I feel like a failure?
Hey! If there is one thing I can tell you, is at least you still have the drive to want to do something. That is one big advantage that you have over others that struggle with depression/social anxiety. I want to tell you something. You are never too old to go to school. Something that has always helped me get more motivated and stop being a failure, is working out. I know it sounds ridiculous when you want your whole life to start and that running around or doing pushups is just stupid, but its not. I can guarantee one thing: you will become increasingly more motivated and INCREDIBLY happier if you exercise. At first, it will feel like hell. But working out releases endorphins, and endorphins are happiness. As you become more motivated, start by looking for a job. Make some money! Set a small goal every day. For example: Today I am going to workout for 1 hour. I will also start a resume (You can totally do a resume even without much experience in anything else). Tomorrow: I will work out for an hour, and then do a job search in my area. Set out little goals, and as you accomplish them, you will feel less like a failure and more like you are doing things! If you ever want to talk, feel free to message me back for more tips! Just apply yourself! This might sound harsh, but you are at the prime of your life. Take advantage! If you don't do anything now, do you really think anything will change in 1 or 20 years? Do you want to live on your parents couch when you are 25? Of course not. You can't say those things will happen eventually. You have to do those things now.
I Feel like a Failure?
I'm not doing so good in school i have... not bad but .. ok grades... almost pure c's well thats not too good. i get horrible grades on tests even though i try my hardest and i never get any better I'm only in 9th grade some people tell me its your first year don't worry but i feel like a single test can affect my entire future and sometimes i feel like school is pointless it's not but the way it's taught i mean i wanna be a writer and i'm learning math and physics? do i even need school to be a writer? but sometimes i feel like such a failure and it's making me worry about my future i wanna be a writer but i'm still not completely sure about what i wanna be i feel so confused... and please no "turn to god" answers i get so many.
I feel like a failure?
im reconsidering going to college anymore because it just feels like school again i had depression for the last year at school because the pressure got too much and i felt like i wasnt succeeding in anything im starting to feel the same again now i dont think i'll ever succeed in college i dont get much support i honestly dont wanna be here anymore.
I feel like a failure? I'm 16?
I know i'm young but please hear me out. I'm the only child in my family who is diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I was so depressed this year that my highschool almost withdrew me. I don't take regular classes, i do all my school work alone in the office because my anxiety is too much. But my family just thinks i'm lazy, they don't believe in mental illness. I'm doing really bad in school after missing so much and i'm trying to do better but I just feel like dying. I'm 16 and i can't even pass my learners test.. I've failed it 5 times because I just get overwhelmed when i try to take the test. I have no job, no learners and I'm failing highschool. My mom thinks i'm a burden and always yells at me. I've gained weight after being so depressed, I'm sleeping in until 3pm because i'm always exhausted and i barely go out even though it's summer break. I feel like i'm failing everyone and sometimes I feel like suicide would help get rid of my burden and also stop me from being a burden to my family.
:(i feel like such a stupid failure?
hi, thanks for opening this question. i know its kind of long, but PLEASE PLEASE read. im a 14 year old girl and im a freshman in high school and well, i dont know, i just feel so stupid. i just feel like my parents hate me because im so stupid. last year, in 8th grade, i got an 889 out of 900 on my high school entrance exams and I didn't make it into the #1 school in the state (i needed 891 points to get in), so now i go to the 2nd best school in the state. they never even congratulated me for that. its almost the end of the first quarter, and i have 2 C's, one in geometry and one in physics. I have one B in Latin, and the rest A's. they're all honors classes. the last time i got a C was in 4th grade and my parents yelled at me for it, and i have no idea what theyre gonna do now... a few weeks ago my school sent home my progress report. back then i had all A's except two B's (geometry and physics), and my dad yelled at me and told me that those are the most important subjects and that i wont get a job if i do badly in those areas. now my grades are even lower and i just don't know what to do. i feel so stupid all the time because everyone in my class understands whats going on in except me. i'm going to tutoring but im afraid i wont get my grade up in time for report cards. i'm scared i wont be able to make it into good colleges like yale or dartmouth. im scared my parents will hate me. they always compare me to my siblings (all older than me) and how theyre so much smarter than me. i feel like such a failure. my parents think i hang out too much with my friends, but thats not it, i just DONT get geometry and physics. i wish they'd understand that i really TRULY work so hard to get good grades and i wish theyd just be happy for me. i dont TRY to get bad grades. i really work so so so so hard and when theyre not home i just sit in my room and cry. what do i do now? everyone else gets physics. thats going to make my parents think im even dumber, the only kid that doesn't get it. and they're gonna make me come home straight from school everyday and study until i go to bed. they won't let me go outside except for school and church. they'll call me stupid like they do every time i get bad grades. im crying so much as im typing this... i wish i could just trade brains with someone not as stupid as me. someone who gets acceleration and force diagrams. :(
I feel like a loser and a failure?
I'm a 19 year old man and in college. I've been depressed for a good amount of time because I'm shy, introverted, and not enthusiastic. I feel like I won't have my life in order such as having a job, getting married, etc. I only had one job in my life, pathetic right? I keep applying to jobs and following up but I can't get them so it comes to a point where I feel like I should give up. Another problem is my lack of social life. I feel as if I don't fit in with anybody in the world and don't fit in with the "current modern trends". This is due to my shyness and insecurities which will probably haunt me for the rest of my life. I'm not inspirational to nobody no matter what I do. Does this mean I'm a failure and a loser at life? Be honest it's ok.
How do I stop feeling like a failure? I don't have the courage to go on
You need to stop feeling like a failure by simply stop feeling and thinking like a failure? I know I know that does not help you in your situation by any stretch of the imagination, but I will explain.I have been there so I know a little of what that feels like. And along with you and I, there have been many more that have been there or are sitting in that 'failure bubble' with you.There are a couple of ways to break the pattern, and without any further subtext to let us know more details it is difficult to know exactly where you are at. In general terms it may be that, as you mention that you do not have the courage to go on, and actually you do because you are on here asking us how to go on, you are depressed and need some professional help. There is medication available if you visit your doctor, and certain talking therapies which will not only enable you to let things off your chest so to speak, but can also offer something called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy that will try to change your negative thinking, and put your mindset on a more balanced and positive path. Once you achieve a certain balance, you will see, it will get easier to get out of this failure pattern that you think yourself in.If the above is a bridge too far you can do it yourself, although it is not easy. I sought the above help and it has served me well. To do it alone you will need persistence, perseverance, the capacity to see you are in a negative cycle that will need to change. You may need to change your friends, or your place of study/work. You may need to pursue different interests. Take up reading, or going to a gym. Make up your mind to eat more healthily. Meet up with friends and enlist some support from them and your immediate family by talking out your problems. Go for a half hour daily walk. Take up some meditation technique that will calm your mind such as Yoga or Mindfulness. Most importantly change the 'don't' to 'do' and say 'I do have the courage to go on and I will'. Start believing it and you will be taking the first step to a more balanced view of your life.