My school is all white. I'm nervous?
First off, you're gorgeous, and I'm a white guy. Beautiful eyes and hair. You're not the least bit ugly. Now, don't assume that people are racist just because they're a different race from you. I think you are just nervous because you'll be at a new school with new people, don't worry about race. I know how you feel though, my middle school was about 90% white and 8% Mexican, there were about 10 black kids and they fit in fine. I was 1 of 2 Jewish kids at my school, I am also from Eastern Europe. I mostly received friendly and curious questions about my background. I now go to a high school that is about 40% black, 40% white, and the rest being Mexicans, Arabs and Asians. Most of the white kids are Eastern European or they're Jewish. I dated a black girl, and no body ever said anything to us. I don't know how you couldn't find a boyfriend because you're so beautiful. The only thing you need to worry about is jealous girls and all the guys chasing after you. If you experience racism, talk to the school concealer and your parents and they will straighten things out.
Im so nervous about high school, i am crying im so scared?
Im starting high school so soon! In like 10 days :( I just started crying right now; I still am, thinking about it and Im just so nervous and anxious I feel like curling up in a ball and cry my eyes out but I want to be tough about this!(which i am obviously not being) Any tips or stuff for me? :/
What makes you nervous?
Were you ever bullied, or had a volatile childhood; live/lived in a bad neighborhood; ever experienced any traumas, etc.?A stable homelife creates a sense of security for the child (applying to their perception of the world too). Traumatic experiences can be forgotten (a defense mechanism to lessen the impact).Any loss(es), home break ins, violations against your person/body? Similar to PTSD, certain things can become triggers.Is it only certain places or people? To a lady I’d talked to, tall men were her trigger (from childhood abuse), and this was decades later.Any significant worries lately; I mean maybe you’d heard of layoffs at work, or a questionable spouse, a creepy coworker or new neighbor. Any sick friends or loved ones: I know what some think about it, but some have said they felt something wasn’t right just before a loved one passed away.Have you been suppressing anything? Out of embarassment or That you haven’t had time - can’t deal with it right now? Anything that bothers you is significant, don’t suppress or ignore it just because noone else thinks it is. Suppressing may hide it for a short time, but it’ll find a way to remind you it’s there (anytime it wants, without even thinking of it, etc.).Easiest (using the word lightly) would be to think about when the feeling started, and any significant or unusual occurences around the same time.If it starts to bother you more, or you feel panicked or paranoid, even now really, consult a therapist before it gets out of hand. And no, it doesn’t mean you’ve lost-it or ? Therapy is good for anytime you need.
What do i do? my best friend is getting on my nerves about my boyfriend?
sounds like your friend is the one needing dumped. so what if he's not the best looking guy or got a mean 6 pack? she's either jealous or arrogant. unless the guy actually does something wrong, there's no reason to even consider your friends opinion to dump him. if he's a great boyfriend, you should not dump him over his appearance unless you are simply not attracted to him at all.
Nervous! Help With a Flute Music(Education) Major Audition, please?
I answered this already - do not know how YA ate the answer. Here goes: WAAAAY too much info - slow down. You seem to have been flouncing around from one activity to another, and the ONLY thing that matters is your flute audition. There are things you have been doing that are a waste of precious time, and some are BAD for you (stop playing tenor sax! You are KILLING your embouchure, and cannot even tell.) I have some serious doubts about how prestigious this college (tell us which one??) is - they only want scales up to 4 flats and 4 sharps? Any decent music school will want ALL majors and all 3 forms of the minors - that's 60 scales, and thirty arpeggios. And you are not even identifying your 2 solos correctly - no composer for the Cantabile ET Presto (Enesco) and it is the Mozart CONCERTO ( better be . .) that you are doing, NOT the Symphony (which one?? Does not matter - wrong answer). The various comments they have made on your playing are to let you down easy - with this many deficits, you are not getting in - unless this place is hideous (those 4 scales again . . ). There will be flutist who show up with NO problems - they will get in - maybe. You have mentioned a teacher and lessons - do you mean your BAND teacher and BAND lessons? I cannot believe that a really good private teacher would let you get TMJ, a poor hand position, and some of the other things that you complain of having. You seem to have some general musical knowledge, but none in particular depth - and you are weak in your main instrument - that is not good at all. I wish you luck - but with the generalities that you have given here, I do not think you can put all your eggs in one basket for a career in music education. There are FOUR music educators in this family, and we all came from a far better background that you have, and attended top colleges. We all have also sent students of ours on to degrees in music and music education - all of them HAD to be exceedingly well-prepared, because that is how competitive it is. Good luck . . . Added - repaired a few small typos.
When you feel yourself getting too anxious, what are some techniques to help you calm down?
This is going to sound so simple that you'll probably want to dismiss it immediately, but this is what works for me.Breathe in to the bottom of your stomach for two seconds, pause for one second, breathe all the way out for two seconds, pause. Repeat. Be sure to count the seconds in your head as you do it. I like to imagine I'm drawing the numbers on a massive blackboard in my head as I'm going through the steps.Don't worry, this is WAAAAY quicker and easier to do than it is to explain! Try it now, you'll see what I mean!This works because it slows your breathing down, which slows your heart rate down, which tells your brain to slow down and relax. Visualising the chalk board thing also helps because it is a simple yet powerful distraction from your current situation, which will also tell your brain that there's nothing going on for it to worry about.As an optional next step to help prevent (or at least severely limit) future anxiety episodes, you could try this:When you feel like you're back in control and that you are genuinely as calm as you can be, squeeze your thumb in your hand (same hand/thumb, so that you can do it with nobody noticing) and say the word “CALM” slowly to yourself as you squeeze. Concentrate on the feeling of calmness and the sensation of squeezing your thumb and saying the word “CALM” to yourself. Do this two or three times.Practice this whenever you are feeling calm and relaxed and tranquil. Over and over again. Soon, you'll notice that you can make yourself feel “CALM” just by squeezing your thumb and saying the word to yourself.This is when you win! Because the next time to start to feel anxious, all you'll have to do is squeeze your thumb and say “CALM” slowly to yourself, and the anxiety will disappear.And you will have cured your anxiety forever, all by yourself, without having to adjust your life to avoid those situations that cause the anxious feelings in you.
Starting high school. Scared to death!! Any tips??
let me tell you: Take these lessons from me, i was one of the most popualr girls in school. -be yourself, its hard, really hard, but dont let people change you no matter what. -never talk 1 ounce of crap. keep secrets to yourself, dont spluge any gossip, it will get you in trouble, and if you want people to trust and respect you, shut your mouth. - be active!! do good in school, grades etc. -go for sports, only be a cheerlearder if you are truley good at it. -never sport hoochie clothing(you dont want guys to think of you like"that". - Be Nice!! yes, to everyone, the geeks the band nerds, the drama club, the punks ect. -be nice to your teahers!! no matter how much they bug you, as long as you go to class, and try your best, they will respect you. i can say so much more about high school, but for the most part, please, have fun, it goes by waaaay to fast!! trust me. Good luck sweetie