I feel like I'm losing my best friend?
It's been my experience that friendships go through seasons of change. People change, interests change and sometimes friendships drift for periods of time. If you are true friends, you won't lose her, but she might become close to other people. I would try not to be jealous or worry too much. Make an effort to connect with her and when she invites you to go do things with her other friends, just go ahead and go and be yourself and give the others a chance. Sometimes maintaining a friendship takes sacrifice and effort. Only time will tell if the friendship is one that will last, but since you've been friends for so long, I would make an effort to preserve it. Another thing I've found is that in life, sometimes best friends do drift apart so far that you end up going your separate ways, but there is always another best friend right around the corner. I am 40 now and I've had 3 best friends over the years. All of them were long term relationships, but they came to an end (except for current best friend). My first best friend and I have reconnected after about 28 years of being apart. We are no longer best friends but we have a deep affection and respect for each other. Seasons change, people change, it's just a part of the cycle of life. There is nothing to fear. If your current best friend moves on, another will appear and a new chapter of your life will be written. Best Wishes!
I feel like i'm losing my best friend?
I'm a freshman in High school, going into sophomore year. I've lost a lot of friends this year. At first I said "okay" to myself because I know people will come and go out of your life but I've lost so many friends, I only have my best friend. But now, I think i'm losing her too. I feel like she's being pulled into peer pressure and experimenting. She said she wanted to hang out with the people who hate me and go smoking with them. She was also invited to a party by my former friend that I also lost And she was so excited and bragging about it. What i'm trying to say is that, my best friend is turning into someone I don't really know, which is a snobby, self centered, and shady person. And i'm pretty sure i'm gonna lose her soon and idk what to do because If I lose her I will be a loner and that's depressing. What should I do? But it is what it is. I guess it won't matter because it's summer break so I guess I can make friends with the freshmen next year? :(
My friends are assholes and I feel like killing myself. What do I do?
Well. The best option would be to avoid them since they aren’t your friends.But, in case you can’t or don’t want to, here is what to do:EMBRACE THE MEME.Laugh at yourself publicly before they can. Steal all their jokes on you and make it on yourself before they can even try. And when they laugh at you, laugh with them, genuinely. Being the butt of a joke is nothing to feel bad about. In fact you should be glad you made people laugh. Laugh as if you are laughing at a third person. You will see that over time, their jokes will have no effect on you. Hell, they’ll get really pissed off that their scapegoat isn’t grumpy enough to make fun off anymore. Trust me, I’ve tried it. It works.Suppose if they ask you to kill yourself for being a disgrace:Friend: You are such a retard. Why are you even alive? You are a burden on the planet. Just kill yourself! Go die in a ditch somewhere.You: Yeah, I was considering that option. I feel like I should jump from the 10th floor but I’ve heard sleeping pills are much less painful. What do you guys suggest?At this point their could be two kinds of replies:They continue to joke by suggesting you a method for suicideThey back off by saying, “Woah! Dude! You got serious man. We were just kidding”You should reply accordingly:Suggesting different suicide methods with them and laughing along with the jokes that come by.You tell them that you were also kidding, just like themI hope you have got the blueprint of devising witty replies to their jokes.
What is the feeling of losing a best friend?
Love is not painful, but the unfulfilled expectations when you become too much attached and the pain that it creates is sometimes unbearable. It is painful especially if your feelings are genuine and you love her to the truest of your senses.It kills you everyday to realize that she isn’t with you anymore. But the thing about love is, it is always unconditional. You love her because you want to, not because you want her to love you back. That's what love is all about. Just be true to your feelings and carry on with your life.Getting over someone you love truly is an extremely difficult task. Someday your heart will learn to live with it. It may not completely move on, but it will try to heal and live with it. The problem is to just silence the mind.I lost her not because I cared less, but because I still love her way too much.I lost her because my love strangled her.I cut myself off from her life because I couldn’t see her sad/guilty.I moved away because I still love her when she doesn’t have any feelings.I regret ending the friendship, but if that is what makes her happy, then I am happy to give that to her.
How to not feel stuck in my best friend's shadow?
I am going through this same situation as well. My "best friend" is extremely social and friendly and I am a lot more shy than her. I was scared I would always be living in her shadow so I branched out and tried to make some other fiends. She has more "popular" friends now, but were seen less as a pair. I am still friends with her, but just not as close (for my own sake). I also found that distancing myself made her miss spending time with me a little. If you need help you can send me a message
Why do I feel like distancing myself from my best friend when she’s done nothing wrong?
I’m answering this anonymously because I’ve gone through this so many times with many people in my life, particularly my high school (and current) best friend and she follows me on Quora and has no idea I felt this way.Unfortunately, I am someone who pushes people away and it’s very random and it’s hard for me to control because all I want is that person out of my life without any explanation.Now what I do is I write a list of all of the wonderful things I think about that person and how they’ve improved my life.In 10th grade I suddenly had the urge to distance myself from my best friend and keep her out of my life. I didn’t know why I felt like that at all. She was nothing but nice to me, we had never fought (we have had only one fight up to this day and she’s been my best friend for over 7 years now).My advice to you is to not distance yourself. Unless she is someone who treats you badly and puts you down, I don’t see why you should go through with it. Think of all the good times you had together and remind yourself that you both deserve each other.If I would have gone through with it, I would have lost one of the most important people in my life and I wouldn’t have had the life experiences I have today.I hope this helps, take care.
I fell in love with my friend, but she doesn't feel the same way. She wants me in her life but being there as just her friend hurts too much. I’ve tried distancing myself, but we both miss each other. What can I do?
Hi.I can tell you what to do because I'm in exactly the same condition.LITERALLY.So what I did.I took a day and explained my complete mental state to her and told her that I need her more than a relationship.I explained to her what she means to me.I told her that my feelings are on one hand and they can never come between me and her because she was scared to lose me as a friend.I try to distant myself, it hurts even more.I have learned to live with it now, you know why?Because, if I am honest with her about my feelings and If I am strong enough to stay focused in my own life even after being in love with her and still not being WITH her, only then she'll see me as someone worthy enough.Maybe she never accepts you as anything more as a friend, but you won't regret not trying.Just tell her once and if she tells you NO, back off.. stay normal and be a good and supportive gentleman.I joined the gym now, I train myself hard there and leave it all there.. Life goes on right?I'm waiting for her even now and a lot more.Hope for the best.
I feel like I'm am trapped in the shadow of my best friend?
Okay so me and my best friend have been friends for years, like basically my whole life and we've always been see as a pair if that makes sense and now I feel like everyone prefers her and I'm just the outcast that very one has to be friends with because I'm her best friend. First of all she is amazing at everything like she is really clever and always gets better grades than me, making me feel really **** basically, she's really pretty aswell ( long hair, beautiful, great body and personality) and she is really popular aswell as it seems she can talk to everyone. I always feel so low when I am around her in school because everyone says hi to her and not me and I constantly feel like I'm living in her shadow and I can't take it anymore. How do i feel better about myself and stop constancy comparing myself with her?