Why am i scared to fight?
ok so here's the deal. since around middle school, when ever i think im going to get into a fight i get so scared i feel like a little girl. im in my late 20's now and it does not seem to be going away. dont get me wrong, im not the type that wants to settle things by fighting, but i have been in situations in which i need to defend myself and i dont. its important to me that i am able to defend myself and my family if needed. i know its a scary thing to get in a fight for anyone, but it is almost terrifying for me. i mean i start shaking, i get the chills and sometimes even begin to shiver uncontrollably. its actually quite embarrassing. ive recently been in two separate situations in which ive had to defend myself and i didnt. the first, i cut some guy off by accident while driving, he then cut me off and slammed on his brakes. we both got off our cars and he began to shove me around and i didnt do anything. i just got in my car and left. not because it was the right thing to do, but because i was scared. the second was with a guy who i got into an argument with after he cut in line at a store. once outside the arguing continued until he hit me in the face. after which i said a few things to him and, again, just walked away. its not that i think i should go around beating people up, but i should have defended myself in both of these situations. again, i know that it was the right thing to do, but thats not the reason i walked away. id like to be able to walk away from a fight because it was the right thing, not because i was scared. im also afraid that when i have a family i will be afraid to defend them if i ever had to. it is just an overwhelming sense of fear. here is whats weird though. i have taken boxing lessons and have sparred with very good boxers, even professional ones. i even competed in an amateur bout once and won. having done so, i know that i could have easily beaten up the guys who i got into altercations with; however, i was still scared. ive thought about seeing a psychologist to find out why i have this tremendous fear of fighting. whay am i so scared???
My boyfriend got into a fight and now I'm worried...?
If it matters, here is how it happened: My bf, me and two other coupes were leaving a new year's eve party. I wanted to make a call, so I hung back a bit. While I was by myself, this random guy (who seemed a little drunk) and his two friends sort of walked up and asked if I needed a ride. I said no, that I came with someone. He persisted and was just being really obnoxious and threw his arm around my shoulder and kept asking me if I wanted to go home with him and I kept saying no and he was getting really pushy and it was uncomfortable. My boyfriend comes back around the corner to look for me, sees these random guys and says something like she said no, why don't you leave. The other guy was like I was talking to her not you, eff off. He kind of shoved my bf and my bf shoved him back and then he punched my bf and my bf punched him back and then his two friends jumped in and then the rest of our group must have heard because they came around and my bf's two friends starte
I have a friend, and we got into a fight and we stopped talking. I miss her very much, but I don't know if she wants to talk with me again. What should I do?
Same thing happened to me. I made a joke and she just stopped talking to me. May be she felt bad. So i thought i should apologise to her. So i called her, but she being too stubborn didnt pick up my calls. Told me that she is going to sleep and i should text her.I replied that I only need 2 minutes, she still replied to text her, she told me that "Cooler chal raha hain, awaz nahi aayegi" (which according to everyone is just bullshit...what type of cooler would make such a noise that you cant even talk on phone) Still i texted her... And she was online the whole time but didn't even read the texts and then finally I told her "Text karne to bolti hain, reply to deti nahi hain.."She was still online, didnt read the texs and then the next day just gave a reply that she slept...nthg else.. I mean we were so good friends, who would behave in such a way with a friend..Now when we see each other in office, we just ignore each other...act like we dont exist for each other... I really miss the talks I had with her, we were a great team, helping and motivating each other in time of need.All my friends now tell me to let her go as she doesnt need me, she is happy without me...but i dont know the truth..I cant lose a friend like her...Now i dont know what should i do..i have this big interview and her motivating words will definetly make my day...but I dont think she will ever talk to me. :(What u should know is she really worth all the trouble..? Does she always care about you when you need it? Or she only comes to you in need? People will always tell you that ego will ruin a friendship, but what u should know is never ruin your self respect for someone who isn't worth it...if she is worth it...then go and talk to her...she will talk to u..apologise to her..
My dog had a fight with another dog and now he is limping he's not crying or wellping Im worried will he be ok?
Being worried is warrented here and so is a vet check. Internal swelling can cause permanent nerve damage. Scrapes you can't see are broken skin that can be an open door to infection. Vet now, please. Hope he's okay.
I got into a physical fight with my mom?
I got into a fight with my mom earlier today. I've gotten into fights with my mom before but they were never really physical. She's smacked me a couple times across the face before, but nothing really big. But today we got into a stupid argument and we were yelling at eachother and she started pushing me. She was grabbing onto my arm and her nails were digging into my skin. She was pushing me down the hall and I was trying to get away from her because all she was doing was hurting me. But she wouldn't let go. I tried to grab onto her arm like she was doing to me, but I was afraid to hurt her. I know that sounds weird, but even though she was hurting me I was scared to hurt her back. The whole time she was yelling, cussing and hitting me. I finally got away from her and got into my room, but now I have a couple scratches from her on my face and neck. I don't know what to do now. I'm scared to come out of my room because I'm not sure what shes gonna say. Advice?