I am depressed because I don't have children, do you have any advice?
Remember, the urge or need to have children is programmed in us- to propagate the species, not give us happiness. What I mean is, it is a false hope that marriage or having children will bring us happiness. It might bring us some moments of joy, but it also brings us many moments of misery and sadness, like anything else.When I was in my 20’s, I had this urge to get married and have children. It was all I could think about. I had to do it before I was 30. I can’t explain how innate these urges were. it wasn’t logical, it was something I felt I was meant to do. Years later, I realized that this was just hormones controlling me to propagate the species. My hormones were programmed to make me feel this way.In my 30��s and 40’s, these feelings slowly dissipated- so I can tell you that if this truly is the cause of your depression, you won’t always feel this way. It’s just your hormones pushing you to procreate. Once you turn 35, it will be over and you’ll feel better.Also, I’ve been married and had children, and both of those things give a person goals and reasons to live for a time; then all of the problems, challenges and tragedies just take a toll on your mental and physical health. Try to enjoy life knowing that your won’t have all of this added heartache and strain. Enjoy other people’s kids and volunteer to work with children at church or in schools. There are many children who need someone to talk to and pay attention to them. You are that special person that can make a difference in a neglected child’s life. Maybe this is the special purpose that the universe was saving you for.
I'm depressed because I have a crush on an escort who won't see me again?
...I'm almost 21 and have never had a gf, or any kind of romantic contact with any girl, and I'm very shy to talk to them. I'm almost ready to give up all hope :( ... Hey buddy, There is absolutely no reason to be shy. Remember that you don't need to prove anything to anyone. You don't need to be someone else to make other people love you. You just need to be who you are, nothing more. And I suggest you to stop trying to "find happiness" in escorts. It will only harm you because it is based on $$. Keep that in mind, if you want someone to love you, first you need to love yourself. Be confident, be yourself and never give up hope. Good Luck!
My Girlfriend is depressed about her Birthday and won't get out of bed. What should I do?
She's been in bed all day depressed because its her birthday. She won't eat or get out of bed. She even said she wanted to kill herself. She doesn't want it to be celebrated and she doesn't want anyone to know about her birthday or how old she actually is. Truth is she actually isn't old at all. But she's EXTREMELY vain and seriously has like a mental complex regarding aging. And she's only in her 20s, I'm afraid she'll literally shoot herself in the head once she gets to 30. What should I do? Should I still try to take her out for dinner?
My Girlfriend is depressed about her Birthday and won't get out of bed. What should I do?
oh boy I feel for you but for now, let her wollow in her depression bring her her fav snacks and an awesome present,she has to work this out herself but kind words will help, hopefully she will get over this I know at 28 I went through a deep depression about not being young anymore but in my thirties I became the most comfortable with myself and had the most self esteem ever, it's strang at that age most women find themselves and after years of worry suddenly think they're fabulous. But be forwarned in my now forties I'm not feeling that same confidence as age is really starting to show, my husband and others tell me I look way younger but I know what I see in the mirror. So if she gets over this just prepare for forties.
I'm depressed but my parents don't believe me?
From my own experience, all I can tell you is..you do need help, it is out there and if you can not get it from your parents right now, then go to another adult,(family member or friends parent, teacher, or your doctor) There are also 800 numbers you can call for help. If you can not get your parents to grasp the fact that you need help, then start with one of the other I have listed and I promise your parents will come to realize your pain.