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I Hate Old People Who Demand Respect Because They

Tolerance is not a precept of morality. It is a peace treaty that allows very different people to coexist. Those protected by the peace treaty are required to adhere to its requirements, in this case that means the principles of tolerance.But a peace treaty permits retaliation against those who violate it, because a peace treaty is not a suicide pact. To tolerate intolerance is to hand victory to the intolerant without resistance, the treaty breaks down and the benefits to society are lost.Those who break the treaty are no longer protected by it, and will not be tolerated so long and they continue to flout it.There is an unfortunate tendency, however, for those in society who are in some way privileged by their position (for example, by belonging to a majority religion), to assume that they are similarly preferentially privileged by the treaty of tolerance. They assume then that it is their place and right to target and harass those they deem unworthy of respect and protection. They may see it as their right to institute laws and policies that harm these groups while further privileging their own. And they have the nerve to call out resistance against this action as “intolerant”. Well I’m sorry! They broke the peace treaty! They don’t get to pick these fights with people less powerful than themselves and still claim possession of the moral high ground, and they certainly don’t get to do it without response and consequence.Sometimes people who do respect the treaty of tolerance get caught in the crossfire. This is a mistake, and for that I’m sorry. Still others believe they are respecting the treaty while unconsciously battling on the front lines. They too will complain of being caught in the crossfire. I suggest that they instead wake up and realise their responsibility.

AbsolutelyOld people, generally, are frail, a bit slow and have almost a century-worth of experiences clocked in that mind of theirs.They're used to being “too slow” for people walking behind them, not being ‘relevant’ anymore compared to the general population, and often get the vibe from society that they're useless or not needed anymore.Some of them have a kind soul, and will give you a smile or short conversation if you give them a friendly word or acknowledgement.Others have succumbed to the pain that comes with living so many years, either mental or physical, and can be kind of negative and crabby.Either way, there's much to learn from them. I sat down for lunch at Whole Foods not too long ago and found myself across from a WWII vet ... I was working on my laptop at the time but we got into a conversation which turned out to be memorable. I learned that he used to load bombs into the B52 bombers during the war and had many stories, wise words and even folk songs. But what stuck with me the most was this:“People around here get so attached to the things they have, and always seem to be running around chasing more. But what everyone seems to forget is that you can't take any of it with you. Time flies by and will be gone in a jiffy - before you know it. And you can't take any of it with you. Remember that."Quite profound!Talking with elderly can also takes us outside the bubble of everyday thoughts and patterns that we confine ourselves in. It's such a different perspective that you get a glimpse of when chatting with them and hearing their experiences and opinions. Can you imagine what it was like back in the day of 1940, being a teenager and going to war with all of your friends against a powerful evil dictator thousands of miles away over the oceans? How different things were just 80 years ago?How different they will surely be 80 years from now?Anyway, I managed to snap a little photo with the new friend I made.So yes, respect the elderly. You just might benefit from slowing down and having a chat.

Culture has changed -- the elders of a community used to be respected because they were experts in all the technology necessary for survival. Now, the concept of "community" has changed, and the technology being taught and learned is being transmitted from the young to the old.IME older people are more resistant to learning things when it's a younger (much younger) person teaching it, and the older person is resentful and disparaging in an attempt to retain or inspire respect or servility on the part of the younger person. The younger person just sees this as being rude and unpleasant, and loses respect for the older person because they're treating the younger person so badly.Respect is earned in the world today, and the quickest way to lose it is to act as if you're entitled to it.

Existence. Some people demand a signal of existence from others. Respect from others as a signal of recognition that he or she does exist.Some people no need acknowledgement from others, they may found themselves through continues personal journey finding self. But some kinda man will only find themselves through acknowledgement from others, a respect.

Not everything is disrespect because you don’t see the righteousness behind it.Not everyone is raised a mama’s boy. Some of us had to grow up in an UPWARD AND PROGRESSIVE direction over time, and that means we’re not nice people 24/7.This is the most basic reason: Mental illnessStupidityNot being gratefulNot being grateful for sexism (Sarcasm, here.)Girls who disrespect their mothers and whatnot are doing it because it’s part of their personalized development. If you failed to miss this, because you don’t understand different species of mental health for the different sexes, then you will probably not understand that this is how mothers LEAD their female children to maintain their mental drive.Boys who do not respect their mothers are an interesting case. Most of the time, they’re simply intelligently not listening to their desires, because they know better. Mothers cannot pretend that they understand male existence, because most people cannot grasp complicated things amidst busy life.

Why do parents demand respect?

It isn't the parents themselves that should be respected. It's their authority in the home. Parents are the first authority figures a person faces. And if a child can't learn to respect the parental authority in the home, they will have a hard time respecting other authority figures later in life.

When you are out of the home, your parents are no longer an authority figure in your life, but you should respect your parents with the common decency that you give other people.

I totally see your point. I had a rather dysfunctional upbringing. I was physically and emotionally abused all throughout my childhood. I had a real hard time respecting my parents when I was growing up. Fortunately, I had enough respect for their authority as my parents to keep me out of trouble even though I didn't have respect for them per se. Somehow, they instilled in me (even though life sucked when I lived with them) a respect for authority figures in my life. You can respect a person's authority with out respecting the person him or herself.

Do old people deserve extra respect just for being old?

I'm going to get a lot of crap for writing my answer but, here I go anyway.

This is a big topic to me because I firmly believe that NO ONE, young or old, male or female deserves unconditional respect! The level of respect a person should be given should be decided on the type of person they are. If someone is cruel to me or people in general why should I give them respect? It makes no sense to me to give unconditional respect to anyone, and yes I mean anyone!

I also don't agree with putting up with mistreatment from someone just because they are a certain relation to you. It makes me so angry when I hear people excuse unacceptable behavior and/or abuse (verbal, emotional or physical) because of the family "title" the person holds (example, "because he's my father", "because she's my aunt", etc). People should be held to their actions and not excused because of age, gender, position or relation. I know many people don't agree with me but this is what I believe.

I love my family and I think having family around can be great. However, if there are toxic people in said family you can't excuse it just because you share a blood line. There are several members (including my father and his parents) that I have nothing to do with because of their behavior and direct treatment of me. Why should I deal with toxic people who cause nothing but stress and hurt just because of how they are related to me or because they're seniors? Do I attack them or wish them harm? No, but I don't have to put up with it either.

If I show someone respect, it's because they deserve it. It's based on who they are as a person not WHAT they are. I have plenty of people in my life that I have a great deal of respect for but it's not unconditional. Few people agree with me and most think I'm crazy. Usually though, the only reason they can give me to give respect to older people or certain family members is, "just because" or "that's just what you do". To me, that's not a good enough reason.

Interesting question!
Brit

I can see where you're coming from.  But what I support is this.  No one can know what a person's life has been made up of.  No one can know the battles, the challenges, the heartaches or the victories a person of age has endured and survived.  What was taken from them?  What was given?  How did they sacrifice, create, give to the world?  You cannot see their moments of kindness.  You, like so many others, are blind to the richness that the tapestry of their lives wove into the world in which you live.Yes there are grumpy old buggers and sweet little old ladies.  People are both ignorant and wise.  But that is true of young and old alike.To my mind, one can never know enough about anyone, not to show some respect.  To respect another human being is a personal victory.  It shows maturity and character. It is best to see the beauty and value in the elderly, and have compassion for a journey that has worn their bodies down, moved with great force through their minds and given them wisdom you have yet to obtain.  That alone is cause for respect.  Soon they will be gone from this world.  What can it hurt you to have a kind heart?Otherwise, one may become a fool who is more full of what he doesn't know than what he could know.One day you too will be old.  Do you really want to foster the belief that the elderly are not to be respected?

Why do old people think they are entitled to respect?

I totally agree, this is why I try to respect even those younger than me because I know it feels like **** when an older person thinks it's okay to treat you like ****. I'm a young adult though, not 40+

While we often cannot direct the path of our innermost feelings, we do have the ability to understand their origins and to control how we interact with them. You are asking for that. That is a good thing. It demonstrates your awareness of the problem and that you are open to altering it. How you go about doing that is secondary to the desire.Try keeping in your mind that old people are people, not all the same, not all pleasant to be around, like children; no? You do not have to like them or being with them, but you do have to respect them as people. We all have people in our lives with whom we would rather not spend time. We do it for reasons of accommodation and practicality. The fact that those types in your life are old is not condemnation of old people; it is condemnation of these two old people.Would you feel the same in the presence of two young people who presented the same distasteful behaviors due to some emotional or social difficulties? If not, you do have an unsupportable age bias. If so, it is not their age that you dislike about your husband’s grandparents; it is them. Nothing wrong with that.