My Best Friend is making me feel unwanted...?
Please help me! I'm really confused! Jess and i have been friends for years and years and are so close! But recently she has been acting differently around me...When i speak to her about my feelings it just seems to brush over her shoulder as she doesn't care. And she always seems to be with this other girl called Sophie. And when ever me and Jess make arrangements she'll NEVER change her facebook status to 'Going to town with Emma' but she'll always change it to 'Going to town with Sophie'.. It sort of makes me jelous which i know is bad, but i can't help it! And when Jess is around other people esspecially the boys she'll just pretend i'm not there. But if i say anything about how she makes me feel like sh*t to her Jess will just say that 'Of course i'm your bestieee!' when i obviosly am not.... Please tell me how to sort this out! Thankkkyouu<3
How do you deal with the feeling of being unwanted by your friends?
Feelings stemming out of a sense being unwanted is heartbreaking.Whether it is my friends or my family or any other circle of people that I identify myself with, I would want to feel like my presence there is wanted and appreciated. It is a natural human tendency - to want to belong.The actual feeling I feel when I sense that I'm unwanted or not valued by someone I care about is that of deep sadness.It is the kind of sadness that grips my body, contorts my chest into knots, make my breath shallow, turns me hard like a stone. It is painful, at the least.I do not want to experience something like this, but if that is the experience I'm going through, I'm not going to run away from it.Instead, I'm going to be present to it.What is this feeling? Where in my body do I feel it? What is the physical sensation exactly?What associated thoughts are triggered in me when I feel this feeling?Am I able to shut down my mental chatter and instead simply focus on my emotional, physical experience with compassion?Am I mixing different experiences and projecting them on to this particular experience?The sadness I'm feeling, is it a baggage I'm carrying from the past or is it stemming from this very particular experience?There is so much to explore, so much to learn about myself. My hurts and scars, and the way I seek resolution say a lot about who I am. I would like to get to know myself. Because that will help me deal with my struggles in better, healing sort of ways.And while I feel with all these feelings, I will keep a distance from those people who do not seem to want me or value my presence in their lives.Because, I've no time or energy to spend on people who do not value me. Because I am extremely valuable to me, because even if they may not want me, I still want me.And I'm sure, there's someone else who will value me for my virtues and embrace my vices, because they enjoy having me in their lives. This world is full of people. I'm bound to meet someone who appreciates my presence.But for now, it's time to be there for me.
Why do I feel unwanted even with my closest friends?
Keep looking, Eventually you will find one that you can really connect with. In the mean time, just think this thing with your so called friend as a practice to hone your people skills. In the future, more often than not we will be forced to socialize and communicate with other regardless we like them or not (co worker, neighbourhood, clients etc) to create favourable environment and ensure our well beings.
Why do I feel unwanted when I’m with my friends?
If they are really happy without yu then sorry dear ,they are not your friends actually, they are attached with yu only for some beneficial reasons.I know it feels quite embarassing that you gave so much value n attention to them as being a friend and they r behaving weird with yu.But everything happens for a reason. Firstly you have to analyse what’s the reason behind this. For this you have to check within you that is there anything strange in your behaviour due to that they are doing so. If yu find it then improve it otherwise you dont have to worry about that.Don’t be sad about it, detach yourself from them. Do other things that gives yu pleasure , explore your intrests that makes you happy like playing pool, going to gym , reading books and with this keep focussing on your studies as well.Never feel upset that yu are underestimated or rejected by your friends or someone or they don’t realise your worth.If they talks to yu and asks for a favour or something then don’t be rude with them, just simply tell them that yu are busy nowadays or yu are not intrested in that thing.Sometimes learn to say “NO” to your friends, don’t making yourself available to them always.This will make them feel that for you ,they are not priority and soon they realise your true worth.Always be happy in yu and with whatever yu have. Help people if yu can do if they are genuinely in need but dont expect the same in return . As Expectations leads to dissatisfaction. Dissatisfaction leads to Sadness.Learn lessons from life , Life is the best teacher if one is eager to learn from it and adapt its teachings.P.c - MalesLife/InstagramKeep believe in Karma.ALWAYS BE POSITIVE N KEEP SMILING .:)
How can I feel less unwanted?
Well I'm 15 and lately I feel like as if my friends don't care about me anymore. They don't talk to me as much and leave me out of certain things, even my best friend. I tried making other friends but they are doing the same thing I stay home everyday even on the weekends. This made me have a very low self-esteem and it really sucks. I thought maybe its the things I like and they don't like it but that's not really the case so I hope. I'm a really nice person and sometimes can be a bit shy around people I don't know but I feel so unwanted lately by every one even my own family. Can any one help?
Feeling unwanted/left out in my circle of friends:/?
I like u.(ik random)I want to curse Taylor out so bad.u need. To leave her and her circle of friends.esp.zoey cause u deserve soooooo much better.do not ever allow someone to treat u that way.that is beyond rude and disrespectful.that littl joke they think their playing is no joke if u aren't laughing and it hurts ur feelings.just cause zoey came along doesn't mean she has to exclude u.real friends don't do that.if I ever saw this Taylor chick I would punch her I the face for u.dont continue to make excuses for her just leave.because u deserve do much better than to put up with their crap
Why do I feel so odd and unwanted around my closest friends?
Oh wow! And here was me thinking I’m the only one who feels so out of place amongst not just my friends, but, quite often, my family too! Like they have other things to do which are more important than me. I felt like this before I got married, and when my husband was alive and with me, I NEVER felt like this because he made me feel that I was the centre of his world. After he died that feeling came back with a vengeance. I always act as if I am A-OK, full of beans, funny, cheerful, etc… but that loneliness inside is always there. I mask that loneliness well 99% of the time. The other 1%… well, let’s not go there.
I feel unloved and unwanted?
I don't know if this would help but i'm Male and 17 I have friends, i have great parents but i still feel so alone and depressed in this world i don't feel like people care about me or even want me to be around, no one has ever asked if i was okay and if i try to talk to someone they try to avoid me, i question if my life is even worth it i mean i like myself as a person i like the way i am but i don't like the pain i feel everyday and the question i just have is, what should i do? iv tried a psychiaist but that doesn't work, and if you have been through this, how did you fix it?
I feel unwanted and un-included in my group of friends?
join some clubs, go to a gym, start taking care of yourself(look wise and clothes wise) trust me there is always something you can improve on, and that's how you will get new friends (and hopefully popular ones that you will have a good time with) . Because when they see you doing better without them, thats when they want you back. -good luck!