I don't feel sad about this person's death, is it bad?
You are absolutely not evil, you are refreshingly honest. There is a tendancy now for everyone to try and find a way to get involved in what is actually someone elses tragedy. Life isn;t a soap opera, but people act like it is. They want to go to sites of accidents and lay flowers, JUST to feel part of it.. they hardly know the person involved, but get some kind of kick out of being there. Have you noticed how people clamour to relate how they were 'the last person to speak to her', or 'she used to sit next to me in school' etc etc. I witnessed a group of school girls giggling and taking photos of each other at the site of where a little boy has been run over and killed a few days before. I was working in a hotel where there was a buffet after a funeral of a school boy who had died from a brain haemorrhage and it was obscene. Teenagers acting like it was a party. Hannah raises the point of the parents who have lost a child, and thats my point. those poor people have lost their whole life, and people who hardly know nor really care about them are using the occasion to play drama. I applaud your honesty, and do not feel bad or apologise for it.
I feel horribly depressed at night but fine in the day?
I'm a high-school student on medication for depression. At school, I generally feel fine, I mean, there are every day ups and downs but it's not like horrible "blame self for everything" depression. At night, its all different and I feel miserable and angry and sad. I am also in a long distance relationship which makes the situation a lot worse. I can hardly sleep! I have no one to talk to at night and even if I did -- how would I explain the depression? It's just pointless sadness which I can't help. During the day, I always say to myself "it would never be worth the trouble of getting my parents to take me to the doctor, because I'm happy now anyways." How do I cope...? Has anyone had a similar experience?
What should I do if I am very sad and it feels like life is over for me?
I can give you a long and boring speech that I probably won't get right and you probably won't listen to. Because I don't know you. I am not in a position to fully empathize with your situation. But I can and do empathize with the pain you're feeling.I remember the periods of my depression. I remember not being able to get out of bed. I needed people to talk to. But I wished that someone would stop with the holier than thou, self righteous bullshit. I wished people would stop judging me. So I'm going to tell you three things I wish someone told me. Start seeing a therapist. Find yourself a good psychotherapist. That was the turning point for me. I went to see someone after I had hit rock-bottom. Now I wish I had gone to see her sooner. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going and still do are my sessions of therapy. There's a way out that you're not seeing. If you find the right person she will you find a way out. Start documenting things. Depression is the enemy. Know your enemy better. Document your feelings of low and try to analyze what's triggering them. Basically, document your thoughts in a journal. Write down two things you're thankful for everyday. No matter how much you think your life sucks there's always things you're thankful for. I thought my life sucked. But when I forced myself to think of things I have that I couldn't do without and you'll be surprised how many I found. That can be things that are elemental like food or sustenance money. Or things which are abstract or momentary. Document these things. It's a long way to go. And these are just the starting points. Get help, and you can turn this around. Another thing, do not be in denial. I was in a state of denial for a long time. I don't need help. I'm fine! No you're not. And you shouldn't have to go through this alone.
Why do I feel so sad when I get feelings for someone?
Because you already know what is going to happen next. You have imagined it in your head for million times, played it over and over again. You know exactly how things will end, who is going to say what? How the disappointment, hurt and sadness is going to pierce its way into your heart after they leave. How the feeling of loneliness and separation is going to haunt you. You are sure things will turn out the way you have imagined because there is no other way around. No matter how much you try, how much you drain yourself, how much efforts you put into it, they are going to leave in the end. After all, everyone does.And how do I know this?Because I have been the exact same person before. Like you. The feeling of emotional attachment to others and the thought of them leaving, in the end, haunted me, saddened me, terrified me. I always kept my heart safe. I talked a lot with a lot of people but made sure I never happen to like them. I made sure I am never on that path of falling and breaking my heart. I kept myself closed, locking myself from feeling things that were eventually going to happen.And one day I actually liked someone. I didn’t even know how he managed his way in. It was just so sudden. I didn’t realize when I started liking him. And after the realization hit me, I was scared. I was not ready to accept it. I kept myself devoid of that reality. But the more I tried to suppress it inside, the more my feelings got intensified. And the sadder I got.So what was the point? I realized that protecting myself from feelings isn’t making me better. I am making myself suffer more. I am keeping myself away from happiness because it's not permanent but I forgot the fact that it was never meant to be permanent. I gave someone a chance and accepted my feelings. I can’t tell you even this is a good idea or if this is going to end well, but I can assure you that I feel much better than before. Trusting someone with your emotions is a huge risk but that risk is worth the beautiful warm dizzy feeling you feel inside.Many people will tell you that it might be because of lack of self-esteem, insecurity, lack of self-confidence but it's not. You just lack courage in taking risks. You need a little push and a patient-heart. I am glad someone saved me from missing something very beautiful in life and I wish someone save you too.
Why do I suddenly feel so sad without any reason? I suddenly broke into tears and couldn’t stop crying. Is there any reason?
Before you diagnose yourself with something mental, pay attention to your sleep habits and your diet.There have been many times in the past year alone where I suddenly started feeling depressed and sad.I had no reason to be, it just came out of nowhere.Last time it happened, before I let myself fall into despair, I stared at the 24oz. of Pepsi I had just guzzled down at 8 in the morning, and the hot cup of coffee I had right after that.“Did I eat breakfast today?” I asked myself. “Nope!”So I slammed a bunch of chemicals into my body on an empty stomach and they shot straight to my brain.From there, I walked myself through it. “Okay. I feel incredibly deep in despair. I feel like I want to cry. I feel too weak to continue work. BUT I know that this is not a mental thing, it’s a physical thing, so I’m going to push through it. And I’m going to make sure I don’t drink that much caffeine at once anymore.”Last year I was EXTREMELY depressed. I was worried over money, my job, my bills, and my car breaking down. On and on!But I also realized that I had been staying up until 4–5am, only getting about 4 hours of sleep, and again, not having a very good diet.And I constantly had a damned screen in front of my face, mindlessly scrolling through politics and religion. That surely doesn’t help!In short, it’s not always, “You’re depressed, you need meds!” It can often (and I believe, more often than not) be our diet, both in what we feed our body and our mind.Before you go searching for internal reasons (there’s a bottomless pit of self-diagnosis in your head!), search for external thing.The reason this is important is because as soon as people determine it is something internal, they start to feel a lot more helpless and victimized by it–”It’s part of me.”That can lead to actual depression because now you feel trapped, stuck with something that hurts you.But if you figure out that it’s just a shitty choice you made for breakfast, it’s a whole lot easier to walk yourself through it and see the light on the other side, and you know it can be fixed and prevented in the future, so you don’t take it as hard.
Why do I feel sad over someone else's pain?
If you like someone seeing them in pain is painful to you as well because you don't want them to have that pain. It's your brain telling you to act so as to improve the situation of the other person, so that you in turn are happier. Often this emotion misfires, though, and isn't accurately keeping track of what you consciously think is good and bad and what is solvable and what is chronic.
Why do I feel so sad when I see a tree being cut down?
I live in the city and for me, there just aren't enough trees. I chose a block with trees on it to live on because I think they're beautiful. A neighbor who has one of the trees in front of his house hates trees. The irony is that he plans on moving to his other house soon which is in the country...of course, with lots of trees. He must have called up the city and complained about the tree so now they're out there cutting the whole thing down. The jerk isn't even staying in the city for long. If he hates trees so much than why does he have a house out in the country. I can't afford to live in the country or the suburbs and I resent him for making them cut the tree down. I feel like I shouldn't be this upset about a tree being cut down. Do you think I'm what they would call a tree hugger? Lol. I have a cement back yard that I put tons of plants in and it looks like a mini forest...my oasis. Anyway...do you think it's strange that it upsets me that a tree is being cut down...for no reason...no telephone wires or anything like that...just because this idiot complained to the city about it?
How do you feel about the VT killer seung hui cho?
I think he was tired of being pushed around. he was a social outcast and had many issues in his life. I am so sad that so many lives were lost and thousands more put in danger. i think it is a terrible tradgedy. Cho even said that the kids who attacked columbine were his martyrs. How sad that people feel the need from melancholy thoughts to take others lives.