I feel somewhat socially lost?
people don't see me as a very happy person, but I ain't depressed or anything. i have always been quiet my whole life. I have some friends, and I can honestly say I don't think anyone really hates me, or has a reason to. I just don't know how to be more talkative. I hate lunch period in the cafeteria because Everyone will be talking and i'll just be sitting there on the end of the table. I'm hardly ever a part of a conversation really, and I either just zone out completely or just think really deeply about what theyre talking about. I think its because everyone talks about stuff that doesn't matter to me at all, or about people I don't know. This week I decided I would really try and just talk more and keep an open mind, but its really hard.
20 years old with the social skills of a 12 year old?
I pretty much wasted my childhood and teenage years playing halo on Xbox and other games since I didn't have many friends to begin with. Then it only got worse and I became even more socially isolated. I feel like a complete failure. I've let my father down who has always tried to help me as far as my future career and I have no friends, can't even talk to a girl without over analyzing every word I say and looking like a weirdo. Is it possible to change because I have nothing to live for at all? Am I destined to be this way? I know this was all my fault because of the stupid games but is it to late to change? How can I develop social skills and succeed in life?
How can I stop being so socially awkward? Everything I say and do, I feel people stare at me and think I am weird, and that makes me even more nervous. I always feel like such a failure. What kind of mindset should I have socially?
First of all, change your beliefs about yourself. Have self confidence. Have high self image, self esteem. Emulate the one whom you regard as role model. Like begets like. Start liking people and yourself. Use positive self affirmation and say to yourself, “I am sociable, lovable, friendly. I love and accept myself completely”. It may be difficult to change your beliefs immediately. But with continuous practice, you can change your beliefs.Keep a happy and pleasant outlook. Be optimistic, hopeful, cheerful. Wear a smile and friendly attitude. Do some physical exercise, gym, Swimming, cycling, walking, jogging, yoga, meditation or anything that suits you. Maintain personal hygiene, wear stylish dress. Have latest hairstyle and stay well groomed. Wear stylish frame for spects. Read books on personality development. Practice mannerisms, etiquette. Confide in a well meaning friends and follow suggestions. Your mindset is a function of your beliefs and attitude. Only you can change your own beliefs.All the best.
How do I stop feeling like a loser just because I have social anxiety?
Therapy can help people that have a social anxiety diagnosis.If what you are experiencing is mild, it might help to know that there are girls/women out there that experience that same thing you do. If you decide too, you could find someone shy and kind that is learning dating confidence too.Some of this may help:You are never as nervous as you look.Some women find shy guys attractive.You are not responsive for the social anxiety: It just is.If your are really listening to your date and interested in her your anxiety might lessen becuase you are focusing on her, not you anxiety.Consider the first dates practice dates. That way you will not feel as much pressure.Movies are good first date places as the movie takes away some of the pressure of interaction, if she or you decide on a next date, you will be less nervous because you know each other.On the first date just strive for one reasonable goal that you think you will be able to do. If your goal is to listen to her and find out what she likes, instead of “have a great date with her”, it might put less pressure on you.Note: I do not give out medical advice or diagnosis people online, I just share: “Given what I know, what would I tell a friend.”Can you understand, tolerate, and overcome your social anxiety