Why is detention a good punishment?
Writing a paper in a debate class, and I want to discuss why after school detention is not a fitting punishment. What are kids really learning? What if they can't get a ride home after? What would be a better fitting punishment? Something that benefits both the teacher and student.
Fair punishment? I got 2 days detention this morning!?
I am a 10th grader (on lunch right now), and this morning in science, me and Jess were talking about what we were doing Friday and saturday, and the teacher got really pissed and yelled at us in front of the whole class, and sent us both to the office. The 10th grade principal gave us both 2 days after school detention from 2:45-4:15 for disrupting class. I think the teacher overreacted and was unfair in screaming and requesting for us to get 2 days detention just for talking, other kids do worse stuff and don't get detention, grr...... you guys think it was unfair?
Is detention an effective punishment for students? How does impact their future?
Well you have to determine if the stimulus(detention) is negative to the student to correct or discourage the behavior. If the student craves attention or likes being “the bad kid” this punishment turns into a reinforcement furthering them doing the negative behavior. I’d be more concerned about the why is the student is getting into trouble, rather than just the punishment. Giving the student detention won’t solve issues like emotional regulation issues or SES issues causing stress from home. Using the lesson plan to include teaching about emotional intelligence when kids act out helps teach how to regulate their emotion. It could by a myriad of problems, but I said this depends on each student, no one sized fits all response.
What is the worst punishment you got in school?
I was studying in Kannada medium till 4th standard. My mother was eager to send me to English medium, because our neighbor’s kids’ were going for English medium.So, everyday my mother used to pressurise my father to get me admitted to English medium.The fee in English medium was so high, still my father somehow agreed to join me to English medium.My mother always pressurised me to call her as “Mummy” and my father as “Daddy”, but I didn't like to call her so, but I was comfortable calling her “Maaa” and my father as “Paaa”. Even today too I call my mother as “Maaa” only.Well, my father somehow arranged money for my admission to English medium.My 5th standard started with English medium classes, I was bit nervous and inferior looking at the fellow mates.My class teacher used to dictate in English, I was failing to match her speed while taking notes. So, my notes used to be blank everytime.One fine day, my class teacher caught me for not taking notes in the class. She opened the cupboard and took out Matchbox and candle.She lit a candle and started pouring hot candle wax on my dorsum or back side of my palm.“Ahhhh! It's hurting” I screamed.It was a terrible punishment she gave to me.Later, my teacher got to know that I was from Kannada medium and newly joined to English medium.She apologized and gave me utmost importance in class. I should thank her for making me learn English.(Your little appreciation and honest feedback makes me write even more. A person who feels appreciated will always do more than expected.)Thanks for reading, Yours,Rakshith Akira ✍
Detention unfair, what to do?
I forged a signature of a librarian, and my dean at school is giving my a 4 hour saturday detention..I told him, and continue to tell him that I didnt do it (even though I did), what can I do to get out of it, it is this sautrday, so I need so answers fast! He thinks taht I did it cause the librarian talked with him, and she said that she never signed it, and I said she did>>WHAT SHOULD I DO!?!?
So I got this detention...?
This is my 4th afterschool detention. My parents know about none. They would kill me if they found out. Before I would go to dentention then afterwards I would head over to soccer practice. My mom would pick me up after practice. No one knew anything. But Soccer is over now..so I won't have a cheap way out. I could probably just tell my parents about this one and act like it smy first. But listen to this. This is why I got detention. It activity day, like the hour you go to clubs once a month, and I'm not any clubs. So I had to stay with my 3rd hr teacher. The kid I was sitting by stole my English book. So I reached over to take it from him and he like swung it real fast away from me. I barely tipped the book. But it was enough to send the book across the room. The teacher put my name on the board for throwing HIS book across the room. Urg.. I tried to explain but the teacher wont listen to me. Any ideas how to get out of the dentention or at least keep it away from my mom?
Why don't teachers send students to detention anymore?
Two reasons:Discipline requires documentation. Discipline that happens outside of the classroom even more so. It’s actually more time-effective to tell a student to stop doing something ten times than to send a student to detention and fill out all of the required documentation.Students don’t care, because parents often don’t care. Detention as a punishment only works if students care that they’re being punished, and the parents back up the school’s decision to punish the student. Many students who habitually get detention sincerely do not care that they are in it, nor do their parents. If it’s an after-school detention, some parents see it as that much more free babysitting… that much more time they don’t have to deal with their own children.That last reason is also why a lot of after-school programs are so popular. It’s not to enrich the student’s learning; it’s to occupy the student so the parents don’t have to. Some parents are very open about this.“I don’t care that he’s in the art program after school… I just don’t want him to come home right after school, and the art program is available.”Every school I’ve ever worked at has had an after-school care option, which is supposed to be for parents who work until 5 and can’t pick up their children until after that. The programs are over at 6… some three hours after school actually ended. They charge a nominal hourly rate… like $5 an hour, which is really cheap for what is, essentially, a day care at that point.There are always a few students… students with behavior problems… whose parents are at home, right down the street, yet they leave their children in the after-care program for the maximum amount of time, just so they (the parents) don’t have to deal with their out-of-control children. Fifteen dollars for three extra hours of peace and quiet from my own child? Sign me up for that every day!Detention is free. For those parents, their child getting an hour-long detention after school is just saving them $5.For some parents, it’s not until the student’s behavior reaches the out-of-school suspension level that they actually start caring, because only then is it a problem for the parents, too.
What is the most unfair and undeserved punishment you ever got as a kid/teen?
When I was maybe 4 or 5 years old, my mother and I went to a neighbors house to have a meal with some of their friends. I was the only kid there, and I don’t recall knowing any of the other adults except our neighbor.I guess because of me we were leaving earlier than everyone else, so when it was time for us to go we went to the door by ourselves while everyone else stayed in the dining room on the other side of the house. I don’t remember this, but I can only assume my mother had already said our goodbyes before we left the table. But for whatever reason she decided she wanted me to go back in there and say goodbye to everyone by myself.Well, I was an extremely quiet, shy kid, and this terrified me. So I shook my head no. She then suggested I just wave, but I still shook my head no. That’s when she got angry at me, marched me back home, yelled at me and gave me a good spanking as punishment. I stayed in my room crying alone for ages.It doesn’t sound like much, but this memory has stuck with me along with many other little things like it. She yelled at me and spanked me for being shy. In hindsight, she probably felt she was punishing me for not doing something she was telling me to do, but it’s not like I was being deliberately disobedient.Unfortunately, all the years of my childhood, that’s all my mother ever saw. She never tried to understand who I was or why I actually behaved the way I did. She never gave me room to explain my side of things. And even if I tried, she wouldn’t listen or accept that she overreacted because she was always right.As a result, I had a suppressed personality for the longest time, never actually felt loved by my mother, and also developed severe social anxiety. But things got better for me when I moved far, far away.
Got suspended should i tell my parents?
Today i got suspended for ten days just for skipping class. I am technically suspended until the 29th. I didn't do anything wrong except for skip class which i am pretty sure is an hour detention not a ten day suspension. So i have two choices. I can not tell my dad and just go to the library for a few hours everyday then come back home when school is supposed to be out. Or i can tell him and the principal said if they had a meeting i could come back early BUT he is already making my life crappy and if you add this on to it he probably won't give me money to go anywhere and won't give me anything for christmas and my bday. What should i do?