Would you let your 14 year old son watch silence of the lambs?
I "almost" advised you to let him... "almost" though... I just thought really careful about it and as much as I do love that movie, I wouldn't let a 14 year-old watch it... It is definitely an adult film because it just not deal with horror, but also with deep psychology subjects such as mental illness, personal traumas, "sex acts", "perversion", trans gender issues, etc... No, definitely no. It is a film for adults because as such we can deal with it. A person's brain is completely developed at age 21 so think about the damage a film like this or any adult film, would do to a child of only 14. And, thank you for being a responsible parent and not one that doesn't care about the mental health of it's own children. My hat's off to you. -(It is one of my most favorite films because of its acting, direction, superb writing, etc... Wonderfully done and for some reason won so many awards around the world and in our country, USA... But, your boy has to wait... Not yet. Do you watch the television series "Monk"? Wonderful, uh? Did you know that the Inspector with the big mustaches, working with Monk is the same actor doing the part of the trans gender psycho hiding the girl in the hole? Yes. Until today I marvel of the so awesome job that man has done! His name: Ted Levine, terrific actor...)-
Should I allow my seven year old to have her own YouTube channel?
Thank you for the A2A.IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE MOTIVE.This is not a black and white thing, and frankly it deeply frustrates me that you haven't provided any context or information as to why your seven year old wants to put something on Youtube, and that people are giving you YES or NO answers based off of basically no info. If I had this contextual information I could make a more informed answer, but since you haven't provided it I'll tell you two scenarios, and the responses I have to those.Why does your daughter want to have a youtube channel? Find out those reasons. Forget all the paranoid "oh someone's going to stalk my daughter" platitudes that the other folks here are saying. Get the straight scoop from your daughter. Also, can't you already tell? She's your daughter.(for example): My daughter has a knack for making short little movies, and she loves the art of storytelling. She loves to pretend, and fancies theatrics, and play acting. She loves this PROCESS of making something from scratch and the youtube account is a way for her to tap into that.That's an example of a pretty good reason to let your child--NO MATTER THEIR AGE--make a youtube channel. If this were my kid. Yes. I'd absolutely let them make a youtube channel. Policy be damned. She likes to make movies, she wants a channel, let her do it.Next example What is the purpose of this channel? Does she plan to get better at this? Does she want to be an actress? Does she want to be good at providing something that betters humanity in the form of genuine content/entertainment? If no, your answer might look like this: My daughter doesn't have a concept of making something in the service of serving a purpose, such as making a video to entertain people, she just sees it as a way of getting popular, getting recognized, or being accepted.See the difference? There is a red flag there. Investigate the motive, find out the honest reason your child is interested. Form there it's up to you whether you allow it at this age.
Should I let my 10 year old son wear his "Drynites" bedwetting diapers to the movie theater?
Like a lot of kids, my son wets the bed. We tried things to cure it, but it seems it's just that his body is growing faster than his bladder. So until his bladder catches up, he wears disposable absorbant underpants to sleep. He wants to wear them to the movie theater. He says he doesn't plan to wet in them, but he wants to wear them, just in case he has to go right as the movie is getting very climactic. Do you think it's okay to let him wear them to the movies? On the one hand, it's a bad habit for him to get used to going in his pants. But on the other hand, it's good that he isn't ashamed of wearing them. I'm worried that if I tell him not to wear them to the movies, he'll start to develop shame about his bedwetting and this might lead to emotional problems. What do you think?
How do I deal with my spiteful, insanely jealous SISTER!!!?
I have an older sister (by 7 years) who hates me. She reminds my family of the character TERRY from the movie SOUL FOOD. It started when I developed at age 11. Overnite, I developed a figure like Halle Berry and my family & I then noticed a change in sister behavior. By age 11, I was grasping unwanted attention from grown men, I was 5ft 7in wearing a size 9/10 in shoes. I was 34-25-40, a butt like Vida Guerra, long hair with bright brown eyes. I was just a kid so all the attention I received was nice but I loved being a kid although I was very developed. She tried to fight me, have her friends make up stories to get me on punishment, she'd lie to my mother & family about me stealing clothes and accused to doing things with boys, insult me, belittle me to embarrass and try to cause our family to turn away from me, humiliate me each time in front of a crowd hoping to succeed in embarrassing me, insult my personal hygiene in public, would tell people & the family since I dress nice & take care of my son well then I must be an Exotic Dancer. She'll try to stress to my family that I'm an Exotic Dancer (lol). She's very good with words, especially good ones. While out mother was dying, she caused a scene, using fake tears with a very good well made-up story about me causing my mother's last few moments to be the worst. My son is now 6, she tried to harm my baby when he was in infant out of spite. I walked in on her letting him roll off the bed when he was 4 mo's old. By the time he started walking, she allowed him to run into traffic without trying to save him. She's very disrespectful. Use's the innocent role. Very sarcastic. I stopped coming to family events because of that NUT!! What I should I do and how do I handle her. My Mom (R.I.P.) twin sister wants us to work it out but I know its not possible. I'm almost 28yrs. old and it feels like I have to deal with a kid
My son (10) doesn't like sports. He doesn't watch them with me, play any of them with me or want anything to do with sports. I am the complete opposite. I love everything about sports. What is something I can do to find common ground between us?
Well :I am 18 year old, my future plan is to be well settled and keep following football and keeping up with my loved sports - football. I am thinking about the same situation when i will be a dad :XDAlthough it will be my kid’s choice to take interest in sports or not, I will make sure he/she will make into it, because sports is not only about enjoying but it connects us as teammates more than a friend. It’s an emotional experience which teaches us about confidence, joy, team spirit, hard-work and determination - to never give up in life.Talking about your problem, it depends on your son’s age. If you are always pumped up and “annoying” him with your favorites he will definitely not like it because he might be loving some thing else. He could be a computer specialist or a genius in academics.You know the philosophy that Everybody is not same. Try peeking into out what he likes. Seek to find what he enjoys doing in free time. By decreasing your love towards sports or mixing up sports with his interests you will be definitely able to find a lot of common things between you and your son.Perhaps you can make a better friend from this peeking seeking exercise (You know what i mean).There is a difference between parenting and making friends. Sometimes you have to be hard on your child and sometimes to find a what’s in that little mind you should drop your level to that of the child to bring the best out of him.~regardsEdit- special thanks to LEENA G S for edits.
I let my 13 year old son play 15 minutes of video games a day. How do I explain to him this is way more than enough?
How long is the average TV show for young teens? 30 min? 45 min? How long is a movie? 90 - 120 min?Ok, well when you watch TV, your brain does less work than when you sleep. Playing video games does a massive amount of brain development. You’ll let your son watch, what, 2, 3, 4 shows in a row? And a full movie, no problem, right? 2 hours of TV is just fine, but 15 minutes of gaming is the limit! No, TV is bad for you, games are good for you.It’s basically like letting your child drink sugar drinks but limit them when they want to drink water.I’m betting that you do let your son watch TV/YouTube/Netflix/etc. If not, then still, take the above as a comparison. Games develop fine motor control, creative thinking, strategic thinking, hand-eye coordination, and games can teach various things like economics, history, basic planning, and can really help a person to learn to work for what they want.If you don’t believe a gamer who has been successful in school (high grade everything and additional maths), university (electronic engineering), and work (senior software developer), then look to the internet:Cognitive Benefits of Playing Video Games15 Surprising Benefits of Playing Video GamesGoogle can get you many more resources.
My son was discharged from the army for bedwetting, but I don't want to let people know that was the reason?
bloody hell, if the British Army kicked guys out for bed wetting they'd have a stack of orange mattresses outside the accommodation store! A knee injury would work well as an excuse.
How do I make my 13-year-old son get interested in his studies so he takes them seriously and gets A grades without me telling him all the time study and get As? How come some kids his age are very serious about studies and their parents don't even care about it?
I guess the main reason other kids can do it is because their parents don't care. Here's my story:My parents never bothered to interfere with what or how I was studying. They'd only listen to my results at the end of the year. If it was bad, they'd ask me to improve or else they'd congratulate. In 7th grade, (13 years old) I scored something like 70 percentile and my English marks was poor. This time my mother was tensed, she felt I'd not to do well and kept asking me to study throughout 8th and history repeated itself. By the time of 9th grade, she had stopped asking me to study. That year I scored 86 or 88 percentile. In the first test of 10th grade, I failed in second language. The classteacher called up my parents and told I'd fail my tenth grade and they'd remove from school and every possible bullshit. This time my parents told nothing, they didn't ask me to study or force me to or anything a common parent would do. I realised it was the time to pull my sock up and started studying. I ended up falling in love with science. I scored a 9.6 CGPA that year. You can't force someone to love a subject. It'll only make them hate it more if you pressurise them to. I've seen so many people whose parents force them to study but in vain. They ended up destroying the creativity in their own children.