My mom is abusive, what do I do?
I'm 15 years old, and all I want to do is leave my house. I live alone with my mom. My sister is in college and I only see my dad a few times a year because he lives in Brasil. My mom is constantly angry, and she always takes it out on me. I can never say anything without making her upset. She insults me all the time, and she hits me often too. I tried acting like she doesn't scare me; one time I tried not running when she came to hit me, but it just made her angrier and hit me harder. I think that she genuinely believes she is being a good parent that happens to be strict. She doesn't seem to see herself herself as abusive. I tried talking to my sister (who is like my best friend) but she said that I was just being a typical teenager who fights with their mom. I don't want to talk to my school counselor because I'm scared that she might think the same thing and not take me seriously, or she might call my mom. I'm really conflicted because I know things must be hard on my mom with my dad leaving and having college tuition for my sister, but it gets to the point where I lie about when I have dance practices and clubs for school just to get out of coming home to see her. I'm going to go to college in a few years so I figured I could just tough it out until then, but its getting way too hard. I just really need some advice or some support, so if anyone could comment, it would mean a lot to me!
Serious answers only....abusive mother!?
I am a 32 year old man...So I recently realized my whole life that I have been abused by my mother...it's has been covert narcissist emotional abuse.....she anlisted my entire family and I was the scapegoat. I confronted her with a letter....and also went no contact. It's been 4 months now...she sent an email trying to claim I am having a mental problem....btw I am due to recieve a huge inheritance from a relative who favoured me more than his own kids. How do I protect myself from this wretch of a mother who needs me for narcissist supply... I feel she might try to get me declared insane to get access to my money.
What can I do about my emotionally abusive mother?
You're in a really tough spot. Your mother sounds incredibly emotionally abusive and as someone who has been abused by a parent in multiple ways, I hold that emotional abuse can be one of the worst kinds of abuse that leaves the most lasting impact on your life. You give a lot of specific cases of her emotional abuse. Each case is going to have a different specific solution. For instance her threat to call the police is a bluff; emotionally abusive people rarely call the police as they are worried about being caught in their abuse.You are being abused. You need to find a solution to that. If you can move out, move out. Call a shelter and find a support system to get you away from the abusive situation. At 17 you are still legally under her authority but I would suggest contacting child protective services as well. Sadly, there is no quick or easy solution or answer to this. There are support systems and options for you, but they are hard and will likely disrupt your life and the lives of your brothers. Many children tell themselves it's not that bad and that it will be over when we are adults (that's what I did). It sounds like you're worried about your brothers as well and that is spurring you to action. Good for you. I suggest you find your local CPS office and Woman's Shelter and talk to someone there. If nothing else they should be able to send you in the direction of someone who can help. Hope this helps and let me know if you have any more questions.
Verbally abusive and emotionally abusive mother...?
My husband's mother was exactly the same way when he was growing up. She would call him names and tell him he was a ******, until he cried. She would tell him that he isn't good enough, was a mistake, was stupid. He still carries around those issues. He is brilliant and does so well at everything he tries, but thinks that he is always making mistakes, that everyone hates him. My best advice to you is to concentrate on school. Ignore what the ***** has to say. Work your *** off in school and get out as soon as possible. Go to college away from home so you can live in a dorm. Make the most of your life, for yourself. She will probably never change, but she doesn't have to bring you down with her. Good luck!
Can't live with abusive mother while pregnant!?
Hi people ,I'm 18 and I'm pregnant 2mnts I live with my mother who is extremely abusive and violent ,she's beaten me from the time I was. Child till now ,I want to be the best mother and give my baby the life I never had but I don't know how I can get away from her she's the only family I have ,and the father of the baby lives in another country and is unable to come here ,I know I got myself into the mess ,but I really can't leave the baby here and I don't want to give my baby away or anything else ,I can't wait to have the baby ,but my situation is difficult ,would there be anyway I could get a council house or something I don't care I've been working from 15 just till my baby is old enough for school till I can get a job ,I'm really stuck here I don't know how to go about this ,I just really have to get away from my mother and I can't get involved in social workers they ruined my life ,I live In Ireland and in not sure about single mother entitlements ,or benefits ,and things are getting worse at home my mother is abusing drugs and alcohol ,I've never taken a drink a smoke a pill in my life I'm nothing like my mother but I need to find a way as I won't be getting any money from the father ,I know I shouldn't of got pregnant ,and it's my fault ,and u hate myself for brining a child into this mess but if anyone knows how I can get help here in Ireland I'd really appreciate it thanks so much
I have a violent and verbally abusive mother. I don't know how to cut her off. What should I do?
Move. I did and it was the best thing I ever did for myself.
How to deal with emotionally abusive mothers on Mother's Day?
Why do abusive mothers want you to make them feel good by telling them "Happy Mother's Day" when it comes around even though they make you feel like being their child is a burden to them? My mother complains that I don't do anything for her on her birthday or Mother's Day. Whenever my sister asks her what she wants to do she always says she doesn't know and ends up staying in her room all day with her door closed. Ever since she became a single parent twelve years ago when I was twelve years old, she changed for the worse. That's when she started being verbally, emotionally and physically abusive. When I addressed the issue of her verbal and emotional abuse towards me she wouldn't admit to it, but then she changed her mind and said "You said something disrespectful to me" as the reason for her abuse. What she considers to be disrespectful is me having an opinion of my own. She'll ask me a question during her yelling tirade and when I try to answer it she just talks over top of me and tells me, "I don't care!" or "You're wrong!" or "You're being disrespectful!" So anywho. How should I handle her when her birthday and Mother's Day comes around?