How do I convince my boyfriend to keep convincing his parents for our inter-caste marriage?
Who else can better understand than someone in exact situation . Yes , I am in the same situation months before and still in. We've been in a relationship for 2 years when we had everything perfect towards each other. Being an Indian girl I guess you can understand the pain of postponing marriage with silly reasons for 2 years. And when it comes to the BIG day of revealing the parents and start convincing them he said his parents are completely against and they might give up their lives if he does chose me. I was dumbstruck , like it wasn't a major discussion or fight he had told them( or he didn't at all!!) once and this heartening answer came from him . On my side I have told my parents and with lot of pain I convinced them to at least meet him. And then he said when we don't have any future whats the point in meeting them. Please move on in life. Dont make me feel guilty , am sorry and etc etc. So what I finally understood was if a boy has commitment and wants to get you in his life, he will do it no matter what. If he doesn't show any efforts my dear sister its high time to make a move. In my case he moved abroad and sometimes whatsapps me saying Happy Independence day and Happy Diwali !! And he doesn't want to talk on the same topic because he made up his mind and there will be no change. I know I dont have any reasons to keep hope and wait . But still my heart silently aches for him . Sorry for my story.. All I want to say is when he failed in convincing he failed in love. So better understand the fact quickly and move ahead in life. If you both decided for yourselves and moved out , I'd very happy for you. But if he still have the same mindset please double think. Once you start balancing your life without him , you will know youre worth of more better things.
How can I respond if someone says happy to see you after long time?
Very simply: “Happy to see you, too. I hope everything's going very well with you.”Then try to make conversation by asking some questions about their life, fortunes, work, etc. to discover what has happened to them during the long absence. If you have forgotten their name, or you really don’t remember them, don’t pretend about it. You could say something like: “Sorry about this, but as it is such a long time since I last saw you, and I don't want to confuse you with someone else, could you remind me of your name? Thanks.”That should stop you looking vacant, and ensure that you are honest with them, instead of bluffing your way through.Friendships will always come and go, often with long breaks. The best way to recall them is to be yourself, keep it simple, show an interest in the other person, and continue on your way.
How can I be happy alone?
I consider myself expert in the art of loneliness. Let me tell you, it did not come easily to me; this skill did not come without a fight.As a child I was vivacious, loud and social. My habit of incessantly talking was a running joke among all who knew me. I rarely spent time alone. In fact, if I was doing an activity that required stillness and concentration such as reading, I would purposefully seek out people to fill the space in my loneliness.Even if we didn't talk, I longed to be in the presence of another. I was made that way.As the years went by, I was soon forced to change. Because of a series of unfortunate events, my increasingly vast health problems confined me to my bed. Once I adjusted, I spent a little less time supine and unmoving, but for three years I was still consistently alone. Unable to drive, play sports, get a job, attend college. Barely able to take care of myself.I spent a lot of time reading, writing and watching various films. I let myself get caught up in the beauty of silence. I taught my mind to run wild and to be consumed with ideas and knowledge.Instead of constant chatter and meaningless social interactions, I filled myself up with silence and I embraced the isolation.It took a very long time. Many of my days were consumed with misery. My face became a blank, unfeeling canvas, painted by strokes of stale tears.Sometimes I cried. Sometimes I stared into the distance and felt nothing but total emptiness. I longed for distraction and adventure and childish fun.My physical pain was of course a part of my struggle, but I truly believe isolation was one of the hardest battles in my life. It takes practice. It takes time. It requires acceptance. It isn't always easy.However, it is perhaps the most life changing skill you could ever learn. If you fill yourself up with silence, you can overflow with understanding. Understanding of life. Of death. Of real happiness.If you can listen to your demons and create your own angels, you can find a new place deep inside yourself that would have remained invisible.If you can open your arms to loneliness and endure it when it is unkind, you can live your life with a broadened perspective and a free mind.