I feel so ugly I have a big huge gap between my teeth and I'm always teased?
Arw sweetie thats horriable. Kids can be so heartless. I know its easier said than done but try not to let it get to you. I rember when i was little i had a gap in my teeth and i was lookin in the mirror feeling ugly, my older brother asked me what was up and i told him. He decided to go get a porno magazine and show me this beautiful girl (with a biiiggg gap in her teeth) and said i was pretty just like her.. but when im older i should keep my cloths on. Haa it made me laugh and i dunno why but i always rember that :S I have NEVER had any kind of work done on my teeth and through my teenage years the gap just seemed to vanish. Hopefull the same will happen to you.
When you came out did you feel like a huge weight was lifted off your shoulders?
I'm still in the closet for the most part, but I'm out to a handful of people that I trust. And each time I came out, I've felt a lot better. My anxiety got smaller, as did my depression. All but one is addressing me by proper pronouns; but that's due to my request since I'm keeping a low profile until I'm ready to completely come out. So yeah, I feel a lot more free and feel less strain and pressure on my back. How I'm going to feel when I'm out to everyone, I can't even imagine.
What does it feel like to be a huge nerd?
I grew up loving nerdy (at the time) stuff; my father was a programmer and I inherited his love for computers. I also loved building airplane models and making little forts in the woods with my one childhood friend. Being sort of a social pariah was difficult in its own right, but being consistently harassed by people made it much worse; I have some bad memories of public school, from 1st to 12th grade. Once, in 5th grade, I was told that the reason I frowned so much (no truth in that) was because smiling required more muscle (also no truth in that) and I was threatened a beating by a group of about a dozen kids. I didn't have the courage to tell my teachers or my principle and I ended up wandering the halls of the school until closing after seeing the group of would-be attackers waiting at the bottom of the hill. From then on, the other kids were merciless. Before beating me in the face on the bus, one kid said he hated me because he 'did'. I didn't even know him beyond seeing him on the bus and around school; I had just been branded a 'nerd' from day dot and, even though I ended up struggling grade-wise to try attain some sort of social popularity, it lasted through my senior year. I look back at all the things I could've done differently. I didn't tell my parents because I felt so much hinged on my grades, and those were slipping because I was trying to fit it. I didn't tell the school because, at the time, I didn't feel like it was the right thing to do. Then I eventually graduated from caring. It took damn long enough but I finally got to a point where I just didn't care.So, to answer your question, for me, being called a 'nerd' was difficult. I was either too young to understand why kids were being so mean to me or I was older and getting a fist in the face.
I am a mess! I feel a huge amount of guilt. I feel that I infect everyone around me with pain.I cause people to leave my life. What should I do?
I feel you friend. I'm sailing in the same ship. I literally give up on people over trivial matters... it's like I try to get rid of them and the harder they try to stay in my life, the harder I push them away. I have lost many a (not very close) friends this way. Only family and a handful who can stick with me, have stayed with me. And I'm only in my mid twenties. I write people off. I avoid them. Sometimes I dont want to meet them for no apparent reason. I fight. Argue. Behave immature. It causes tension. And resolves after they have forgiven me. Esp. my mother. However short-tempered I behave with her, she is back to normal the next day, loving me, caring for me. I try to learn from her. I try to practise patience. Try to remind myself to be patient, to love people. Learning yoga, meditation, writing, thinking about my actions and words, and most importantly apologising after realising my mistake.I read answers on quora on the topic 'psychology of everyday life'. It helps. Calms me down.I try to focus on future and present. Making aims. Focussing on work. Thinking positive and happy thoughts. Cutting out negatives (objects, places, people that make me negative).It's not easy changing, it will take years! And may not even have any substantial results. But we must try.Keep trying. Till the end.
Am I wrong to feel like a huge victim in this situation? Am I wrong to feel abandoned?
A2A Personal disclaimer: I'm a huge baby when I'm sick. That said, there are separate issues. One is your feelings are hurt. Of course they are. I wonder if you could try to put that one on hold for how. Feeling hurt and neglected takes energy and you need your energy to heal. The other issue is that you are responsible for meeting your needs. I mean that in general, because in this particular situation it sounds harsher than I would like. For instance, if you want the garbage to go out at night rather than in the morning, than it's your responsibility to make sure it happens. Because you want it that way. In a relationship, we are still responsible for meeting our own needs, but our partners sometimes choose to help out with that. That volunteerism doesn't make it their responsibility, but a sort of donation or favor. We are still responsible for ourselves. At any point a spouse may need to step back and focus on their own needs more than those of their partner. Right now, your needs are far greater than they would normally be and it is your responsibility to do your best to take care of them. I wonder if it's possible for you to be sleeping downstairs. I wonder about all the work around the house that you mentioned. Does this stuff HAVE to be happening right now? Can it wait till later? You need to rest. You need to recover. Is there any way to be doing a better job of taking care of yourself and not doing more than you need in order to take care of yourself. Once you are doing better physically, it sounds like there are some pretty important things to sort out in your relationship. I sincerely hope this hasn't been offensive. Take care of yourself to the best of your ability then spend some time on the communication. You're going to want to learn gentle ways of explaining how hurt you are.
Why do you feel more hungry the morning after eating a huge meal?
When you overeat, your blood glucose levels spike to very high levels. This in turn signals your pancreas to release more insulin. Insulin has the function of making glucose available to your body. Excessive insulin makes your blood glucose levels crash, signalling to your brain that you need “refueling”. This is why whenever you overeat, not just at night, you are more likely than not going to feel very hungry quicker than if you had eaten only as much as you needed. Chronic overeaters not only grow obese (insulin also has the function of storing fat) but also develop insulin resistance from over generation thereby damaging pancreatic beta cells. This makes them feel almost perpetually hungry, because the body becomes incapable of naturally processing blood glucose to make it available to the body. This state of perpetual insatiety is the hallmark signal of an otherwise “silent” condition, diabetes!
Why do I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders?
So long story short, I told one of my friends that I felt underappreciated and instead of apologozing, she was rude about it. So I stopped talking to her for a few days. Today she sends me this long message about how It's not my fault bc I didn't choose to meet a person like her etc...and it was like a backhanded apology and she asked me to keep her secrets. So I felt bad and I apologized but today she was still ignoring me...So I'm not so sure if she thinks the friendship is over. However, the days that we haven't talked, I've felt like a huge weight has been lifted off. Before, I was always sending her assignments and making sure she was okay, I was baby-ing her. Now, I've just been happier and I don't feel bad about it. I was sad for awhile but not enough to make me depressed. The first friendship I had that ended, I felt so bad. The only thing that's different with her is that we have the same set of friends and she likes trying to get them to talk to her more than me.
I have small boobs and huge! areolas and i feel sooo deformed whats wrong with me?? please answer!!?
You're hung up on the wrong thing. You should be bothered by how superficial your family is if they're worried that you have small breasts. Not a lot of guys I know would be put off by a B cup, always like them myself, and large areolas (is that spelled right? Don't find myself using the word much) don't matter to anybody I've ever met. Stop comparing yourself to other women, enjoy your own body, and find someone to enjoy it with you.
What do big boobs feel like?
A lot of the stereotypical health problems about big boobs don't always happen. I don't have any back problems and my boobs aren't saggy. I usually sleep on my side or my back, never my stomach. But they're two large, soft, nerve-filled pieces of flesh that seem to have been intentionally put on the part of your body where they get in the way the most. They're not quite as sensitive as smaller boobs, but they're a lot easier to get in the way. Mine bump into things and knock stuff over almost every day. Stuff sometimes drops into your cleavage, which is pretty embarrassing. On the other hand, I store stuff in my cleavage all the time. It's like nature's pocket! If I'm wearing an outfit that doesn't have any pockets I'll just slip my wallet and phone into my bra. I call it Victoria's Secret Compartment. They're sort of like decorative ornamentation that makes you more delicate. They make you look more feminine and attractive, but destroy any ability to be physically active. And sports bras are less effective on big boobs. I used to play soccer in middle school, but had to stop after puberty kicked in. Running is out of the question. Even jogging isn't painless. My high school PE teacher let me and another buxom girl sit out of class when we were running laps. A lot of tops look the best with a noticeable curve up there, and if you want to look sexy your work is done for you. But you have to take your chest into account whenever you pick out a top, and often that means making decisions based on your boobs. It's even more complicated for me since I have a fairly flat stomach and thin arms. So tops that would otherwise fit you make your boobs look like they're bursting out, and tops that take your boobs into account look baggy. Showing cleavage is a lot easier--and often unintentional--but tends to look less appropriate. A normal tank top starts to look slutty on someone with a huge rack. Even though they're a bit annoying to have, men absolutely love them. I guess that's why so many women want them. But they stare at them all the time, not just when you're feeling flirty. Seeing my boyfriend's smile when I wear a cute top is heavenly, though getting downward glances from the clerk when I buy groceries is pretty irritating. I have a hard time going out without seeing at least one guy glance toward my chest.