What should I do if I hate my family?
I hate My family too :(I can remember feeling like an outcast as early as the age of 5. I remember my mom beating me and calling me a whore for discovering masterbation. I was 7 when I was ripped out of a room full of kids and verbally assisted by my mother. As the years went on I was Always looked at as the bad apple. At 11 my mom would leave me to watch my two younger sisters who had formed an Alliance against me. It was. Constant bullying. At 12 I was Labeled a slut. I wasnt Even sexually active. At 13 I was A whore and a druggie. Again never even tried either. At 14 a was told to stay home from school because some girls wanted to fight me and the school I went to was full of racists and druggies. Mind you I am A white girl. The racism was coming mainly from a group of Guamanian girls who hated me over a boy. At 14 my moms friend tried to have sex with me. He was 36. Guess who my mom blamed for that? 15 I finally Had sex. I didn’t know how to handle that at such a young age especially with no real sex talk other than ““if you have sex you are a whore and nobody will marry you and you will be a waste”I got Pregnant. I was About 5 months along when I finally Told my dad. He forced me to have an abortion that almost cost me my life. He didn’t care. I had To write goodbye letters to my family. It was constant abuse again. Because now. I really Was a whore to them. At 17 I koved Out. At 19 I got Pregnant. At 20 my daughter almost lost her future. I struggle every day to stay happy and to feel the love of my children and the love of the small percentage of good people still out there. I have No real home and I have No real family. Life is really hard for me right now.
I'm really ugly. I'm uncomfortable when I look at myself, I feel ashamed. How do I stop caring about it and start caring/developing my inner self?
Hey beautiful,There is nothing like ugliness on earth. I do not believe in ugliness. But if you think you are ugly, you may have to look in the mirror once again. I know you are talking about your skin tone, the pimple marks on your skin,your hairs,your height, your dressing sense. But think once, does it really matters… NO!!! Because you are beautiful just the way you are. Inner beauty is the real beauty. I know you feel bad when all your friends looks gorgeous and other person pay more attention on your friends more than you. You may feel unwanted but have you ever think about that no one stay beautiful forever. Beauty is made to fed one day…Love is the slave of beauty. Some see the upper beauty and some looks for the inner beauty. So, don’t ever think you are ugly if you have a good heart.Moving to the next part of your question, i just want to say one think. DEVELOP YOUR SELF ESTEEM.You just have to accept these following steps in your life:-BE CONFIDENT: Always think you are the best. And never let your inner self down.BE POLITE: Be careful while talking to others. Never scream for no reason. And be generous toward others.BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: If you think you are ugly then trust me,you will look ugly because our body language depends on how we feels.ADORE YOURSELF: Never forget to complement yourself. Look in the mirror and say “you are beautiful”.REWARD YOURSELF: When you think you are doing well. You are going with a flow with your life then reward yourself with small gifts you like. It will boost your self esteem.STAY BUSY: Keep yourself busy with your work. And when you do not have anything to do,read books. Make a habit of reading books. It will develop your mind,Improve your knowledge,And boost your self motivation.YOUR DIGNITY IS YOUR FIRST PRIORITY: Remember one thing. You have some self respect and if someone says you are ugly then never let yourself down because of someone’s shit like comment. Respect yourself, Everything need respect. You and your inner beauty also need respect. And no one is going to respect you until you respect yourself first.If you want some changes in you. Then do changes with yourThe way of talking.The way you walk.The way you dress yourself.The way you make your hairs.The way you eat.And most important.The way you see yourself.Thanks..
How can i stop being so socially awkward and shy?
The key sentence in this thread was "I hate myself so much". Change THAT, and your self esteem will boost, as will your confidence. Confidence is what shy people lack, and that, is what you need. I've had a similar problem throughout my life. I was always the shy kid from at least the age of 6, and now I'm a Uni student and lately I've been doing so well in my course that my confidence rose three-fold. Surprisingly, I am the one being approached now. Seeing as I'm constantly smiling and walking like I'm about to find a cure for cancer, everybody is talking to me and I don't mind talking to people I don't know anymore, and it's great, because I've met lots and lots of people! Don't worry you'll grow out of it. Just stop hating yourself.
What's the best way to move on after your partner cheats on you?
It will take a lot of emotional maturity to understand what I am saying. But I think it should help—First, don’t hate the third person. It’s not him/her who primarily wronged you, it’s your partner.It’s not about you. Say that a thousand times till it sinks in. Cheating is not about you. It’s about your partner. It’s about the kind of person your partner had become in the relationship, that they were trying to get away from, not you.You are neither the first person nor the last one in this world who's seeing this.It's not the end of the world, it’ll pass.Be compassionate. Be kind to the partner who cheated. Clearly, if they are deceiving, they are deceiving their own selves more than anyone else, and that’s sad.Take a break. If there’s cheating involved, the relationship was most likely already suffering and after cheating, it's going to be worse.Since you asked how to move on—Focus on yourself. Cheating is going to affect your self esteem, you are going to feel rejected. Take care of yourself. Tell yourself it's not about you.Focus on work, other relationships for a while. Remember you weren’t able to give so much time to your parents because of your relationship? Maybe it’s time you spend some time with them. Or friends. Or other familial relationships.Take a break altogether from relationships. You are going to be tempted to have casual relationships, or things like that. If you are clear that’s what you want, then great. But chances are, you are in an emotional turmoil already. Best to not involve other people without clarity.Read. Travel. Indulge in your hobbies and other interests.After a while, get back at dating people. At trusting them.Know that you are not entitled to anybody. Work on yourself. Make your next relationship such that even if the spouse is attracted to someone else, they feel safe telling that to you.Invest in human relations again. Don’t be defensive or negative. Be open to new possibilities. Learn to trust again. And learn that trusting again is about you and not the other.
Why does having things touching my neck make me feel so uncomfortable?
You are fine. Some people can't wear turtlenecks, others can't bear to wear a wrist watch or the feel of wool. Some people are ticklish. Some aren't. You have a sensitive neck. I am the same way. No turtlenecks for me! I don't wear clothing with high collars and I'm very uncomfortable with necklaces that touch the base of my neck. "Uncomfortable" means I immediately rip it off. Once I tried to force myself to "get over it" and wore a turtleneck to work. I stopped on my way to the office to buy a blouse to wear instead. Couldn't do it. It was driving me nuts. I am also very sensitive to the feel of fabrics. A few suggestions that might help. Wear soft polo shirts with an opened neck. The shirt and tie is a tough one -- I've often wondered how I would manage if I wear a man. Have yourself professionally measured to make sure you are buying the correct size. Don't have the shirts starched. Buy the softest fabrics. Experiment with larger neck sizes. You can buy button extenders to give yourself a bit more room. See if removing the collar stays help. Consider shirt stays designed to keep your shirt tucked in. It just may hold the collar down further on your neck. Lobby hard for business casual dress (good luck with that -- it would be easier to change industries!). And don't lay down wearing a collared a shirt on. FYI, my brother was born with the cord round his neck. He liked turtlenecks just fine.
How to preserve old currency (Notes and Coins)?
I have a lot of old coins and old notes. I mean really old by my age (some are older than 50 years) A few of them are soiled and dirty, some of the notes (made of paper) are worn out. What is the best (and hopefully not too expensive) way to: 1. Clean them (dirt, oil and other stuff I don't think I wanna know about ;) ) 2. Restore them if possible at all (some of the coins have faded markings) 3. Preserve them for longevity