I had a major argument with my mom. How do I get her to understand me better?
Firstly, take things cool, spend some time in trying to understand your Mom and find out the reasons for this behavior. Make the talk with your mother a pleasant exercise and never argue or shout at. You can also tell your Mother that you have the time to listen to her if she can talk to you calmly and not get angry /shout or accuse you. Don't try to find solutions to whatever problems your mother highlights but listen, note down and seek time to understand them. May be, over a period, Mom would have come out with her own solutions and thank you for being patient and listening to her. Your emotional support at this critical time when your Mom is distressed will go a long way in correcting her deficiencies and she may end up talking to you more as a friend, well wisher and stop the accusing exercise. These are just suggestions you may want to think about and practice if found suitable. Best of luck.
I just got into a huge argument with my mom!! ugh!.... what should i do?
Well I was really mad and stressed out and I got into a big argument with my mom, I yelled at her and even turned red and we said things we shouldnt have said.... I really hate to fight with my mom because I love her to death, but sometimes she can get annoying because she likes to do everything her way and kinda disrespects me and my dad and lately ive been kinda pissed off because of that. Just one week ago we were in another huge argument but that time it was completely her fault because she was rude to me for no reason.. I hate feeling like this and shes locked up in her room and im in mine and we barely said hi to each other and the thing is that neither one of us is the kind of person that goes to the other and apologizes we stay mad for a long time. we basically got the same personality and i think thats why we get mad at each other, i think i have her genes that make me get mad so easily and so does she..... What should i do? i hate to be like this with my mom but she kinda gets on my nerves some times and she punished me for no reason what so ever.... btw im 16 so its not like im having my mid-life arguments with my mom... i already went through and got over that. i need help... dont know what to do.....
Boyfriend and mom got into a huge argument..?
Okay well I'm 18 and my boyfriends 23. I've been talking to him for a while now and ever since the beginning my mom had an issue with it..lately she's been acting like a psychopath whenever I'm on the phone with him. Such as, screaming mean names so he would hear, hanging up the phone on him any chance she gets, and call me like crazy whenever were hanging out. Last night, he and I were on the phone and I fell asleep and she told me that when she came in my room to check on me and that he called me about 5 times so she answered it each time n hung up, and the 6th time he called, she answered the phone and told him to stop calling..he then told her that he doesn't give a **** and that she needs to not answer my phone This morning My mom said if I continued talking to him then something must be wrong with me but I feel like she was wrong for answering my phone when they don't get along =\ Can someone help me on what I should do?
I cry EVERYTIME i get into an argument with my mom!?
This is a problem I've had as long as I can remember, it doesn't matter the type of argument, big or small, if we disagree on a problem or she yells at me for something my eyes start to burn with tears as i try to defend myself, and as soon as I start crying, I can't talk so I just walk away. It ONLY happens with my mom and it happens EVERYTIME. I can have a million arguments with my friends, my brothers, my dad, my teachers, anyone, and I won't cry or show the least bit of emotion. The second I start to raise my voice at my mom, i can feel the tears coming, and I try to hold them back or look away, but she knows that it's because I'm crying. I absolutely hate it. Me and my mom don't get along that often and it's frustrating that I let her think she gets to me whenever I cry during an argument. I respect her and everything she has done for me and my brothers but I honestly do not like her as a person, so I don't see the arguments stopping any time soon. Can someone PLEASE give me some advice on how to stop crying? I'm so desperate at this point.
How can I help my girlfriend if she just got in an argument with her mom?
this is a question I can really relate to, me and my mom have a lot of issues and argue quite often and i'm very sensitive and she's very hateful so my husband helps me beyond words when it comes to me and my mothers arguments because it will send me into seizures and i will cry my eyes out and have anxiety attacks, he normally just holds me and cuddles with me, loves on me and puts my favorite movie on. so the best thing you can do is hold her and love on her, just comfort her and tell her everything will be okay it'll blow over. Do something to take it off her mind like something she likes (like for me i like watching my disney vhs movies that i've had since i was a baby and my fave is little mermaid, adult coloring, cuddling, listening to music) or take her somewhere to take her mind off of it, you don't technically have to spend money. take her to sit by the water or something like that. but just don't start problems with her mom, always treat her parents with respect or the relationship will not work out well) i've learned that from years of experience. but if you do have the extra money then buy her something that she will like. suprises by a girls partner always makes a girl happy.
Can't stop arguing with my mom! What to do?
Think about the last 20 arguments you have had - were they worth it? Someone needs to step up and be the hero here. When you feel an argument about to start walk away. When you guys are not fighting, tell your mom is a very calm manner that you love her and you appreciate her. Also tell her that you are sad that you clash so much and that you are going to make an effort not to shout or get frustrated etc. Ask her straight out - if I am making an effort to get along better will you also try? What can she say.....
Whenever my mom is wrong in an argument, instead of hearing my side, she just screams "SHUT UP!" and ends the conversation. She'll never apologize, and yell at me further if I try to bring up her behavior. How can she be 64 and still behave like a child? How can I not take it personally?
Because not all of us are wrapped too tight. Most of these idiots in the answer section are not realizing that your mom may have a mental disorder. She may not be able to control everything in her life so she looks at you as something she can control. Her carrying you 9 months dont mean a damn thing if shes always irrational, argumentative and never listens to reason. Being a parent is no excuse to be a jerk, no one begged their parents to bring them in this world. Especially to be bullied by a older adult with a substance or mental problem. Just because you have the ability to make a child, doesnt automatically make you a parent. You have to earn that title. People get stripped of that title every day for thinking having kids is just something to past time or do when you're bored. Your mom is a dick, and in order for her to change, you need others to witness what you go through so she can get proper help, otherwise you'll keep getting comments where folks (parents projecting rage from their own offspring) call you crazy or ungrateful. Not fully understanding the constant mini boss fights you go through just to be around your mom. Trust me, I know. My mom likes to drink, but doesnt think she gets drunk. She will fall over, tell curse, and still scream that she isnt drunk and that you are wrong for telling her that. Shes very manipulative and judging by these folks in the answer section… they'd be putty in her hands, too stupid to realize that shes an abusive drunk.
How do I stop arguing with my mom?
Ah, patience. That is what you need. An argument requires at least two people. If you do not respond, then how can there be an argument. Sit quietly, listen to her words. If you disagree, that is ok, just don’t voice it. Allow her to get it all out by being quiet. Once she is done, remain quiet, analyze what she said. Is any of it true? Does it make sense? Is it possible that she is trying to look out for your well being? You need to think these things through. You can’t do that if you are speaking and arguing. If she has made any valid points, acknowledge them, with out emotion. IF the points are invalid, do not challenge them. Why, because it does no good to do so. You must demonstrate by your actions that she is wrong about those invalid points. If you can’t then are they truly invalid? Arguing is a sign of immaturity. Sitting quietly and considering what she is saying is a sign of growing maturity. This will cause her to pause and reflect on what she is saying and how she is saying it. Over time, by following this path, she will come to recognize that you are listening and that she needs to show you the same respect and listen. She will be far more open to this but it will take time and patience. There is too much anger at the moment, this needs to subside and one way to do this is as I explained above. Showing a growing maturity will subdue the anger you both feel. It is important to allow yourself to forget the anger as this does not solve the issues but enflames them.
Whenever my sister and I argue, my mom always takes my sister's side. What should I do?
I found that letting go of people/bio-family members who do not believe in me or basically do not trust me or like me is the FIRST STEP. You must resolve your sibling issues with a professional and stop arguing/competing for mom’s love etc.; and you may need to stop interacting w/ mom and sis if it is holding you back. Balanced mental health is vital to function thus will make or break a person. Let them go, at least until you’ve developed a strong sense of self. Let them go and stop trying to make them like you or trust you. In my case while I was telling the truth and the other sibling LIED —- the rest of my bio-siblings and mom sided with the liar. My faith in TRUTH is very strong and I believe it will show up and shine revealing all and exposing the liar. Trust in God, yourself and let go. In my case further for sanity reasons I had to literally cut off all ties … it is only recently that I have reached out to some. Forgiveness heals you — the other party may never come forward and others may always be against you but you can still forgive and move on in your heart. Tell yourself: It’s not my problem!! MOVE ON! Life is wonderful. Be healthy minded, do what is right and you’ll form a strong bond with someone other than bio-family.