How do I tell my best friend I'm in love with her?
My best friend proposed to me two years back. I was a nerdy-type of a girl belonging to a conservative family. I had no idea how to respond. He mailed me a love letter and I freaked out after reading it. My mum read it too (it was unexpected and my mum was sitting right next to me while I opened my mail). I ignored him and deleted the mail.I pretended like nothing had happened, so did he. But it had. The barrier surrounding our uncomplicated but hidden friendship had been shattered. And the worst part was, while I was unaware of his feelings, the girls I used to hang out with used to tease me about him. They knew that he liked me, I don't know how.Needless to say, it was awkward. We didn't talk for almost a year, until the school farewell. I was starting to miss him and I wanted to talk to him. We had gone from being best friends to strangers and it was upsetting.After school finished, but before starting college, I took matters into my own hands and messaged him, apologized and requested to continue the friendship. I felt cruel and selfish for doing that but when he told me he wanted us to remain friends, all my doubts went away.College started and our friendship resumed. Some time later, he told me about this girl in his class that he had a crush on. He's a happy boyfriend now!The thing about falling in love with your best friend is that if the other person doesn't share the exact same feelings, it becomes the biggest what if of your life. I love him, but it isn't a romantic kind of love.The positive aspect is that your best friend knows you better than your other friends, so the relationship doesn't feel much of a strain. I don't claim to be an expert on relationships, or dating for that matter, but I think you should go ahead and tell your best friend how you feel about her. Talk directly. A phone call, or a face-to-face chat. Start it as a question. Ask her how she feels about dating. Take her out to a place special to her. Don't be afraid to lay it on thick. Tell her how much she means to you. If she doesn't feel ready, go slow and let her know that she will always be special for you.PS: I had to go anonymous because the said friend is on quora and I don't want to hurt his feelings. Don't hate me please!!!!!
Can you have more than One Best Friend?
In a conversation, I would love to refer to one of my close friends as my "best friend", but pinning that title would be unfair to my other close friend who I consider just as worthy. Can you have more than one "best" friend? If so, Isn't that defeating the purpose of what "BEST" is? Do I have to chose?
My best friend loves me. I don't love him. What should I do?
“Love and Friendship”, both the words have their own importance. Love gives us pain and frienship gives us peace. Love is unconditional but it's a need. Friendship is forever but it's a Joy. Love is eternal and friendship too. But in love you think about the other person and forget youself, but in frienship you love the other person not by forgetting youself. Frienship makes you stronger and loves makes you weaker(Exception are always there). There is a very thin line between love and friendship.Both the words are very powerful. If u say , “you love him as a friend” , that means you love yourself first and then your friend.If u say , “ you have fallen in love with him”, that means you love him first by forgetting yourself. He’s more important than your life.You got to understand this, “Everything that falls, get broken”. Without a heartbreak you can't say , that you have been in love ever.Now just take time, and think. Do you love him or not.??Is he your friend??OrIs he your lover??OrIs he your soulmate??As of now. By looking at your question. I think you are puzzled in your own thoughts.Solution to this is : Get distinct from your Bestfriend. Stop texting him for few days. You would get to know the real truth of yours. Just listen to your heart. Imagine that he is not your friend anymore. You would get to know , the feeling you are going through is love or it's just a friendship.If you are clear on this, that he is just your Bestfriend! Nothing more than that. Then why are you so much concerned about him.If you think , that he is your Bestfriend than just go to him and tell everything straight forward.Why are you hesitating ??If he is your Bestfriend , he would totally understand your situation. Because friendship is more important that love. If he is your true friend, he would choose friendship over love.Don't get conscious. Be brave enough to face it. Wether it's a breakup or rejection. (In terms of frienship).P.S - Friendship and love are like worshipping a god. Needs more devotion and patience. Don't destroy it. It takes million of days to build it and a second to destroy it.All the best.
Have you ever fallen for a friend?
I think that is is a necessity for a good solid relationship..know someone before you KNOW them,,if you know what i mean...my feelings changed for him..he is now my husband!
Is it possible to have a friend you love more than your spouse?
Yes, it is very possible to have a friend you love more than your spouse. And a couple of years ago, this would have been absolutely true for me, had I been married to my now-ex at the time.It’s beyond awkward and weird. I mean, it’s obviously something that you have to tell your spouse or partner about, so they can make their own life decisions and not keep believing that in your eyes, they’re the bombdiggity—when it’s not really true. Or maybe it’s somewhat true, and your spouse does add some value to your life (stability, predictability, money), but they were not the one.But if your romantic friend … your secret flame, your favorite person in the world is unavailable, it’s all a wash, isn’t it? You still don’t get to be with that person if you get a divorce or break up with your steady partner. It might be love on your end, but if it’s not on theirs? And, even if it’s mutual and nobody’s doing a damned thing about it, it’s still a wash. You just ride it out.It is possible. It’s a painful, possible situation with a go-nowhere outcome, but it’s also a clear sign that you probably weren’t meant to dance with the one who brought you—or in this case, put a ring on your finger.In such a situation, all you can do is set yourself and your spouse free. Just because you can’t spend your life with the one truly love should never make your spouse or partner a default option.
I fell in love with my friend, but she doesn't feel the same way. She wants me in her life but being there as just her friend hurts too much. I’ve tried distancing myself, but we both miss each other. What can I do?
Hi.I can tell you what to do because I'm in exactly the same condition.LITERALLY.So what I did.I took a day and explained my complete mental state to her and told her that I need her more than a relationship.I explained to her what she means to me.I told her that my feelings are on one hand and they can never come between me and her because she was scared to lose me as a friend.I try to distant myself, it hurts even more.I have learned to live with it now, you know why?Because, if I am honest with her about my feelings and If I am strong enough to stay focused in my own life even after being in love with her and still not being WITH her, only then she'll see me as someone worthy enough.Maybe she never accepts you as anything more as a friend, but you won't regret not trying.Just tell her once and if she tells you NO, back off.. stay normal and be a good and supportive gentleman.I joined the gym now, I train myself hard there and leave it all there.. Life goes on right?I'm waiting for her even now and a lot more.Hope for the best.
I love my friend more than my girlfriend, advice?
If you are the sort of person who cannot stay alone even for a day, and has to have a girlfriend at all times, then listen to the advice given here and wait until Alexis breaks up her relationship before breaking up yours. But then you'll look very bad in the eyes of both of them, because Selena will understand that you were just using her as a pastime waiting for the other one to vacate the place. The decent thing to do would be break up with the person whom you don't love, and wait. Either for Alexis to become available and start seeing you in another way, or for a third person, whom you might fall in love with. And remember, that the right person might come along and, if she sees you are in a relationship, she might turn away without you even knowing that she was interested. Even Alexis may have feelings for you which she doesn't let develop because she knows about Selena. You must make space if you want something new to come.