I hate my stepdad, what should I do?
Tough one!I had a step dad, 2 step mom's and foster parents. My wife also has a stepdad. So, with almost 40 years experience ;It's a tough starting point as the stepdad will feel the bond between mom and child and can perceive this as threatening or having priority over the marriage.As a child we can easily perceive the stepdad as an invader.The first thing is from our side to respect the stepparent as a human being and accept the choice of our mother and cultivate and express acceptance of the stepparent.We first need to take responsibility for our own role and attitude.If we feel hatred, acknowledge that. Likely we'll find an excuse for it but acting on it doesn't bring solutions.If there is hurtful behavior from the stepparent, address it by describing the behaviour and how it impacted you. Avoid accusations.Parents and children don't choose each other. Similar with stepparents.If there is physical or emotional abuse that is different of course. Draw boundaries.To resolve conflict takes both sides to take responsibility, communicate and build the relationship.Also because mom is involved, and her happiness, these are relationships worth fighting for.Hope this helps.
My stepdad hates me what should i do?
Hi im 15 and my step dad hates me what should i do. he moved in with us about 3 years ago and it was really hard because one day we were living with my dad then that night mum woke us up and said pack your bag were leaving. the next day we were at his house. anyway my mum and step dad have had a baby. shes very cute and i love her. but my step dad im not going to say everything he has done it will take to long, but the thing is i cant remember the last time he has done something nice for me, when we moved in with him i had a cat and i loved him SO much he was the best. but the cat peed on the floor and my step dad kicked him outside for a day. the next day he came back inside and my step dad hit the cat over and over again SO hard and my cat ran away :( ive never seen him since. and my little sister who was 8 started crying and he hit her so much to over and over again and i was in the lounge with my mum and we could hear him hitting her i was sooo scared so when he came in i yelled at him to never touch my cat or here again and i told him i hated him. my mum got mad and yelled at me to go to my room. today i was making a hot milo and i asked him if he wanted one, he never anwerd so 5 minutes later he made himself some..we were both in the kitchen when he yells out STOP BEING SMART and i just get so mad i start screaming at him WHAT DID I DO!! now my mum is mad at me and she hasn't spoken to me since. im so sad i havent cryed so much in a long time. im not going to say any other stories because it would take forever but he always lies saying i said stuff and did stuff when i didn't. hes never said anything more than hi to me for as long as i can remember? whats wrong with me? why does he hate me?
I Hate My Stepdad so much !!?
Ok so basically a few years ago my sister Chloe died from cancer(brain tumour). i was so upset i couldnt go to school for like 3 months, and my mum was single and chloe was the person who held everything together, knew mums likes and dislikes whereas i wasnt as close to her being the younger sibling and all, (chloe was 15 when she passed away and this was in 2011 her birthday is on january 28th so she would be 18 this tuesday coming im 14 now btw) so in 2012 around october time she met a man called Phil at a friends birthday party and my mum explained it as love at first sight, my mums the manager at our nearby barclays branch and gets quite a lot of money a year i wouldnt call her rich but we live in a sizeable house so anyway a few months ago i think in like july last year he moved in with us, he seemed ok i guess but of course he doesnt match up to our dad. so when phil moved in with us he had no job, he still has no job he just stays at home and i HATE HIM !, wanna know why i hate him okay well so when its the weekend he just stays at home and doesnt go out and what gets right on my nerves is that he doesnt even have the decency to thank my mum for the dinner she gives him and she works 10 hour shifts from 8 till 6 and he cant even go out and get a job, and he hogs the tv all the time and he never washes hardly only when mum gets home he acts like he went out and got a job and he threatens me not to tell her and sometimes he fakes having an injury so mum can wait on him hand and foot. i hate him so much. he always buys things out of my mums money and i have a feeling hes cheating on her going out late sometimes when mums in bed and coming home tired in the morning, also i think hes trying to take half of everything because he said the otherday that we should all be equal and asked her for the account numbers because it should be a family accounti hate him so much. AND GUESS WHAT ELSE.. he said we cant visit Chloes grave on tuesday because hes visiting his old friend sheila in alabama so we have to get a flight there, my mum doesnt even say anything, because shes afraid hes gonna beat her again which he does in secret sometimes, what should i do ? i hate him so much and i miss my sister being there she would know what to do :(.
I hate my stepdad what do I do?
My stepdad was really cool when I first met him but then when he got me and my sisters permission to propose to my mom he stopped doing stuff with us. Then we moved to a new house and he put a hate in the middle of our house so my cat can't get upstairs cause he's scared my cat will ruin his furniture. He's done a lot of stuff before, he always has huge temper tantrums and starts acting like a baby and he's really disrespectful and one time he opened our door wide open so my cat could get outside (he's an indoor cat) because he was mad at us. I know it seems like small things but it all ads up and now both me and my sis hate him, but whenever we talk about it they never listen to us and it's always our fault. Today I got in a fight with him and he kept putting words in my mouth and pretending he never did all those things. But what really crossed the line for me is that he's so mean to my mom and he'll yell at her and she'll be sitting there sobbing asking him to keep his voice down and hell just laugh at her. But my mom always forgives him and sides with him and acts like nothing happened. What should I do?
I hate my step dad. What should I do?
Short answer: There's nothing you can do.Long answer: Dealing with parents can be extremely hard. Personally, I lost my father two years ago and my mom almost instantly (two months later) met another man online. My father died in April, my mother met my stepdad in late May, and he lived with us by September. My mother abandoned me for two months with my brother to go stay with my stepdad in Arizona, while I was still grieving. Basically, I have a lot of anger and resentment left over from this. Either way, my new soon-to-be stepdad isn't the best person, to say the least. He treats me much differently (worse) than he treats his own daughter, and says very cruel things to win an argument. He constantly blames me for things I haven't done and my mom believes him, and it's extremely frustrating. Because I broke my phone last month, and currently am unable to pay for my own (my mother is also unable to pay for a nice phone for me), my stepdad pays for it, which is kind, but he uses it as leverage against me. Anything I say wrong turns into me losing my phone for however long he’d like. Usually a few hours. He once gave me a list of things to do in order to get my phone back, so I completed the list and he still wouldn't give it back because he “"doesn't make deals with children.”Our relationship is awful, and he thinks that I like him more than I would admit. I don't, and likely never will.I’m explaining all of this to easily answer your question. No matter how much you hate someone, there is likely no quick, rational solution besides waiting it out. Unless your mother decides to leave him, you'll always be stuck with him. Just try to cope for now.
I hate my step-dad. What should I do?
Well David's technically not my step dad yet. My mom is engaged to him and we all live together in a three bedroom apartment. It's a nice apartment and David pays for less than half the rent because he doesn't have a job. My mom met him almost a year ago and they are moving way too fast. David loves my older brother and hates my younger one. I hate the way he treats my little brother. He's only ten and he isn't the neatest kid but he's still just a kid. The other day he thought my brother took a bite out of the ham so he smushed it in his face. It didn't hurt him but I think that is crossing boundaries. I hate hate hate David. He also hates me. He says I'm spoiled and he doesn't like my personality. He also hates my friends and talks crap about them really loud so I can hear. He and I have gotten in to yelling matches and I'm just done with it all. I want to move out but I'm only 14. I have a lot of friends though so I think it could work. My mom sees both sides of the arguments but she is getting really stressed because me and David cant stop fighting. David is an asshole and he acts like he owns the place when he doesn't. My mom does so much more than him. I wish he would leave. I don't know what to do. I'm getting depressed living with them. My older brother only takes David's side and it really hurts. Sometimes I'm so unhappy I feel like I just want to end my life. It scares me. I have no idea what to do. Please help me. Should I move out? I don't know. I love my mom and my brothers and I don't want to leave but I'm so unhappy and I hate it. David acts like hes five. He seriously so immature and I just cant stand it.
I hate my step dad what do i do?
I'm 20 years old and recently had to move back in with my mother. She has been married to this man since I was 12 we have never got alone I mean never. Now that I'm grown he feels that it is OK to complain to me about what him and my mom have going on.......... so ******* annoying. But the most annoying thing he dose that makes my ****** brain bleed is every time he hears me go in the kitchen to eat be comes down stairs and looks to see what I'm eating I'm talking breakfast lunch and dinner. When he comes down he acts like he's throwing sumthing away or getting water but the hole time he is looking at my plate.if he dose not come down you can hear him mute his loud *** TV just so he can hear what I'm opening. I don't eat alot at all he just dose it to piss me off. What can I do to get even or not let him piss me off so much
I hate my step-dad, what should I do?
Yeah, I'm 13 too, and my moms boyfriend is just like that. When my mom and him fight I usually yell at him to stop it and to leave.
I hate my stepdad SO much I wish he would die?
I can't describe my hatred for him, he is a horrible evil selfish disgusting human being. He ruins my family, I LOVE living here when he's out but when he's in I feel like running away. I wish he was dead. I wish I could kill him. Everyone's life would be better off without him, but my mum won't divorce him or move out, even though she says she hates him.. What should I do? I can not ever resolve this with him or talk to him by the way, it's not some silly little fall out or anything. Ive despised him for the 11 years I've known him. I'm 16 btw.