I have a friend, and we got into a fight and we stopped talking. I miss her very much, but I don't know if she wants to talk with me again. What should I do?
Same thing happened to me. I made a joke and she just stopped talking to me. May be she felt bad. So i thought i should apologise to her. So i called her, but she being too stubborn didnt pick up my calls. Told me that she is going to sleep and i should text her.I replied that I only need 2 minutes, she still replied to text her, she told me that "Cooler chal raha hain, awaz nahi aayegi" (which according to everyone is just bullshit...what type of cooler would make such a noise that you cant even talk on phone) Still i texted her... And she was online the whole time but didn't even read the texts and then finally I told her "Text karne to bolti hain, reply to deti nahi hain.."She was still online, didnt read the texs and then the next day just gave a reply that she slept...nthg else.. I mean we were so good friends, who would behave in such a way with a friend..Now when we see each other in office, we just ignore each other...act like we dont exist for each other... I really miss the talks I had with her, we were a great team, helping and motivating each other in time of need.All my friends now tell me to let her go as she doesnt need me, she is happy without me...but i dont know the truth..I cant lose a friend like her...Now i dont know what should i do..i have this big interview and her motivating words will definetly make my day...but I dont think she will ever talk to me. :(What u should know is she really worth all the trouble..? Does she always care about you when you need it? Or she only comes to you in need? People will always tell you that ego will ruin a friendship, but what u should know is never ruin your self respect for someone who isn't worth it...if she is worth it...then go and talk to her...she will talk to u..apologise to her..
My friend suddenly stopped talking to me. I've tried talking to her, but she ignores me and talks with my other friends instead. What should I do?
Give the friendship a break for a while. People who value your friendship will take the time to make contact with you - you have shown you value her friendship because you have tried to make contact with her. Now it's time to step back and see if she can show the same appreciation. Use this opportunity to explore new friendships and activities, so you are enjoying yourself rather than sitting around feeling ignored. Avoid giving her opportunities to ignore you, and try to avoid talking about the situation with your mutual friends, in case things get repeated and misinterpreted. If you don't hear from your best friend after a month or so, and you still feel upset and puzzled by this, maybe send her a friendly email saying that you miss chatting to her and you hope that everything is okay. Don't worry too much about why she isn't talking to you. Again if she valued the friendship, she would tell you if you had done something to upset her, so that the two of you could resolve the issue. Maybe she needs some time before she can tell you what's wrong. Maybe she's getting a kick out of ignoring you and playing favorites with your other friends. You don't need to put up with being treated like the runner up in a popularity competition.
Is it polite to say Happy Birthday to a friend who is mad?
A friend of mine is pretty mad at me. I don't believe it is my fault. I tried e-mailing her before a few days ago, and was very lighthearted and pleasant, but apparently she's still mad because she didn't e-mail back. I don't want to explain who's right and who's wrong in this argument or be told to apologize, because I've done more than my share to make her happy. I just want to know if I should say happy birthday to her. Her birthday is in a few days. Is it polite or proper to say happy birthday to a person who thinks they are fighting with me? Should I ignore the fact that she's upset with me, and say happy birthday? Or am I supposed to pretend that I'm mad too and just not acknowledge the fact that she has a birthday?
My best friend hates me... What should I do?
My best friend told this other girl to give my friendship ring to my crush as a joke. I realized later, as I took a ring exactly like mine on the table and put it on. She told me to give back her ring, and I and told her to give mine back, because I was very stressed and tired that day and didn't feel like talking to him to ask for it back. She refused to do it. I kept her ring. I gave it back after 10 minutes, but she said she doesn't care anymore, I can have the ring if I want to. She have been ditching me and our other close friends for a boy for quite a while, and her saying that she don't care about the ring/our friendship made me very angry. I threw the ring in the bin. I came back later and spent 5 minutes plunging my hand in the bin to look for the ring. Turns out that the friend who gave the ring to my crush found the ring already. Now we've both got our rings back, but it doesn't mean anything because she hates me. Some people say I should apologize to her, but I have already. 3 times. She doesn't care. The last time we feel out was a few months ago, and it lasted for nearly a month. Now it's practically the same. She treats me like I'm thin air. She deleted me off MSN, and quits the rugby team that she promised to join with me. She doesn't wear the ring anymore. I feel so stupid and crap. It's not like I don't blame myself already. I cried so many times over this. We're going on camp in 2 days, and we're in the same cabin. I have to fix this, and fast. Please help me. What can I do?
In a serious friendship rut?
I've had a serious friendship problem many times. And this is the time if you can tell if they were a true friend or not. I was best friends with somebody and they shared a big secret of mine which ruined my entire primary. I had another best friend in middle school who the next year left me for somebody else. I now have promised to never chase somebody to be your best friend. If you believe you are at fault then say you're sorry but if they're at fault. Then try and sort it out. And use things like "I've known you longer then anyone else" "Our friendship was too much to let go" "Lets just go back to being friends just like the good old days" "I'm sorry if I hurt you." and relate to history a lot. To make them smile. "Remember when we spilt orange juice on misses coat and it stained and we didn't tell her" "Remember when Emile tried to hit me and you stuck up for me and protected me" also like before "Come on we can get through this" "Let's just make up" If they refuse and don't even show a sign of consideration. Then you know that they're not real friends. Because friends always have fall outs. And only true friends can get through them... Also if you think you're the one at fault. Think about all the things they've done for you. Has it been good things? Or Bad things? What good have the brought you? Did they bring you just grief? Would you really want to try this bad to stay friends with them? Write 10 things down they've done for you. (More if they have) Write 10 bad things they have done to you. (More if they have) Put a star next to them to show there power. (Hit me****, Stuck up for me*****) And then match them up. Try getting some more friends in this time. Because this is the time where it will be easiest to get friends without your best friends saying "Why are you avoiding me?" "Are you trying to replace me?" I hope this help. And if you need more advice just send me a message.