I’ve been showing my interest to him but he does not make a move. Is he not picking up on my hints I throw him or is he just not into me? How can I understand and tell?
I was that guy. I have three messages for you:Guys can be oblivious to hints, for months at a timeGuys can feel like they’ve been rejected, even when they haven’t.If you’re interested, ask him out.Now for my story:I met a girl once on OKCupid, and we went out once. She made it clear that she wanted sex on the first date, which surprised me. But when she got to my place, I sat down beside her and tried for a snog, and she recoiled and ran out of the house, claiming I reminded her of her father. No sex occurred.So I figured she wasn’t interested. And when she asked me out to various things later, and gave me a friendly hug afterward, I figured we would just stay friends. Too bad, since I found her quite attractive, but what can you do? I reminded her of her father. Also, I was 45, which was 15 years older than her, so I figured she was saying I was too old and therefore creepy.Later, I found her father had asked to friend me on Facebook (?!). I accepted. Then she came to help me out with my small business, and volunteered loads of her valuable time. I was really grateful.It never once occurred to me that she was attracted to me, despite the age gap, and was just hoping I’d ask her again. But she was. And she got more and more visibly frustrated and angry, but when I asked why, she wouldn’t answer.Eventually, after about six months, she gave up and stopped visiting me, and blocked me on all social media. She told me what had been going on, but it was too late.Guy here. Oblivious.In hindsight, she was dropping hints like crazy. I am ashamed to list most of them, because they really should have been obvious. Really. But no.Just ask. No hints. And if you’ve ever done anything to indicate lack of interest, by God it is now your turn to say you’ve changed your mind.
What is a good excuse for a no call no show to work?
I had a young 18 year old apprentice who did not show up in the morning. He had to get into work half an hour before the others to get the lights on, the tea room cleaned and most importantly the tea brewed. To be late was unlike him as he was usually very reliable. I tried his mobile phone and that just went to voicemail so I thought that I would wait until 9am and then call his parents to see what happened. At 8.30 he phoned me giggling like a schoolgirl and told me why he would not be in till lunchtime. He had stayed the night at his new girlfriend's home and had got up at 6.00 am to come to work, but on his way out of the house the girlfriend's mum was waiting for him. She told him to come back after his girfriend had gone to college and she would show him what a real woman was like. He had been in the cafe nearby for the past two hours pondering whether he should or not. While waiting he had seen his girlfriend walk to the bus stop and then her previous boyfriend pulled up in his car and picked her up. He was now on his way round to revenge shag the mum. I gave him the whole day off with pay.
I love a girl who told me that she had feelings, but not anymore. I don't want to give up, I want to get her feelings back. What are some suggestions about that?
Before I answer your question, let me tell you my story.I dated this guy for about six months, but we broke up. I missed him like crazy, and I still miss him so much. I tried talking to him several times, but left me on read. I thought that I could still make him love me again, and didn’t stop trying. I was really dumb now that I think about it. I should’ve known that his feelings turned away long time ago, and I should have really stopped it there. I feel like I ruined our good memories together because of how I acted afterwards. I still like him, but I know that there is a 0% chance that we would ever be together, so I’m not hopeful anymore. I learned to be a little more chill and not care so much about him. I miss him to the point, where if I’m talking to someone I like, it feels so strange because it’s not the person I’m used to. It makes me want to stop everything and just tell my ex that I miss him and love him so much. Many times I had to stop myself from calling him. But I need to let it go. I know that it won’t work out, so I need to let it go. I regret so much of the wrong things I did to him when he was next to me, but there isn’t a point of regretting anymore. I learned my lesson from him, and I just need to stop making more. It just pains me that we won’t ever be the same, and he cannot be the one I can cry to, and say I love you to.Okay so your question, I think that maybe you should stop and leave it the way it is right now. It can ruin the good memories she had of you, and she might even grow tired of you. I know that it’s hard, and you want to seize the chance every time you can, but you gotta let it go. It takes awhile, and it might even take a couple of years. You’ll get better as time goes by, and it’ll slowly start to get dull. Her feelings are gone, and there isn’t anything you can do to make her fall for you again. You need to act naturally and live as the person that she liked before. You cannot force her to like her, but you can make her fall for you again naturally. She did love you at one point, so you just need to know what kind of you that she liked. Don’t text her or call her, no matter how sad you are. Be the same old you and if she falls, she falls for you. If she doesn’t she doesn’t. Find another woman who will love you. I can really relate to your question.
Girlfriend is mad at my excessive work?
I just moved in with my girlfriend on Aug. 1st. Since then she has said it has been a hard transition for her because I have been working a lot of overtime at work(August is one of my busiest months) which I can understand. We were supposed to go to NYC in a few weeks to go to a friends birthday. Now I have to work on Sunday night and I would need to leave NYC early on Sun. She’s mad because she wanted to stay there all day and take our time coming back, once again she is mad at my work. She now doesn’t want to go at all and is planning on going to NYC with one of her girlfriends the weekend before. Ladies what is going on here?
GUYS: Does it work when women ask men out?
I am a woman and it's actually been the opposite for me. The guys I asked out have actually turned out to be better relationships than vice versa. As a matter of fact I approached this guy I thought was handsome and funny and he ended up marrying me :) I like bragging that I picked him myself. I am not old-fashioned because times are different these days. Women make just as much money and most guys are perfectly comfortable with that. Times have changed.
Ladies: Should I be embarrassed for being stood up? ?
Should I be embarrassed for being stood up? ? A woman I met online has shown interest in me, I've reciprocated. We've chatted several times, and she gave me her AIM sn. We chatted a couple of times on there, and just for the hell of it, to get to know here more I asked for her number. This was like 2 and a half weeks in. BTW, this was when she asked me out... We made plans that Friday for Sunday, her saying she'd be around all day. After calling her in the morning, she called me back early afternoon, telling me she had a jewelry party or something that she had forgotten about. Her and her friend were heading there, but she still wanted to oblige to my asking her to dinner. She told me she'd call me...... I never heard from her. I wasn't too surprised because....Well I hate to say it, but men aren't the only sex with things up their sleeve. And I may have arranged the date, but while I was interested in getting to meet her in person and getting to know her, she asked me out. Do adults get stood up? It made me feel like ****...... Or was she just "busy". BTW, this was Match, last woman I met I went out with for 4 months, so stop it with this "you should meet scummy women at a bar or club" nonsense.