What do I do if I hate my stepmom?
No one can answer this for you. It's something you have to really think about yourself. Maybe you haven't stepped into her shoes. And I'm not sure of your exact situation, but I can tell you of my experience as a stepmom.I met my son, that's what he is to me, when he was at the age of two. His mother was in and out, almost never visited, and rarely ever called. My boyfriend and his family, and myself really, kind of pushed me into taking on a parental role probably too soon. But honestly, most people become parents without much preparation. I was uninformed and unsure of how I should feel and act towards this kid I was now taking care of full time.I wasn't sure of my feelings for at least a year. And it took about two years for us to really warm up to each other. He was very possessive of his dad, so there was some jealousy we had to overcome. And also, if I had it to do over, I would have taken on a more passive parenting role so that we could have just bonded in the beginning. Meaning, no disciplining whatsoever. I think it would have allowed us to enjoy our time together more. Also, I wasn't sure how he felt about me jumping in either. But despite the mistake of rushing in and the unsuredness, we have found our place together.Anyways, I say all this because I think most stepparents are just trying to figure out what their role is supposed to be. Are we supposed to be a role-model, a side-kick, a friend, a parent, or what? It takes a lot of time to figure it out for everyone involved. And every situation is so unique that there isn't a guide book to tell you what to do. I can say that it probably would have been easier if I could have had a conversation with my son at that age and asked him about how he felt. Or known about his expectations for our relationship.That's why I think it would be a good idea to talk to your stepmom. You may think she's the meanest, worst person in the world. But for all you know, she has great intentions and just doesn't know her place in your life yet.
I don't like my stepmom?
So I got into an argument with my stepmom last weekend..but these arguments have been going on ever since I was 7. I'm 17 now..and I'm always the bad one. My brother and I are always blamed for causing problems with my stepmom. My dad has ALWAYS taken her side..not once has he agreed with how we feel. So I just had enough! I told my dad that I don't want to go to his house anymore. I don't like my stepmom, I never have and I never will. Every time my dad asked if i liked her, I told him yes. I was scared. Now he knows the truth. If he wants to see me, he can come and visit me, but I'm not going to his house. Again, hes taking her side and thinks I'm doing this to get attention. That really bothers me. I'm not doing this to get attention. I have 10 years worth of bottled up hatred towards her. But hes my dad and I still love him no matter what, and I still want to see him. I need advice.. Is this the right thing to do? please help thanks!
My step mom hates my real mom?
so you can either A. talk to her and tell her to leave your one true mommy alone IF THAT DON'T WORK B. Say: LISTEN DID YOU GIVE BIRTH TO ME? NO SHE DID SO SHUT THE H-E-L-L UP ABOUT MY MOM! C.talk to your dad he might be able to calm his bitchy wife down D say to your step mom ILL KNOCK YOU ON UR FCKING @$$ IF YOU SAY THAT AGAIN E. if your mom has a brother(s) or you have maternal half brothers get them to say it for you :) F. just punch her G. tell your dad you saw her sleeping with another man or that she is a prostitute that will get rid of her and her smugness H. KICK HER @$$ OR AT LEAST SLAP HER I. tell her your dad and your mom are having an affair J. have your mom defend herself K, talk it out with your real parents L. ask to go live with your mom full time M. say ATLEAST MY MOM HAS MANNERS AND RESPECT FOR OTHERS N. start calling her Cruella devil or Hitler O. just tell her to back off nicely P. ask you mom if she can file for sole custody Q.annoy her to death R. tell your dad his wife is treating you with disrespect by insulting your mom S. tell them if they don't show your mom some respect you will take them on a talk show like MAURY ANDERSON LIVE or KATIE T.make fun of her mom U. apply to be on maury Anderson live and Katie maury is best tho because he wautomaticallytake your side V. tell her if she doesn't respect your mom you wont respect her or your father W. tell her that of course your dad loves your mom they have a permanent bond named...YOU X. just ignore her Y. you and your mom can make fun of her and see how she likes it! and last but not least Z. get her some HOT coffee or tea spill it on her and say "sorry bout that I guess god burns people that lack manners and respect "
My mom hates my stepmom?
This is very common because females are naturally more forgiving of males than other females. You can and should make an effort, but don't expect it to fix the problem. It might, but after you do what you can do, it will be up to your mom to get over it. You should talk to your mom. Tell her how you feel about all this and then ask what she is feeling. Don't say "Why do you hate her so much?" Asking for her feelings is more compassionate and usually, when you put words in there that can be offensive, you will just get the other person to be defensive. You cannot assume anything. There are many things your mom could be feeling, like maybe your stepmom once said something that your mom took the wrong way, your mom feels your stepmom stole your father, your mom feels your stepmom kept your parents from getting back together, your mom is jealous of it working out between them, your mom might be jealous that your stepmom gets so much of your time, or you might be right that your mom is jealous that your stepmom is younger, which could be a mixture of hatred of your father for being so shallow to split based on looks, upset with herself for not taking better care of herself, and jealous of your stepmom being so attractive enough to get your father's love.
My step-mother hates me?
Wait, what? She had the nerve to tell you she was glad your Mom died because you don't deserve one? Jeez. Id have punched her do hard in her face she'd have woken up a week later in a hospital bed. At that point, if he cares more about you and your Mom than her he should have left. She sounds like a real whore who needs to get run over. Leave. Don't babysit her kids. Rebel to ****. If you need to talk add me on Facebook; http://www.facebook.com/imokayipromisee
I haven't talk to my step mom for months, what can I do?
Oy. Stepmother problems I know.As difficult as it is, try to be respectful and kind, even if she is not. You can ask her what you can do, WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT, NOT WHEN SHE IS IN A FULL RAGE, to help make things better. Choose a moment when she is more relaxed or friendly, if that ever happens.If at all possible, try to get into family counselling with your stepmom, that way, you will have another adult to back you and try to smooth things out. This story is older than Cinderella, but then, again, look how that one turned out.
I hate my step mom and step brother?
I have a step mom and she has been my step mom for over 10years now and I can't stand her. I love my dad with all my heart but it p*sses me off to see stuff like him paying for everything. She is so unapreciative and it seems like she is pmsing 80% of the time. I have talked to my dad about it and theres nothing he really does. I meen it seems unrealistic for him to leave her after having such a long term relashionship with her. And my step brother is a pain in the a** and i cant stand him. I am a very nice person and i feel like just talking back to her but i never gather enouph courage to do somthing to make her p*is*ed off im usually the type of guy that goes with the flow but I have had enouph im tired of being nice to them and pretending everything is ok she is a b**ch and if had enouph. What should I do im only 13?
How do you get rid of a stepmom you don't like?
Dear one, not liking and disagreements do not validate “ getting rid “ of anyone. What if she felt that way about you?I’ll bet there has been very little, if any, communication with you & her.Please bear in mind that she can not steal your father away as you occupy a very unique place in his life: you are his flesh-and-blood which can not be replaced. However, approaching him may be difficult, so I recommend family counseling. Sometimes that’s what it takes to clear the air so all can breathe easier.
I hate my stepmom so much!!! I need some help?
So it was 2 days ago and I got up and went to the fridge. I had bought 5 grapefruits for myself and no ones else. So I opened the fridge and they were gone! No ones was home at the time so I call my dad and he said that he will get me some more. He sad that my stepmom ate them all! I was soo mad and I didn't care if my dad was getting me more. So she cooked like 70 peices of meat for these people she knew so I ate 3 peices. Because she ate 3 grapefruits. I ate 2 grapefruits the night before. So she comes home and was all like did you eat my meat and im like yeah. But I had 3 peices. For each grapefruit. Then she's all like I didn't know! But she did know. So she tattled on me like she always does to my dad. And he said that he didn't eat any. So she's blaming my for eating 20pieces! So I go and take like a 2 hour shower and when I get out and get all primped up my dad screams my name and I imeadiatly go down stairs. She and my dad start screaming at me!!! And I couldn't do anything. So I go upstairss and a few hours later she screams name. So she hands me my grapefruits and says," you are the most selfish, ugliest, piece of **** I ever laid my eyes on." and my dad was right their and he didn't do anything!!! She also said not to ever talk to her ever again. So I went to my room and I started crying bcause no one has ever said that to me. And now my dad and my stepmom are against me. And my stepmom took away my 40$ so now I only have 10$ to my name. I tried to run away last night but I got caught. And I really want to move in with my mom but I'm not 16 yet and I have to be 16. I really don't know what to do? Should I call child services? And please don't tell me to sit them down and talk to them cause I won't. Should I try to get arrested? Cause my dad said that if he ever caught me smoking a cigarrette he would beat me with a stick( he's done it before) and then call the cops. So should I get arrested to my mom can get me? Or should I just wait till my16th birthday in October.
Why does my stepmom hate me so much? How do I stop it?
You will never figure out why your step mom hates you. She just does. Forget trying to figure her out. Tell your dad you are not going to take any verbal or physical abuse from her and if she dumps a lot of emotional abuse of any kind on you tell him that if he cannot get her to stop you will report her to social services. Do not tolerate it for one minute. It will only get worse in time.Don’t be afraid to stand up to her and ask what is bothering her about you. If she will not communicate to you do not let that stop you from communicating with her. Do not let her get away with this. You will regret it the rest of your life.If you can feel her hatred and dread being in the same house with her try to find another place to live. She would probably love that. It is your home also and you have rights. One of those rights is not to not dread being there and fearing her power over you and your father.This is an excellent opportunity for you to learn to stand up for yourself. Do it.