EX GIRLFRiEND Romantic Dinner?? LONGISH.. Opinions please!?
We broke up for the second time about a month and a half ago. I broke up with her both times. A week or so after we broke up, I told her that I really loved her and everything. She wouldn't take me back because she said that we "needed time to focus on ourselves." After that, I didn't talk to her for three weeks, and then I called her. We talked for a long time catching up. The next weekend I invited her to a friends and we drank a bit, and then cuddled on the sofa and fell asleep. In the morning, we woke up and I kissed her a lot and then we got lunch and later that night we went out to a movie, where she grabbed my hand. We had an awkward goodbye though, since we both didn't know if it was okay to kiss each other. I've been talking to her some this week and I dont know if I just feel awkward talking to her cus I'm nervous I dont know how shee feels or something? I don't know if she can tell since she's always been really giggly when she talks to me thats just how she is. This Sunday we are going out on a double date with my best friend and this girl he's interested in. We are going to an art exhibit, and me and my ex have a 'bet' on who can draw the best. If I win, I told her we go to dinner, and if she wins I have to give her a birthday present I never delivered on. So, chances are I'm going to win. I was thinking of setting up a romantic dinner at my place (it's an hour away so I don't know if she'd be up for it). I was going to re arrange my apartment so we have a nice place to sit, and set up candles, the table with a flower(rose?) and the whole works pretty much. Then I was going to cook dinner for her. After that, I would either take her home or if I'm lucky we'd just spend the night here at my place. Do you think this is WAY too soon and scare her off? If I set up the dinner what are somethings I should be sure to do?
What does it really mean when your girlfriend says "I need a break from our relationship"?
Give her the break. Its good for you. She's not clear about the relationship.She feels insecure. Your small fights were small because she did not elongate it. She preferred to end the fights and not sulk about it.Your care/possessiveness was probably suffocating her. She might be confused. Getting random thoughts if she is with the right guy.A 'small'(I don't know how long small means) break could make things clear for her. If she really misses you a lot in the sabbatical, she will get back to you. If she doesn't miss you all that, she'd prefer to move on.She is smart. You give her a break. Don't bother to text/mail/call her. Just wait for her only to contact you.This is good for you also.P.S: My friend faced the same question from his gf. And that girl was also my close friend. So, this is what I have to say.Your scenario could be different.
Whats wrong with me I'm a mess I cant seem to get over this.?
I suggest you look into therapy...
My girlfriend says I don't show her enough affection. How can I improve on this?
I can tell you from experience that couples can be baffled by their partner's request for "more." I was in a long relationship where both of us gave the other a lot, but neither felt satisfied because what we were willing to give was not what the other valued or wanted. So we gave and gave while we starved.So, you need to listen to your girlfriend when tells you want she wants. Do NOT (I cannot stress this enough) take what she tells you and turn it into a checklist, another joyless task on your to-do list. She'll end up completely unsatisfied, and you'll end up impatiently asking her what she wants now, since you're giving her what she asked for. But you won't be if you don't actually see and listen to her with a willingness to understand what she's telling you. If she's asking you for things that you can't give her, tell her that, that you simply don't have the capacity for it. It doesn't mean that she's asking too much; it only means that you can't give it to her. There is no blame accrued to either person.If she seems needy it may be that she's insecure, or it may be that you're giving your best to your work and your life-building. (I have to ask if she's part of that life-building? If not, why not?) Save some of your best for her. Don't just give her the leftovers. If you feel that you're already doing it, maybe it's time to have a long reassuring talk, using "I" statements. (If you don't know what I mean, I'd be happy to elaborate.) And don't forget to tell her what you need from her; not in exchange, this isn't a quid pro quo situation, but the kind of attention and support that makes you feel loved and safe.This is a process that isn't done once and finished. It continues as a relationship evolves, so if you can make it part of your normal communication, then it doesn't have to be a big deal, and both of you will feel confident enough to trust the other.
What does a redneck consider a full course meal?
sounds accurate lol