How 2 stick up for myself?
If they say something smart turn it into a joke, always make fun of the situation and make it light-hearted. This will show them it doesn't bother you. Because although someone else said say something back, if you've never done that before you will find it very difficult to instantly think up something on the spot. Also, it could make you seem really defensive and only give them more reasons to say stuff like that. When they say something smart, if you reply back rudely it gives them the opportunity to say "Wow, I was only kidding, relax :s" and stuff like that. If they do say that you can always say, "Well, it hurts my feelings, so stop." To be honest, you've gotta roll with it. Alternatively just avoid these people and you won't be put into a situation.
How do i stand up for myself?
im in 8th grade, gonna be 14 in two weeks, and i am SICK of being bullied and teased and what not by my so called friends. honestly i would rather live in the woods for the rest of my life and see no one ever and be happier. im short, so i get teased by my height. and my voice gets high pitched as well when i get confused and ppl make fun of me. even my friends. we just had a bully assembly yesterday at my school and they said that if someone gets bullied go tell an adult, but i don't want to be called a snitch cuz the bullying will keep happening. im also smart so i get made from from that. and im a girl btw. i want to stand up for myself without any fighting, been down that road- not fun. i honestly don't know what other reasons ppl make fun of me for. my friends will say that im a freak and etc. (being serious). even if im just eating my lunch quietly. it bugs the crap out of me. and i don't swear. I HATE IT. PLZ HELP ME. thank you (: i do have a good friend that said he'd stand up for me if im made fun of but i don't want to drag him in this stuff. thank you. like for instance im very gullible and im now paranoid because my "friends" said that i live in a crazy house filled with actors (i have a strong and strange imagination) and they all were making fun of me cuz im paranoid. i started ignoring them. help? thanks :D
I can't stand up for myself?
I try and be kind to everyone, I want everyone to like me but people just seem to throw it back in my face. I can't trust anyone. Someone is nasty to me, so I just forget it at the time and ignore them. But now it's happening on a daily basis and is really wearing down at me, I feel like utter ****. Then I get all worked up when I get home from school and think of things I should have said and done. How I should have stood up for myself. How can I get this anger for when it actually happens? How do I stop people from walking all over me? What to do about bitchy friends? How can I stand up for myself?
Why can't I stand up for myself ?
Maybe you just need to be the way you are. have you thought about that? If most people would pay not attention or the way you do, think of the consequences of their reactions in response to minor incidents things would not escalade to fights, or to have enemies. It is not being a coward it is being more mature and contemplative. To react without thinking of the consequences is responding with instinct rather than reasoned. When you say " I think of consequences. I think of the results of things and how those results affect me later on" This tells me that you are a well balance person and knows what is important and what is not. On the other hand if people started bothering you all the time then you would have to talk to some adult at the school (or at home) and explain the situation. They would take care of the problem as they have been instructed to do so. Good luck!
Should I go along with it or stand up for myself?
I go along with it just do what he said and fast he yells at me always he smacks me and beats me up I just work faster I never say eny thing back or I get beat up good he lames me for every thing and I get beat up and get grounded for a long time I am grounded till I am. ,,20 and I just turned 17 he said I get no freedom or provided or own enything or no friends at all I am bussy tuning my ass of and getting hit and yelled at I work non stop 14 hurs a day no break at all I don't lag caus I will get beat up I do every thing like a slave then I am on my bed for 10 hours then it is work fast I can't say eny thing
Why can't I stand up for myself in social situations?
I was also bullied by many of my friends. They used to continuously drag me down by dropping out my confidence level. They used to bring out all the buried hatches and just make fun of my past mistakes. I hated them a lot. My performance was going down because everytime I used to think about the ways of putting them down. My mind was consumed by these irrelevant things. I couldn't focus. One day, my teacher asked me to prioritise my goals and requirements. She asked to me list down all the things that were important to me. I decided my career is important and then I totally started ignoring them. I started focusing on the things that really made me joyful. I started thinking about my goals and walked into those directions. Days passed away and they all hating me. Because I wasn't responding and they couldn't fetch the fun out of my silence. Their behaviour was getting worse. They started calling me with indescribable names. But these things didn't move me. I constantly focused on my studies. And in final exams I beat them by fetching second position. I shutted their mouths by my performance. The reason behind telling you the story is, I want you to focus on the things that make you happy and you are interested in. If you really want to stand up for yourself then before doing that improve your game, performance and knowledge.Let your performance beat them. Deliver more than expected.