My family hates me. Advice please?
First of all, I am so, so, so sorry this had to happen to you. I don't know what it feels like but I know it's painful. This shouldn't be happening to anyone. I have to suggest that you should be telling the CPS (I heard you earlier). It doesn't matter if you're black or white or asian. It matters because you're a human and not some kind of garbage they can simply hit on you. It doesn't matter if you have scars or whatnot. What do you mean "No one knows what she did and i dont plan on telling."? Please, Honey, please, I beg of you. Your sister is a psycho-smartass-molester and your parents didn't know about this? If you tell this to the CPS people, it's going to be different. If they don't take any actions, then I will have to go there and make themselves feel sorry of their pitiful life. Well, your friend doesn't want to be friends with you? Don't bother with her. I can be your friend if you want to. Send me a message at Yahoo if you want my Fb and we can talk crappy about your parents all day long. But seriously, honey, don't let them ruin your life. You are not here to please them. they had fun creating you on bed, why on Earth you should please them. They are NOT going to take your life and mess with it. Go get the phone. Tell the police what happened and have a cup of hot chocolate. Wait and let them come. Then go with them and start off you new life. Edit: Good luck, beautiful. Stay strong and be brave. It's all right. Call the police and if they ignore you, talk to them about all the problems. I know talking about that is hard, but this is the way out.
What should I do if I hate my family?
I hate My family too :(I can remember feeling like an outcast as early as the age of 5. I remember my mom beating me and calling me a whore for discovering masterbation. I was 7 when I was ripped out of a room full of kids and verbally assisted by my mother. As the years went on I was Always looked at as the bad apple. At 11 my mom would leave me to watch my two younger sisters who had formed an Alliance against me. It was. Constant bullying. At 12 I was Labeled a slut. I wasnt Even sexually active. At 13 I was A whore and a druggie. Again never even tried either. At 14 a was told to stay home from school because some girls wanted to fight me and the school I went to was full of racists and druggies. Mind you I am A white girl. The racism was coming mainly from a group of Guamanian girls who hated me over a boy. At 14 my moms friend tried to have sex with me. He was 36. Guess who my mom blamed for that? 15 I finally Had sex. I didn’t know how to handle that at such a young age especially with no real sex talk other than ““if you have sex you are a whore and nobody will marry you and you will be a waste”I got Pregnant. I was About 5 months along when I finally Told my dad. He forced me to have an abortion that almost cost me my life. He didn’t care. I had To write goodbye letters to my family. It was constant abuse again. Because now. I really Was a whore to them. At 17 I koved Out. At 19 I got Pregnant. At 20 my daughter almost lost her future. I struggle every day to stay happy and to feel the love of my children and the love of the small percentage of good people still out there. I have No real home and I have No real family. Life is really hard for me right now.
Need some advice! i hate lying to my parents but i feel like i have no other choice?
Get a job, pay your own way, get your own place, and do what you want. Doing that last thing without doing the first three is called being a spoiled brat. Unless of course you are a thieving, pimping, drug pushing, thug or a stripper/prostitute/ho. Why not pursue the things that will prosper you in life like career building, family life, eternal security? Partying and drunkenness are not conducive to any of those. While you can't image at your age how short life really is - I assure you all the time you waste with sex and drugs and rock'n'roll will come back to haunt you. Go and pursue a life as a Christian Missionary - you will not be bored and you will have a social life that includes your most important friend - The Creator. If you died today would you be ready to face God? Only the Blood of Jesus Christ can justify you before Him. Find some folks who can help you understand that, and depression will never oppress you again. God is good, all the time!
Need advice dealing with negative, toxic family members?
Just don't be around them more than you can help. When they say or do something mean to you, just smile and say, "I sorry you feel that way" or "I hope you feel better." Unfriend on FB anyone who isn't friendly! Duh! Be supportive of your mom by trying to get her in a better frame of mind. Give her positive thinking books to read. Refuse to listen to he being negative. Tell her to just write all her negative things down, tear up the paper, and flush it down the toilet of but it in the garbage. Help her plan a healthy life style also. Of course, if she want cooperate, you really can't do anything but keep being positive and telling her you hope she will get better. Personally, I like "How's that working out for you?" for a questions that helps other redirect. I also tell people i will pray for them and I do it. I am not sure whether they will accept the help they might get from that but it helps me. Nobody can make you feel bad without your permission. You change the way you deal with things by doing what you know is right. Dwell on what is beautiful and healthy. Exercise,eat, pray,and meditate in ways that work for you. You can't stop the birds from flying over your head, but you don't have to let them nest in your hair, And if while flying over they happen to drop a little s--- on you, a nice shampoo will fix it.
My parents hate my black boyfriend, need advice?
My boyfriend of 5 years is smart, kind, well educated and has a great job and home. We are both 23 and I'm thinking about moving with him. But my mom and dad are racist. We are white and he is black and they haven't really got to know him. They haven't heard of him until a year ago because I know how they are racist and just wanted to keep it secret. They said if I move in with him, they will stop supporting my college finances. I just don't know what to do, I can't afford college on my own, And I Hate their bigoted attitudes.
My family hates me! I just want to die?
sorry its so long but PLEASE read I really need advice.My family really does hate me. They are so mean. They act like im the worst kid on the face of the earth. What am I doing wrong? I get average grades which I don't think is bad, but they expect me to have all a's and I think thats impossible for someone like me. Ive never done any drugs or anything bad. My parents are blaming me for their divorce and they said that I destroyed their marriage, I didnt even do anything. I lock myself in my room everyday when im home, or I go outside. They never believe me or anything I say and they say im exaggerating. They accuse me of things they do and I get blamed all the time. My sister is awful, she came over today and made me take care of her baby because she said I would have one pretty soon (she was calling me a whore) but im a virgin and ive never even kissed anybody. She always says im stupid and lazy and that im going to work in mcdonalds and live in my moms basement forever. She even complains about my hair and she says that I have no excuse for it looking bad but I had just woken up and gotten out of bed! She says that im always going to be a stupid pretty girl. I dont think im stupid, but my whole family calls me stupid so I kinda believe it. She calls my friends losers too. Her husband agrees with everything she says and he said I was a nobody and that I have no future something like that I was upstairs crying then. My brother hates me too, he loves to annoy me and hes always calling me a moron. My grandma thinks im the root of all evil, everytime I open my mouth to say something or if im even in her holy presence she gives me a dirty look. I dont even wanna start with school, these girls were really bullying me at school like a month ago I guess, but its a little better now. So I used to skip school a lot to avoid them and that just made my family hate me more. What did I do wrong? Why do they all hate me? Everyone at school as been saying that im depressed and cutting myself, someone told the guidance counsler I was and I had to go in and show her my wrists and legs. So everyone at school can see that im miserable. Please help me. thanks.
I hate my family & want to move out..what can i do?
i struggled with an eating disorder and depression for 3 years...my parents did nothing but make it worse & sweep it under the capret. i got help on my own. now - aged 15 - its pretty much gone.. & i loathe my family for just watching me go through this ordeal. they just think i ungrateful, my dad doesnt know i know about his affiars & my mom thinks ive just forgotten about the way she abandoned me - no good mother does that. i really dont want to live here anymore. i might go to a friends for a bit, or see if i can board at my school... what else can i do, because this whole situation is pushing me further & further back into my old bad habits & i really can not afford to be like to be llike that again; i have my GCSEs this year, and ive only just started gaining friends & confidence back. help. much love, Rosie x
My family hates me. My mum said that if I wasn't her child, she would have thrown me out of the window, what should I do?
My family hates me. My mum said that if I wasn't her child, she would have thrown me out of the window, what should I do?It’s really tough when you’re told, by TV, by other people, by teachers, and so many sources, what a home and family environment should be like and then you find out it’s not at all like that in your life. It’s tough when your home is not a “home” where you can go to for safety and the one or two people you should be able to count on for support, protection, and encouragement are actually the opposite: unsupportive, unsafe, and discouraging.If you’re under 18:Find an adult at school, such as a counselor or teacher, that you trust and can talk to about this. You can start with, “I need help and I need someone to talk to because I can’t trust my parents.” You need an adult that can help you find resources to guide and help you deal with this situation. What about friends? Do you have friends you can count on to back you up or support you? Even if you’re an introvert, finding a few people you can trust to help you remember that your mum (and the rest of your family) are not the only people who can say who you are.If you’re over 18 and can leave:Make a plan to get a place, even if you need to have a roommate or two, and get out as soon as you can. I know a lot of people have this idea that family is the most important thing in life, but for many people, their families, or some family members, are toxic. There is no law or rule that a toxic family member who makes you feel terrible about yourself has to b e in your life. In fact, it’s better if you stay away from such people.If you’re over 18 and cannot leave:Then consider what I said about “under 18,” but, instead of finding a teacher or counselor, look into what mental health services that your local government provides. Find a way to find someone who can help guide you through dealing with this and living with someone who is, essentially emotionally abusive to you.Whatever the situation, it’s important to find ways to distance yourself (at least emotionally) from your mum and to find a few connections with people who will be supportive and help you remember that your mum has her own problems and that you do not have to let her be the one to tell you who you are and what kind of person you are.