in mind it's midnight..) Thank you for the help!
Is it bad if I don't like to talk about myself?
It is not bad nor good.Behave the way you want to within appropriate boundaries.Not sharing stuff can possibly lead to disconnection from groups and lonellines.I won't analyze your behaviour, instead I am interested in reason behind it.So how come you don't like to talk about yourself? This is the question you must occupy yourself with. If you just like your privacy, that's perfectly fine, but if your behaviour has roots elsewhere, you should work on that (i.e. being too sensitive, feelings of guilt or other dormant causes).Peace of advice regarding the posed question.As a human and member of certain groups and general society, you should learn how to deal with relationships occuring in your life.People will ask things about you and you should be able to judge when, how and to what extent you should comply with them and more importantly when you dont wish to disclose informations about yourself you must reply in such a way that querying party wont feel alienated or even more interested in things you dont want to talk about. When in doubt just start to tell boring or superficial stuff.In short, your job is to find coping techniques which will help you to retain prosperous relationships with people you interact with.
I am so alone. I have made myself so distant from everyone who once cared for me.?
I usually alienate myself from friends because I don't feel many special connections. Family, i just never have energy to be close to them. I do have one person though, my boyfriend, who i put all my energy, love and care into . I struggle with this, and its sad... but you have to figure this out in your head. There are a lot of people who are in your life right now, and who won't be in it later. most of them do not make a difference. my advice is, pick out those who matter the most to you and figure out who you connect with and who you wish for to always be in your life and make an effort to connect with them. the effort you make can be as small as just sending them a message or just hanging out with them for a bit. i always alienate myself, but trust me, when you do spend some time with them it can make you very happy. just free yourself for a bit, and dedicate yourself to others for a bit.. it can be very rewarding. and it never has to be much, but people do appreciate small things! and you may think you don't need anyone, but sometimes you will feel lonely. i feel lonely too :) but i try to connect and understand others when they need me! you don't need many friends but at least one person. and they will understand you. i'll be a friend :)
I only care for myself. I don't even care about family and friends. Why?
I really like Jack's answer. Anyhow, I am currently asking the same question of myself. I've placed myself in a place of isolation in order to work for a long time without friends of family to distract me. I know they miss me, and I could see the pain in their faces when I left. But then I wonder, why do I not feel any pain of missing them, except the remorse of causing pain by my absence? Months can go by (6 weeks so far) and I have never once felt like calling home out of a need to connect with my family. I do it out of obligation because I know they love me and want to hear from me. They call me and I choose to ignore their calls sometimes. I've even started to leave my phone in a different room so notifications don't jolt me out of concentration or remind me of people I should call to let them know I'm thinking of them. With that said, I think it's best to appreciate their presence in my life and schedule time to put aside and make a call to them. We only live once, and every second of our lives is one we won't get back. I realized a while ago that life is like a film with no stop and it's always on record. What will I think of or remember when I look back at my life? While I've chosen to make a very steep investment in to my future by making these sacrifices, there's no need to let relationships go dry by being totally cold. After all, how they feel is definitely partly my responsibility, as is mostly everything else in my life.The point is that it doesn't matter why I feel numb to the feeling of missing them. What matters to me is that the relationship stay intact. With that said, I'd say the same to you. Don't use your numbness as an excuse to not pick up the phone.