Everyone thinks i'm stupid and hates me?
i feel so alone in my life. everyone hates me, even my own family. I'm stupid, awkward, and a klutz. At school, i have a few friends, but even they think I'm a freak. Everytime I talk to someone, they look at me like i have lobsters coming out of my mouth, so i don't talk to anyone, which makes people think I'm even weirder. Even adults hate me and avoid me, and I beat myself up about it every single day. What do i do so that people won't hate me? what should i say and act and stuff? I feel like I won't fit in anywhere i go, and i just don't feel like trying to fit in anymore.
My teacher hates me/ thinks I'm stupid?
So let's call this teacher Mr. D. Anyway, he is an honors math teacher and i have an ok grade, but that is my worst class, i have probably a 95 right now, but he just thinks I'm so stupid, but I obey every single rule, do all my work, never talk, pay attention...well basically he's REALLY cocky! When we were using calculators in a lesson (supposed to use them) I accidentally hit clear and he called on me, so I told him I hit clear, and he picked someone else, and after that we went to work on HW, when he said please write your answers BEFORE you hit clear =______= When I shuffle with my papers to turn in something, which makes me look even more stupid (cant help it, nervous around him), he just lets out this frustrated sigh <:( I can just sense from his very presence he thinks Im a complete moron, but i have the top grades in all of my classes all A's!! WTF?!?!? I also came to honors in the 2nd week of school because the dumb staff wouldn't do it until my mom called for literally the fifth time! So since all the other seats were taken I had to sit in the front. I HATE sitting in the front, and since I was new and made just about only 1 friend (best friend now) and i dont have ANY friends in honors, especially since EVRYONE is in their own group! LITERALLY!! And im so flipping shy...but he isnt an everyday thing, just like once or twice every 4-5 weeks maybe? But he REALLY gets on my nerves, he does get cocky with some other kids but only if they get the answer wrong, but its not just wrong answers with me. Its not even that big of a deal since we're over halfway till school ends, and it happens RARELY. But what should I do if this happens again? My parents dont care if i told them. i dont think they would care about me anyway, they always yell and sh*t but anyway i dont really think its TOO bad, but what would you do in this situation? All help is appreciated, Thanks! ^^
I think I'm stupid and don't deserve to live?
No one likes me and I annoy everyone. NOT KIDDING. I'm like that stupid, obnoxious kid in school everyone hates and has no friends. All summer I sat at home being worthless. I can't trust that anyone would ever like me. I always do everything wrong. I have a crappy personality and I hate myself. People told me when I was a kid that I was imaginative and bright and creative, but I really think I'm not at all, and I'm boring and dull and not at all intelligent. I made good grades in high school and scored high on standardized tests... but I think only b/c they are 'standardized'. I doubt they test actual smartness. The only people that talk to me (including my parents) only do so b/c they feel obligated not to ignore me, or they feel sorry for me, or they think I'm suicidal and might kill myself. My mom tried to bring to a psychologist but the psychologist didn't like me and kept dissing me. Sometimes I start crying, and my mom tells me that I'm feeling sorry for myself and wallowing in self pity and that I was selfish and there's other people in the world who are starving or have no legs and I should feel lucky. Which just makes me mad, because now I'm not allowed to be sad because there's starving people. Not that I don't think that's awful, but that kind of 'get over it' comparison doesn't really make sense to me. I'm stupid, ignorant, unimaginative, nervous, unable to balance many things at once, not a fun person to be around, not artistic, apparently ungrateful and selfish, I have a short temper, I'm not as accepting or loving as I should be, I can't drive and will probably crash a car at some point. I'm lazy and sloppy and sometimes can't get myself motivated. I can't think up of new things. I'm not good or the kind of person you would want as your friend like other people. I'm not trying to just whine or 'wallow in self pity'... but I had to make it longer to explain... because if I didn't people just say 'you'll be fine' when I'm not going to be. Because I realized I was crying because I really didn't want to die. There are many reasons why I'd want to live... there are a lot of things I'd want to do that aren't 'selfish'... but I just don't see how they can be possible for me.
Why does everyone hate me because of my acne?
Because we are society driven by vanity
Social anxiety: how do i not feel that everyone hates me?
i constantly feel that everyone i know hates me and most people who i dont know thinks im stupid or a loser. i always fear that there is a "kick me" sign on me. not an actual one, but a feeling that there is something very noticeable that i dont know about or i cant see and everyone secretly is laughing at me. im fully well aware that most of these problems are irrational and completely false. i have a lot of friends, most people are nice to me and tell me how great i am and somehow, whenever i meet someone, they automatically think im a nice guy, which i am. but then, i cant separate irrationality with probable cause so the 2 intertwine and i think both are virtually synonymous with each other in some sort of paradoxical loop. i dont know anyone else who has social anxiety or ocd (which i also have and is a type of anxiety disorder) so i doubt many people i know would actually understand what i mean and what i go through everyday. i dont know for a fact, but even when i ask on here, people without either of these dont seem to get it and most of the time tell me not to think about bad things and think positively. of course i have tried it and its really not that easy or else this question wouldnt exist. and on a side note, i dont take any medication for either of them. please no rude answers or comments. and with that said, thanks to all that answer.
Why does everyone hate me for joining the marines?
people dont hate me for joining they think its just a bad idea and dont want me to go. everyone that i have talked to about this thinks im stupid for joining the marines cuz of how this world is going to ****. i wanted to join the military for awhile and about a year ago i wanted to be a marine and have sighed up already. all my friends are going off to collage and im going into the military cuz i want to start my life and i think joining the marines will help me long after my 4 years are up, its a life style and i want to be apart of it. what im really asking is what do you think of someone going off into the marines right now. and if any marines are reading this how do you like being a marine and how did it effect your life.
Can anyone be so ugly that everyone hates him? Then I am so ugly.
Okay! First of all, there's no absolute relation between ugly and hate. It's our own perception of seeing things.Now let me explain how it works. Everytime, when you look into the mirror, you think about how ugly you are, this very thought(which is actually pernicious) resides in your conscious. And next time whenever you look at someone else, you start comparing yourself with him at the very moment, and you observe that people are giving him attention and they love him. Now since this comparison is merely based on looks, you ignore any other quality difference (which is major) you're having with him and you start believing that he's loved by others because of his looks. Due to this belief it's inevitable for you to think that you're ugly and that's why noone loves you, which is not true at all. Let me tell you something, it's not your looks, but your insecurities that makes you ugly. Remember:Now let me tell you a solution. But firstly you have to accept that no solution is going to change the way you think in one day. It will take time, efforts, observations, willingness and patience. So, now what you should start doing first is to start developing positive affirmations about your looks. Start thinking like “I'm not ugly at all. I've got a lot of attractive things.” You need to embrace yourself instead of scolding your looks all the time. Next time you see someone getting attention, observe the way he behaves, his attitude towards others, the way he percieves himself and how he persuades people. Read, read a lot, read articles on attraction, ugliness, insecurities, spirituality. Start meditation, observe your own thoughts at every moment. Self- observation is a very strong weapon for self-improvement. Let the negative thoughts come whenever you're feeling bad, don't stop them, but see them, observe them, observe how they affect you. Some day you'll get used to them and then you'll learn how to tackle them. You have not yet watched this video just go through it:Basic Meditation Session - By Sandeep Maheshwari I How to Meditate for Beginners I HindiWhen you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
Why do I get the vibe that some people think I am stupid?
This happens to me all the time at work. I can really relate to this very much. I even have one co-worker who calls me Ms. Diane using a sing song toddler voice.I am anything but stupid. I figured out two things (which turned into five!) about this:No matter how sweet and nice they look, they have HUGE egos and I mean bigger than Donald Trump egos. This blinds them to others who they instantly for some reason assess as inferior to themselves, which leads me to my second point:If they've assessed you as inferior to themselves they don't bother to get to know you. They act as if they are already familiar with you when in fact it is an illusion on their part. And this leads to….I've decide to make this a point all it's own…more arrogance. Because of their status no one calls them out on their illusions. In fact noone sees them because others are just as blind.If you don't have a personal style as aggressive or as assertive as their own, they mistake it for stupidity . If you are an unassuming person, they take it as stupidity. If you look weaker or unhealthy or lower class….same thing….this all falls under the category of stupid to them. This is all often unconscious of course- they wouldn't have the self awareness to realize what they are doing.Now get this: what they are projecting is really a quality they possess and just don't realize. Look at all the bad judgments they've made in points 1–4: they are truly the stupid ones but their personal defenses stop them from seeing this.I never cared if my posts went viral but this is one message I wish everyone could see because there are people who need to know that it isn't acceptable to treat others as stupid even if the person were stupid. A mentally challenged person lives with courage in this world: this makes them anything but stupid in such a hostile world. They should be treated with the same dignity that we treat others and should be applauded.But the real problem is not in the behavior it is as you say ‘perception’, and what lies behind perception? Attitude. They have the wrong attitude. Do you know how many years of psychotherapy it would take for people like this to change their attitude? It's very ingrained. It's sad.Now that you understand, do the Taylor Swift thing and shake it off. That's what I do. And go out and find people who will accept you as you are, not judge you and give you a chance.Sent from my iPhone