How can my parents punish my brother correctly?
I know this sounds crazy but is it possible that he was just trying to embarrass the other kid and it wasn’t sexual? Not that I am trying to excuse it at all. I don’t know what kind of pic it was just that it was taken in the bathroom. And regardless it is unacceptable.Regardless of the intent it is very serious but your parents (not you) need to sit down and explain to him that it is very wrong. And can have serious consequences for both him and the person he took pictures of. One thing they should do for sure is take his phone and make sure that there are no other pictures that should not be on there. And probably keep it until he can use it without getting into trouble. They probably also need to explain that once something is on the internet it is there forever. No matter if they take it down or not. Someone will always be able to find it.Your parents should also sit down with the parents of the other child to discuss all of this without the kids and then bring the kids in after the parents have discussed what should be done without the kids. Both sets of parents should get to have some input on what will happen and what the punishment will be. If he is lucky the other parents will be reasonable, altho I would not blame them if they weren’t.You also didn’t say if the 9 year old said it was ok to take the pics. That should be addressed as well. I am not saying that the 9 y/o is responsible but if that child thought it was ok they need for their parents to explain to them why it is not ok. And how easy it is for pictures to end up out there.I really do hope that you are just asking because your parents don’t want to post or something because this really is something for the parents to deal with not for a sibling to deal with.Good luck to your brother and your family. I hope that this can scare him straight and that it was just a kid being stupid not realizing how bad this was.
My oldest sibling punishes me because i'm the youngest in my family!?
Hi! I'm a 13 year old girl and I am the youngest of my siblings. I have a 14 year old sister and a 16 year old brother. I get good grades in school and I am very well behaved! I make mistakes and have accidents sometimes, but I never do it on purpose! My parents don't punish me because I don't do anything bad, and my parents let me go to Starbucks when I'm good! The problem is, due to never getting punished, my brother sees me as a spoiled brat. Well, it's normal for kids to see their youngest sibling as a spoiled brat, but that's not the problem! Here's the problem! My brother thinks that because he's the oldest and I'm the youngest, that he can parent me! He always tells me what I can and can't do, and bosses me around! He punishes me too! Whenever he sees me "do something bad", he punishes me by making me sit in the basement(I HATE it down there!), taking away my privileges, and even spanking me! I'm not actually misbehaving! I'm talking about when I accidentally break something, or mistakingly take something I didn't know was his, or do something he thinks is wrong but is really not wrong. I love to sing, and I'm actually a really good singer, but my brother punishes me when I sing because he thinks I'm a bad singer and that I should not sing! He tells me what I have to get at restaurants when we go out to eat, and he also tells me when I can and can't eat, even when I'm hungry, and if I don't do what HE wants, he spanks me and takes away my electronics.
What do i do when everything around me revolves around my older sister?
pray she hurries up and goes to college. this happened to me and my younger sister w/ our older sister. she was great and we were not. unfortunately the way we handled it was dangerous to both of our healths and thank God we figured out what to do before we messed ourselves up too bad. no, i can't tell you what we did to get right w/ ourselves. it was bad, stupid and at times life threatening. you will have to find your own way through this. but don't hold grudges. remember nothing last forever and i mean NOTHING last forever. this will all pass and you will grow up and move on and remember this when you have kids. no favoritism. it hurts. as you see.
How were you punished by your parents?
I have a loving mother. But she was obsessed with making me eat. Even though I was a healthy child, every dinner was a struggle between us. She must have thought I just sought attention, since I had twin baby brothers. So she punished me one day, when I was 7. I was grounded and not allowed to eat for one whole day.This was good news at first because I didn’t want to eat anyway. (My mother says that was not the first time she tried to punish me this way. The first time, I was too young to understand. She put biscuits around the house and watched me if I would eat, but I didn’t even notice them.) Later I started to feel uncomfortable. It probably wasn’t just lack of food, but also my mother’s anger and the tension of being grounded.It was Ramadan and my mother was fasting, so she wasn’t eating either. She was busy with my brothers and ignoring me most of the time. The dinner was at 9 pm or something, summer days were long. Around 7 pm, my mother started feeding my brothers who were less than 2 years old then. They were sitting in their prams, and my mom was feeding them with a spoon. It was purslane cooked with rice in olive oil, which I hated. I can still smell it, 38 years later. I watched my mom feeding my brothers, not looking at me. I couldn’t stop my tears.Finally my mother looked at me and asked if I am hungry. I said yes, cried for a bit more, we hugged and made peace. She gave me some purslane too, and I ate happily ever after.At age 8 things turned the other way, my parents started saying I shouldn’t eat much bread. I was bigger than my friends as a teenager, I tried to lose weight all my life. Early years of my working life, I visited dietitians regularly, lost a lot of weight with their help but as soon as I stopped visiting them, I started putting it back on. It was a bit like paying tribute to the mafia. Later I tried many other ways to keep fit but none of them worked for me in the long term. My eating disorder continues even today. It probably would be unfair to say it is just because I was punished like that, but remembering that day definitely has an effect on me. (Excuse me, I need some tissues.)
Is it ever acceptable for an older sibling to discipline and punish a younger sibling?
I know of one situation where a young boy whose father died when he was only 5 years old was mercilessly bullied for about 8 years by his older brother, 12 years his senior. This abhorrent behaviour was fully sanctioned by the widowed mother, a rather weak & selfish woman, who saw the elder one as some kind of father-figure for the younger. All the 5-year-old wanted was a supportive big brother to lean on through a difficult time, but what he got was a sadistic control freak who,at the bequest of his own mother, administered some quite severe beatings, with the aid of weapons in several cases, in the guise of discipline. All very well to expect the little boy to “talk to someone” or to go to the authorities, but this was the early 1960’s England, & things were very different then. Thankfully, the little boy was a strong kid. He survived the cruelty without resorting to self-harming, attempted suicide, or other unpleasant practices & has since grown up, come to terms with his past & moved on to live a very happy life, albeit with several dark memories. I wish the boy, now obviously a grown man, well, but I rather think this post has answered your question. No, it’s never acceptable. Who was the little boy? I’ll let you work that one out.
Is it ok to have sex with your step brother?
Ok, so here's the story. My dad and step mom got married when i was ten, and my step brother was nine. I also have an older step brother who was about fourteen at the time. Up until about last year, i had felt the same about both of them. I loved them both as brothers. But that all changed. Me and younger step brother (who is now fourteen, and im fifteen) started to mess around. Just like kiss, make out, touch each other etc. And then he told me he loved me. And i felt the same about him, he is so nice, sweet and funny. Then he said that he wanted to have sex, if i was ready. And i said okay- but ended up backing out in the last second. He didn't say anything but a few days later he told me when i was at my moms online that he liked someoene else and we shouldn't do anything. Then, the next weekend i was over he kissed me. I asked him what he was doing and he said he couldn't help himself. At that moment i knew i couldn't lose him, i cried when he told me we shouldn't do anything anymore. So i promised him sex. But this past weekend (the weekend i said it would happen) i chickened out-AGAIN. I feel so bad, beyond bad. Friday night he got a little upset, and i cried. And instantly he came over and comforted me like a ture gentlemen. I was touched, we ended up messing around a bit and fell asleep together in his bed. Then the next night i refused him again and he told me he was used to it by now/ Which made me feel bad. I don't know what to do. Should I have sex with him? Should i tell him to respect me and if i say no then i mean no, and hope that he'll stay by my side. Or should maybe i just tell him this is wrong. And we are step siblings and that we should just stop now. Help!
Public humiliation as punishment...?
A mother punished a local girl by public humiliation. Her mother made her wear two poster boards tied together that listed all of the things she had done wrong. The list included things like stealing from her mother, skipping school, lying, etc. She has to stand out on the sidewalk for two hours every day this week. Passersby stop and read her board and ask her about it. Cars passing honk their horns. Her mother had tried other forms of punishing, but none had worked. The girl continued to misbehave. The mother came up with this idea in hopes that if others knew, the peer pressure might change her daughter’s behavior. The girl is in her early teens, a time when embarrassment and peer pressure are play large roles in what they do. The story was covered by all five of the local news channels (mostly likely by sharing footage) and the local newspapers. The girl even thought that the idea was a good one, because she was afraid of her mother putting her back out on the sidewalk again the next time she misbehaved. Now that she has made local news, she has become somewhat of a local attraction. People are going to ‘check her out.’