My Friend is taking advantage of me?
I have this friend Fiona. She's nice, but she asks for a lot of stuff. At lunch she will always ask to use my phone, so she can play on it. I felt bad because she didn't have one. But when lunch is over she takes forever to give it back, and sometimes I'm almost late to classes. One time we had PE together and I told her she couldn't use it then because the teachers would take it away. She said okay, and everything seemed fine until I heard a buzz coming from her pocket. That moment I was shocked and said "You brought the phone didn't you". She stuttered "I-I could of sworn I left it in the bag." She apologized but still she was going to use it behind my back. Also she will always ask for money (other people too). You can never be seen with money around her because she will ask in a baby voice "can I have a dollar?" One time my friend thought Fiona wasn't at school so she bought candy from the snack machine and once she turned around Fiona was there and said "You had a dollar?" And If she isn't begging for money she is asking me to buy her stuff all the time. One time I put my foot down and told her I couldn't buy her stuff everyday cause I need stuff for me. Recently she asked me twice for something after knowing I can't buy things all the time. I was thinking about ending this friendship, however I can't because I ended a friendship before and I didn't just lose that friend I lost of other friends because of that. Also she won't have anyone to sit with at lunch. Help me!
How do I stop my friends from taking advantage of me?
People will only take advantage of you if you allow it to. People by nature have needs and requirements and wants, and they look out for these to be met within their social circle,. Whether they consciously or unconsciously try to meet that need, want, etc or not is not important.There is only one way for you to control how much you really want to give to your friends and to stop you from being roped into things that you don't really want to do. It's using a word, which is a very powerful word. That word is “no”.Many people have a problem saying “no”, but don't think of the word “no” as just a negative. Think of it as a fence with gate around your property. Imagine if nobody had fences and all your neighboring properties were completely open, one piece of land shared by everyone. Who would make use of the most land? It would be the people who may be more demanding, ask for it frequently or even those who just take it without asking. Question: Can you blame the others for taking “your” property when there is no fence?So when you use the word “no”, you are merely putting up that fence and tell people that this is your property.Now, another aspect to this fence setting is that you also create a gate. What is that gate? That gate is when you allow people inside your property, and you do that voluntarily. That is when you say “yes” to any of your friends wants, needs, requests and requirements. Isn't that truly beautiful and encompasses the spirit of giving and not being taken advantage of? However, unless the fence demarcation is clear to your friends,ie they know how far they can go because otherwise you will say “no”, your “yes” is pretty meaningless.In other words, if you always say “yes” even begrudgingly, you will always be taken advantage of. It's your “no” that prevents abuse by your friends and allows your “yes” to be truly from your heart.Benefits: You will attract the right kind of friends that you will enjoy and who respect you, and you enjoy an inner self respect.Be aware that as you start saying “no”, some of your more demanding and property hopping “friends” might leave you because they can't accept the new you. Their nature (and usually they are not conscious of it) is to have “friends” without fences where they can freely have their needs & wants met.Try it!
Is my best friend taking advantage of me?
I don't know how you can call this girl your "best friend" because she treats you like dirt! Let me tell you how that whole shopping trip would have turned out if you were MY friend. First of all, I would never have decided to buy something that you liked but couldn't afford. I would have offered to buy it for you and let you pay me back later. I would never just say "too bad" if you were upset. This girl does NOT respect you, she's using you. She tries on your clothes without you permission?? Talk about rude! The problem is, though, if you don't say anything, it is as good as giving your permission. She buys things you like in order to make you jealous, and to make you feel bad. She is a terrible person, and she's not acting like a friend to you at all. To say you're a doormat is kinda rude, so I'll just say that you're letting her take advantage of you over and over again. The only way for you to change that is to stand up for yourself. First, never ever go shopping with this girl. EVER. She is bad for your self esteem. She looks for ways to make you feel bad. I wouldn't invite her over to your house, either, if she's going to start rummaging through your clothes. If she does come over, you need to stand up for yourself and let her know that you don't appreciate her trying on your clothes. Maybe when she visits you should stay in the living room or the back yard... stay out of your room to avoid the temptation of letting her try on your stuff. You need to create boundaries for her, so she can't take advantage of you. Honestly, I don't think you should be her friend at all, but I'm not going to tell you who to be friends with. You just need to respect yourself enough to not let her take advantage of you. You have a great heart, and you deserve to have friends that respect you for the wonderful person that you are. I wish you luck, and I hope you see what a great person you are. God bless you.
How do I stop helping my friend who takes advantage of me?
This is the biggest problem in my life most of my friends use me, they only call me meet me or message me only when they need help from me when they need money or they want me to their work.So what i do is i just ignoreWhen they message me i reply after 5–6 hours.When they call me i usually text them i am Busy i will call you later.When they come to my house i say i am going out with my little sister or my mother.This might help youBut remember that always talk to thrm after the incident and ask them what they wanted so they think you wanted to help them.
I feel like my crush is taking advantage of my love?
Hi, Lately, I've been talking to this girl who i find beautiful. The problem is that she might be taking advantage of the things i do for her. I take her out to eat, movies, etc. I always say yes when she needs something like for example a ride to school. I became a real close best friend according to her :) Suddenly she uploaded a picture of her kissing her ex boyfriend.and i felt heart broken. I've done so much for her to see that picture. I really want to get over her, but i can't! Any suggestions or motivation will help a lot! Thank you in advance.
How do I deal with people taking advantage of my boyfriend?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. We're about 9 years different in age. He's 25 and lacks a lot of life experience. He doesn't have a formal job, but it finishing his "GED" equivalent right now. He's a very talented singer and works out a lot. There are two things which are driving me crazy.. The first one is that he's part of a band. They have on solid gig and originally when the band started they were to split the money they made. The one gig is sometimes late paying. After almost 3 months without payment from the gig (and pressure from me) he started to get aggressive with them. He found out that they are making a lot more and are lying to him. He was making $50 a show and they were making like $400 (two other guys and one girl). Instead of telling them where to stick it.. he just asked that they pay him weekly and let all the other crap go... obviously they are taking advantage of him.. The other thing is thing is that he was asked to do modeling shots with a photographer here where we live. He didn't get paid for the work, but got photos for a portfolio. He signed away his rights to the photos. The photographer has done several different sessions of him and he's not received any compensation. Recently, I had a friend call the guy and pretend to be interested in contacting my boyfriend--to see what would happen. The photographer just told my boyfriend that someone contacted him, but didn't pass along the information--because the guy didn't offer money. My friend says that he asked for my boyfriend's info and gave his info to him to pass along. The photographer asked my boyfriend to "let him know" if he planned to let anyone take photos of him. Both of these things are making me crazy, because my boyfriend can't see that he is getting screwed. I don't know what I can do and handle watching these people take advantage of him. I am not sure how to get through to him. I love him a lot, but his "common sense" gene obviously wasn't activated when he was born. What do I do?
I feel like I am taking advantage of people. What should I do?
FIRST OF ALL....!!....take d crap out that you r being advantageous over ur friend and taking her for granted.....obviously u r not.....i mean had i been ur friend i wud have selflessly rendered help ......n wud hav love to do it.....afterall u r my friend...!!Friendship does not require reasons or conditions to help , love , share or care...Thinking that u had not been in touch wid ur friend this entire break ....doesnt effect ur friendship....its perfectly okkayy.....becuz see...even breaks r meant for "ME TIME" not for friends....n moreover u must have been busy wid ur exam preparation...just like evryone including ur friend......So all u need is to muster courage and confront ur friend over this matter.....DONOT BE HESITANT TO ASKAnd yes do remember....A friend in need is a friend indeed......:)
It seems like my friends take advantage of me
I moved to where I live now about 4 years ago, the summer before 7th grade. I didn't have a hard time finding friends because luckily one of my current friends lived on my street and he introduced me to everyone. Everything was fine all through freshman year. They treated me like anyone else, with the normal teasing and regular things friends do. But I noticed that, for about the last year or so, these same people are treating me a lot worse than they treat their other friends. They take teasing to another level. If I mess up saying something and it comes out wrong, they feel the need to laugh in my face and make everyone in the room know that I said it. I'm a pretty shy person most of the time but most of my friends are very loud and confident. It's hard for me to be loud in crowded areas, I don't like to do stupid immature acts in public and my friends have no problem doing them. For this reason, my friends have said, and I quote: "Why are you so embarrased to live? Grow up." I'm definitely not embarrased to live. How can they tell me to grow up if I act so much more mature than they do? I'm also not a particularly big person. I'm about 5'7" and I weigh 140. All of my friends are over 5'10" and they take advantage of this. They regularly hit me in the arm knowing there's no way I'll be able to fight back. I know friends hit each other for fun, but this is beyond that. I don't speak up for myself very often, but whenever I do say that they need to stop hitting me or making fun of me, they laugh and keep doing it. I'm also usually laughing along with them to kind of hide the fact that their really pissing me off. I have so much anger bottled up I feel like it's getting to point that's dangerous. It is very hard for me to make new friends because I'm pretty shy and I'm not as loud and confident as most people so it'll be very hard to just make new friends. Please help.