I got grounded for 3 weeks for coming home 30 minutes past curfew. I feel like this is unfair. What do you think?
My parents have a list of rules and consequences on the refrigerator. The rule on the refrigerator concerning curfew is "Curfew is 8 PM. Exceptions must be approved 3 days in advance by either mom or dad". The consequence listed next to the rule is "Grounded 1 week per every 30 minutes past curfew." Last night I got home at 8:36 PM. Since it wasn't yet 8:45 that means that I was 30 minutes late. If it was 8:45 or later that would have meant that I was an hour late. When I got home my parents started yelling at me and telling me that I was late. I responded by saying, "I know I'm late. I know I'm grounded for a week. I'm just going to go to my room". My parents then told me that I was actually grounded for 3 weeks instead of one week. When I asked why they said "Because we said so". I pointed to the rules on the refrigerator, but they told me that what they were saying overrides the list of rules. I'm 15. I feel like this is really unfair. What do you think?
I'm grounded for two weeks for coming in 20 minutes past curfew...is this fair?
Back in the day there would have been a fifty/fifty chance that this problem would have been dealt with through a spanking. But that was back in "the day". I guess you can always ask for an alternate consequence but that will let your parents know that you really hate being grounded. Their way of thinking will be, "She really hates being grounded so it must be a good punishment." I do think that two weeks is a bit much for a first offense but grounded can mean a lot of things like just no outside recreation or it could mean no going outside and lose of all your fun stuff and important electronics. My best advice would be to suck it up buttercup and hope that after a few days your folks will lose interest or see by your behavior that you have learned your lesson.
Missing Curfew?
It probably is because you are the youngest. my mom does the same thing to me, and i often have to remind her of my ager (almost 16). At least your curfew is 6 i still have to be in the house by the time the street lights come on. And i, like you, am the one with the good grades, and i do the help, and i try to make my own way (as much as i can without a job) I have never missed curfew, the closest that i've come is that one night, around 10ish, some guys that i had hung out with earlier came to my house. well my dad blew the roof and litterally scared the guys away, while my mom on the other hand kept asking me what i was doing with them. the only thing was that i never lied to her that day, when i came home she asked me what i was doing, i told her, she said who with, i told her, but yet and still i ended up getting grounded for the guys coming by-as if i knew they'd be that stupid!-I think that that's just moms, i don't know why they are so protective of the younger ones, when it's usually the younger ones that are doing what they're supposed to be doing! Sorry, But that's life, just think, you only have one more year left and then you can move, while i still have 2 more years of this crap!
I'm grounded because i missed curfew?
I am 9th grade guy taking all honors with an 3.8 unweighted gpa. I haven't made any major mistakes recently and my parents always tell me they are so proud of my work ethic and me helping around the house. So tell me why this Halloween (Saturday Night) my curfew to hang out with friends was 930 and i got back home at 1030 and my dad was pissed. He said "all the nice things that you used to get dont expect them for a while". I don't do drugs or anything so its not like that i was out doing something bad.
I'm 20 years old still living at home and my curfew is 10pm is that normal?
I have two young children (14 and 6), and my 18 year old is moving back home from college. I'm looking at contracts and curfews, etc when I came upon this question.As adults, rarely do any of us get to "come and go" as we please. We all live under constraints. These constraints are dictated by personal, familial, and professional obligations.First, and foremost: not your house; not your choice. Regardless of whether or not you like the curfew, you can either put up or get out. I may not like showing up for work 20 minutes before I need to be at my station, but because my boss requires it, I do it.My 18 year old will be working, and eventually going back to school. She has a responsibility to get a good night's sleep and be a good role model for her younger siblings. We'll discuss a fair curfew, but after midnight will not be acceptable.My 18 year old, like her siblings, will have household responsibilities that will need to be completed before "free time." So, the idea that she can do whatever she wants is silly. As an adult I have household responsibilities that must be taken care of before I can relax. Otherwise the household won't run smoothly.Free time happens only when responsibilities for work, school, and family are managed.Is this a way to control her? Less of a control issue and more of a issue of teaching her skills her birth parents didn't teach her.
I was 20 minutes late for curfew and since it was the second time I was supposed to get a warning, but my parents are grounding me! Help?
I have an older brother that missed curfew 3 times before getting a consequence so the same rule was supposed to apply for me. My parents said so. I missed curfew once before by about 45 minutes. I just got a lecture and a warning. Tonight I missed curfew by 20 minutes. My parents thought it was the 3rd time even though it was only the 2nd. Now I have a consequence for breaking curfew. Shouldn't I not have a consequence since my brother didn't when he was in the same situation? I even called my parents to let them know I was going to be late!
How do you get ungrounded?
Tell your parents that you understand their decision to ground you. Tell em that you know that they're only worried about you and blah blah blah. Then tell them that you respect their decision. That will usually impress them. Then help out around the house. Or, you can declare yourself your own being and defy their wishes, and be the rebel of the family. At least this way sounds more exciting.
How late does one have to break there curfew to be grounded?
The second the clock rolls past curfew, your parents start all sorts of crazy questions in their heads: Where is she? What is she doing? Did something happen to her? Is she in the hospital? Is she in a ditch somewhere bleeding to death? Did someone give her drugs? Did she overdose on drugs? OMFG NOES IS MY BABY OK?? WTF IS HAPPENING?? IT'S THE END OF THE FREAKIN' WORLD! ... Oh. There you are. WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT TO ME!?? WHY WOULD YOU MAKE ME WORRY LIKE THAT!?? DO YOU HATE ME!? WHAT DID I DO TO DESERVE THIS?? WHERE DID I GO WRONG?? WAHHHH. They're going to punish you just for making them even think for a second that something might've been horribly, horribly wrong. The answer? CALL them at 10:55 and tell them you're running late, and give them a REALISTIC time estimate for when you'll be home. If they don't go through the crazy worrying thing, you'll probably get off lightly.
I'm 16 (almost 17) and my parents unfairly grounded me for breaking curfew. What should I do about this?
I actually agree that your parents would have done well to consider the circumstances, and cut you some slack, especially since you had an excellent record up until then. However, in real life as an adult, you probably won't get much consideration or forgiveness in similar cases. One example is the strict military requirement for returning to base after leave or liberty. You're expected to allow a lot of extra time for unforeseen circumstances. You don't take the very last flight that will get you back on time, if all goes well. Careless mistakes such as running out of money or gasoline cut no ice with your superior officers. What I suggest, is that you negotiate with your folks about the length of time you'll be grounded. Agree to do extra chores (snow shoveling comes to mind). Let them know that in the future you will allow extra time to get home in bad weather, and not wait until the last minute to leave from where you are. Speak to them in a calm and mature way – don't beg or whine about how unfairly you're being treated. It does seem quite strict that you're old enough to drive, but are expected home by 7:00 pm. However, it gets dark early these days, and driving after dark is less safe. Perhaps it's important to them that you're home for dinner, and have adequate time to get your homework done. When your birthday rolls around, that would be a reasonable occasion to ask for an extra hour before you're due back home.