I hate going out in public?
Wow, I used to feel the exact same way, but it's gotten better over the years. I didn't mind going places with my friends, but if I was alone, I would rather stay home. And I'd rather not run into people I know in public plaes, too. Sometimes, if I saw them but they didn't see me, I would go some other way. Then there are all of those parties I missed because I was insecure and couldn't count on how things would be once I came since my peers thought I was a square and didn't want to hang with me, and the older people thought I couldn't relate to them and only wanted to talk with each other. At one point, I was pretty much antisocial, and it would've been very easy for me to be a recluse. Do you also hate when the same person says hi to you more than once in a day? I hate that so much. It's like, we've all been here and no one left, and you just said hi to me a half hour ago. I know there is temptation to say hi again when you are walking down the hall and see the same person again but don't have anything to say to them except hi, but silence is good too. But like I said, I've gotten a lot better. I think developing a more friendly personality helped me to make more friends and meet more people. What I did is decide that I wasn't going to be shy and reserved anymore. The first few days, I just pretended to be outgoing and charming, but after a while it became a part of my personality. I still have my shy moments when "the walls" come up, but for the most part, I'm okay in social settings. For more info about making friends, check out http://www.watchtower.org/e/20041208/art...
Why do public school kids hate home schoolers?
I don't understand it, that's for sure. A homeschooled teen who babysits for us now and then gets that crap from public schooled teens she knows through her sports. She was hanging out just fine with about 5 of them a couple of summers ago, becoming good friends, and then the question came up one day: Where do you go to school? She told them she homeschooled. Since that day, this one girl treats her like dirt and actually calls her "social retard" to her face and spreads that all around to those who don't know the homeschooled girl very well. Fortunately, most of the kids aren't like that, but there's always such an expectation that homeschooled kids are going to be weird. One friend of the above-mentioned, when finding out she was homeschooled, blurted out, "But you're so normal!" The friend's vision of homeschoolers was that they were all hippy-like, more into just living the earth than knowing anything academic, definitely not into sports... What it really boils down to is misconceptions combined with judgementalism.
I hate going out in public because I'm ugly?
I have absolutely no confidence right now. I fear going out in public because I'm afraid somebody will see me and I'll ruin their day. I don't like hanging out with anybody anymore, not even my own family, because I feel like an embarrassment to them and it's best if I just stay in my room and not bother them. I feel belittled by everybody and I'm not sure what to do anymore. I've tried reading optomistic quotes and telling myself that I have as much of a right to be alive as a beautiful person does, but I feel trapped inside of myself and feel like I would be able to pursue my interests (such as guitar, gymnastics, and animal rights...) if I didn't feel like such a disgusting wanna-be. I want to make friends and be happy with myself. Each day I'm getting fatter and fatter because I just sit in my room and don't feel worthy enough to exercise because it's for beautiful people so that they can stay beautiful. So, should I seek pro. help or can I get through this on my own? Thanks.
Can a shy person be a teacher?
Absolutely! I was painfully shy when I was in school. Oral presentations were something to be dreaded and put off as long as possible, and I never volunteered to answer a question in class. Now I have been teaching for 4 years and am getting ready to start my 5th year teaching high school math. It was hard at first to make myself get up in front of that many people, and I know the first year I made a lot of mistakes, but I got more confident. Now I am still nervous about the first day of school because I have to talk to about 120 new students in one day. By the second week of school, though, I am not nervous anymore because they are my students in my classroom. I am not saying that you will instantly get over being shy if you become a teacher. I still don't feel comfortable talking with a group of strangers, but I am more willing to introduce myself to one or two new people at a meeting than I was a few years ago. One of my teachers in high school was one of the most outspoken teachers on campus, but when we had career day she said that when she was in school, she would have to go throw up before any time she had to speak in public. You just have to make up your mind that it is what you really want to do and then go for it. More power to you if you succeed at a career that scares you at first-you will be a stronger person because of it.
I hate when people accuse me of being a "rich snob" or a "label whore"?
For the most part, every time I am out in public (whether it be at school, at a store, and even at church), there are people who will look at me and accuse me being a stuck-up person and an attention-seeker just because I am wearing clothes with a designer label on it. Let me explain. Ever since I was little, my parents would dress me up in designer clothes. I never grew up rich (and I'm still not even close to what you would consider rich, either), and my parents only got those clothes if they were on sale. Well, when I started to grow older, I realized that I loved designer clothes more and more. So much, I even got a job when I was 15 and I started splurging on designer clothes often. However, I have never worn designer clothes because I think I am better than anyone else. I have never been rude or stuck-up to anybody. I don't even walk around with my nose in the air or smirk at anyone! I only wear those clothes because I like looking good and I know that I am the one who bought them with my hard-earned money, not with my parent's money. I just don't want people to judge me so quickly because I wear what I choose to wear. But almost everywhere I go, people either tell me I seem like a stuck-up person, or they glare at me. In fact, one incident happened just last week. I live in Chicago where it is a little colder than other parts of the country during fall and winter, and I bought a $500 Burberry jacket from Saks Fifth Avenue (I even got it 20%). Well, when I wore the jacket to school, people I didn't know, and even some of my friends immediately pounced on me and said I am such a "rich snob" and I act so self-centered! Please tell me how I can make people realize that I am not trying to impress anybody with my clothes. I bought them with my hard-earned money and I deserve every right to dress with that I think looks good, right?
What made you hate a person you once loved?
Usually what happen is that firstly we like someone’s company and start liking small things like they laugh at your jokes, they hold your hand while walking at public places, makes you feel comfortable around them, support you in every possible wa, take your side while debating, etc. and we feel like may be this is “LOVE” because its a human tendency specially the opposite sex.If some guy and a girl start spending time together even as a friend a liking develops for each other and it becomes a routine to spend time together. When we don’t meet that person we feel like something is missing from their schedule. After this usually someone proposes the other and they accept that proposal and a relationship starts.When in relationship we start keeping expectations from each other and late night calls and chats, tagging each other in photos on social media, hanging out more often, etc.The hate part starts when the either the boy or girl expect something from each other and when their interest don’t match then they start to hate each other. This expectations and getting disappointment keep on going and we make a mental image of the person that this person always disagrees with me i hate him/her.Usually guys look for hook-ups and just thinking of that they enter in a relationship that they will get physical and whatever it is and in then end they hurt the girl emotionally.Same is with the girls, they will be in relationship with different guys at the same time. The guys keep on spending money and buying her gifts and girl keep using the guys money for shopping and various luxuries like dinning in a five star restaurants, etc.This all leads to hating either for guy or girl who once loved the other person truly.
If a person is terrified of public speaking, does he have any chance of becoming a good lawyer?
Yes, you can even become a litigator! When I entered law school, I had such an intense dislike of public speaking that I thought I was going to have a heart attack during moot court my first year. It was a required activity, so I had to participate. Fast forward 3 years— After passing the bar I had an active duty requirement (Army) because of a 4 year scholarship I had been awarded to go to college. My Army “jobs” seemed to require multiple sessions teaching classes and going to weekly staff meetings with my “clients.” After the Army I moved on an became an Assistant U.S. Attorney (weird for someone who hates public speaking!) and later an immigration litigator in DOJ, and later, after 9/11, in DHS. It was not unusual in the immigration arena to spend 20+ hours a week in court. As I moved into management there was a steady demand/requirement to speak at conferences and teach in- house classes. Often I was speaking to groups of 50 to 200+ people. Somewhere along the way the fear vanished.I do not think I ever became a great, charismatic speaker, but I did ok. I learned my subjects and could talk about them with authority. No one is going to offer me $25,000+ to speak at a “rubber chicken” dinner event, but I was invited back to many conferences and events, so as I said above, I did ok. The constant requirement to “speak” and render opinions at staff meetings showed me that my lack of confidence was holding me back. When I objectively watched other “speakers” I saw that most of them were not any better than I was and many were much worse!Implicit in your question is how did I get over my fear, which in my case was irrational fear that I was somehow going to be found out to be a fraud. Constant exposure and a willingness to take on my fears was what helped me. I got over all that and so can you!Good luck!
I am absolutely terrified of public speaking. ?
Everyone's afraid of public speaking. Practice your speech, so you know it well. Pick out some friendly faces to look at around the classroom (1 on the right side, 1 on the left, 1 in the middle or some such arrangement). You can tell them beforehand "I'm going to look at you". They can encourage you and help you feel more comfortable. Read slowly. Look up, find one of your friendly faces, look them in the eye and talk to them as if there's no one else in the room. Repeat. Tell yourself "SLOW DOWN". Nervous people speak fast. The faster they speak, the more nervous they get. You can always slow down. If you listen to a presidential speech, it's pretty darn slow. Every crowd has some disrespectful idiots in it. Ignore them. Good luck.
Why does everyone hate me?
I bet when you clicked on this question you automatically hated me. I think I'm subconsciously hated by everyone. Always hated just never aware. I think sometimes I lack self-awareness and talk to people, but I know they don't want to be my friend. It's everyone. Every single person. For instance, yesterday I commented on a persons status and I was shaking and subconsciously biting my nails after I wrote it. They didn't reply. That was my fear, rejection, and it seems like every time I try to "put myself out there" I get knocked down. It's not just that. During the 3 month holidays I didn't go out and meet "friends". Not once. Whenever I tried to meet up with someone, I'd ring them up and ask if they were still coming, and they "forgot" about it. Or maybe they said they'd meet up with me to lead me on and felt bad about rejecting me to my face, so they just cancelled at the last minute. I'm an embarrassment. People ALWAYS tell me to be more outgoing but how can I when I'm CONSTANTLY getting rejected by everyone? It just feels like sometimes I don't want to live because I'm really lonely. I don't have 1 ******* friend. NOT 1 FRIEND!! I try to make friends online, too. Whenever I write them a message asking them how they're doing, THEY DON'T REPLY. What is it about me? Should I just give up? It doesn't matter what path I take I'm always pushed to the side.