Feeling down... MIL hates my baby's name...?
I'm 32 weeks pregnant, just had an ultrasound this morning... MIL works at the hospital so we went for a visit after the ultrasound. We weren't going to announce the baby's name till later but my 3 year old walked up my mother-in-law's coworker and told her she saw baby Chloe on the tv (ultrasound monitor). My MIL's reaction? "Chloe? Seriously?" I feel so hurt by her reaction... I'm probably just hormonal but I'm having a hard time getting over this. I'm not looking forward to the family Christmas party at all now, I'm not excited to hear her snide remarks while she tells everyone what a horrible name we picked for the baby... If your family hated your child's name, did they get over it at birth? If not, did they like your child less because of a bad name? What is so wrong with Chloe anyway? :(
I hate seeing a happy family?
I was adopted too. I know how you feel. That feeling that things are a little 'off kilter' is something I'm all too familiar with but, there is a reason you were put up for adoption & you have to spend alot of time thinking about that before you go off thinking you "want to find your mum". Do you really? Seriously think this through. You have to prepare yourself for what you may find. There is a hard truth that you have no choice but to face here: You were given up. Don't fill your head with fantasies that she was forced to do it or that she's out there looking for you too, or she's some rich person who was confused & once you two are re-united live will be full at last!...come on. Be prepared for what you may find...or just let it be. How your life turns out has nothing to do with who or where your mum is....she has had nothing to do with it.
I hate my newborn baby?
Okay so first of all, to everyone saying hateful things to this poor, newly-mothered woman needs to shut the **** up right now. PPD is a completely normal thing for many new mothers and there is no need to make the situation worse by telling her that she is terrible. Holly, this is completely normal and you are NOT a bad mother. Many mothers go through this, it's just a stage of life. If you seek help from your doctor ASAP he will give you some PPD- medication. No need to worry, they will help you immensely! You do love your daughter, you will get over this feeling, no worries! And don't listen to all those haters, they are clearly ignorant on this matter. I just recommend to get help from your doctor. You don't need to go through this alone.
Is it strange that I don't feel love towards my family?
Don’t go back to them! I swear! They will hurt you again. This time , even more!It is only for time being. They are probably nice to you since you are far away or they want you to do something .I had the same problem, I faced hate from my childhood. When I wanted to marry the person I loved, they threw me out of home( which is very odd for an Indian girl). I married and settled. Recently my mom fell sick and went into coma. Slowly my brother came sweetly to take my help. I was pregnant with my second child then. I literally suffered day and night sitting in hospital waiting rooms and infected places to take care of my mother. I helped them financially also without the knowledge of my husband.Now my mom has recovered now she is asking me what had I done for her and that only my brother was good for her. I have even carried my new born baby to all places to take care of her. But what now!She has no heart. I felt so heartbroken. We left the city and came to live with my in laws, she or my brother had not even called up to ask how I was till now. Whatever I have is my my husband’s family and they are not like my family. They are good.That’s why I am telling you. Just don’t go back and break your heart again, they will use you and throw you again. Stay away!
I feel disappointed for being born in a poor Indian family. What should I do?
People think that since I'm from the USA that I'm rich and I'm a spoiled brat. It's actually quite the opposite.My parents weren't exactly poor nor were they rich. They were somewhere inbetween, but we've lived our lives as if we were poor because we didn't have enough resources. We've lived our lives on limited food because my dad didn't have a job, nor did he have any money. My family didn't help us out either. We've been homeless, we've lived with someone else because we had no where to go. But at the same time, we've had opportunities of good fortune where my parents did spoil me by getting me things I never even asked for. We traveled, we ate at five star restaurants, we went on adventures.What I'm trying to tell you is don't be disappointed. You've been given a very valuable lesson in life, one that you didn't ask for. From a very young age, you've been taught how to live life with limited money and resources, which is a skill. Many people aren't fortunate to have that skill.It's easy to go from poor to rich, and rich to poor because you'll be able to adjust. You'll know how to live life while you're struggling. Sure, maybe somewhere and somehow, it'll be difficult to understand the who, what, where, when, why, and how's of everything, but you'll figure it out, because you have the skill. Your family has gone through it, so you can too.On the other hand I think it'll be extremely difficult to go from rich to poor because one doesn't have the survival skills that are necessary. I have a friend who's father is extremely rich, he hasn't seen struggle in his life, and wastes his dad's money as if it's water. I know for a fact that if (and I hope this doesn't happen) he becomes poor, he won't be able to survive.For me, I've seen the best of both worlds. I know how to live life if I'm not financially stable and I know what to do with my money when I am. All I can say is that if you really want the best future, work hard, but don't be disappointed of your background. You are who you are because of them, and only them. Be proud of yourself and them for never giving up.
I hurt my baby sister,why dont i feel guilty?
Recently my parents had a new baby, shes 4 months old now. I'm 15 and was 14 when they had her. I hate my baby sister, my parents have very little time for anymore and no matter what i did, break my curfew, leave the house when i'm grounded, get bad grades, my parents refused to notice me. It was all about her. I was really mad last week as I had a dance competition i had been training for for months and was really looking forward to, i had saved up loads of money and bought new dance shoes for it but last minute my mum and dad said they couldnt take me as my little sister was too tired to travel and they both wanted to be at home with her. :( So I was really furious and i went up to the baby and I hit her. She cried and a great lump came up on her little head, my parents took her to the emergency room and luckily she was okay. I'm in huge huge trouble and my dad said he wants to send me away to stay with my aunt across the country. What worries me is I don't even feel guilty about hitting my sister. Am i just naturally a really cruel person?
Is it wrong to feel uncomfortable breastfeeding around family members?
I'm only 5 months pregnant but I tend to put alot of thought into things before they happen. I don't think I'm going to feel comfortable breastfeeding in front of my boyfriends family, not really his mom but his 12 year old brother especially since he is male I don't want him to see my boobs. His dad for obvious reasons, and his 13 year old sister. As for my family I think I'll be fine but is it wrong to not want them to see me breastfeeding? Is it rude if I asked them to leave the room or am I being selfish or something? I don't feel like a blanket is gonna help me feel more comfortable I feel like breastfeeding is personal even though if I had to I would do it in public and feel fine but I don't think its for the whole family to be all up in there staring at me because obviously they are gonna be curious and look at the baby... and why would I have to cover up if I'm at home or his home because they want to stay in the room while I breastfeed? i don't want to have to cover up all the time I want to be able to have the ability to breastfeed however I'm comfortable i just wanna know if this is wrong to feel this way and if any one else has this problem and any suggestions are welcomed :)
I HATE my baby half brother!?
It is always you kids that have to handle the un-happiness from a divorce. But you need to realize and accept the fact that it is over between your Parents. And this new baby that is soon gonna come is you Fathers child. So now he has two children. You and the new baby. Once you see this sweet , innocent baby, I know you will Love it. Chances are it will look like your Father and the baby could resemble you. The baby will carry some of your genes. You need to stop drinking and grow up. Stop being a spoiled kid and giving your Father problems. Put your feet into your Fathers shoes. Think how unhappy you make him and even sad. He Loves you and is sad to think how unhappy you are. Every man, needs to be Loved by a women. Sad thing is , it did not work about between your Parents. When you get older, you will realize how you would feel if you had a stepdaughter that continually uses the word hate. Don't hate, but Love. Turn your thoughts around. Hate is so destructive and evil. While Love is from God. It's all up to you. You can either be happy or angry and full of contempt. Another thing you need to know. One of the Commandments are : Honor thy Father and thy Mother so the days may be long upon the land that the Lord thy God hath given to thee. It is the only Commandment that holds a promise to us. If we Love and Respect our Parents we will have long Happy days upon this Earth. If we are mean and distrespect our Fathers/Mothers, we will have short, Un-happy days. Tonight when you go to bed, fold your hands as if your praying. Then think of God. Ask Him to help you get over this feeling of hate. It says: Ask and ye shall receive as long as it is good. Keep asking God and He will eventually help and heal you. I will say a special prayer for you tonight. Be strong. May God bless you , Always.
I hate my baby half brother!?
I'M TRYING NOT TO BUT IT IS SO HARD! I JUST HATE WHAT HE REPRESENTS! I am 17 and I know I need to grow up but I can't help what I feel. I have never had a realtionship with my dad we have tried family counseling but my dad won't cooperate he will yell and blame everything on me. My step mom has never made the effort to try to get to know me or anything.She never talks me, ever even when I try to talk to her. It's lik emy dad wants to have two families, but he just can't put us together. I know that it isn't the baby's fault, but I just hate him and don't know why. I was never like this with other babies... Idk what to do :(