Is it bad to have imaginary friends at 14?
I"m 14, and I sort of have a few imaginary friends... There's Connie-Rose, my guardian angel; Feli, Alfred, and Arthur, my imaginary boyfriends, and Fuchsia, who's sort of a cupid-ish thing who gives me advice with boys and stuff. It's not like they're those creepy voices inside people's heads that tell them what to do. They're very nice and they don't ever tell me to do anything bad. The thing is, though I don't see them or talk to them in public or anything, I think they might be real... not like real human beings, but more like "spirit guides" or something. I'm not crazy, at least I don't think so, but any thoughts on this?
Is it normal to have an imaginary boyfriend in your twenties?
I never, never ask if something is “normal”. Normal doesn't mean anything. It's a made-up term designed by people who are afraid.Normal is ordinary. Average. Common. Customary. Familiar. Standard. Regular. Who wants to be that?More to the point, there is no such thing.What I would ask myself instead is this: does my imaginary boyfriend teach me something? Through his fabrication and design, am I learning something about myself? Does he make me feel in any way better? Have I through him found a way to make whatever hurts a bit easier to bear? Because, life is hard. If something works for me, I will use it.Or, does my imaginary boyfriend isolate me? Is he in any way an impediment to me finding a man who is real? Is this imaginary fellow in any way divorcing me from a life out there, distancing me from friends, from family? Is he contributing to me getting lost in one of those dark labyrinths inside my brain?Then I need to break up with him, this perfect lover, this pastry chef, this massage therapist, this extremely good looking, kind, considerate figment of my imagination.Not because it's not normal, but because it’s not good.
I have an imaginary boyfriend? i'm 16?
i have an imaginary boyfriend. his name is evan and he is 5'10 and he has light brown hair and brown eyes. he's kinda dweeby. i made him up, and i want to know if this is normal. i'm very lonely, i'm online schooled. i don't want to be social, it gives me anxiety. is it normal to continue having an imaginary boyfriend if it makes me less lonely?
Is it bad to have an imaginary girlfriend?
Of course you have a strong connection, because she's in your mind. How could you not have a strong connection with a figment of your own imagination? I don't think it's bad to have a powerful imagination. It can be a comfort, and even help you with your confidence maybe? Because you can practice all the things you might want to say to a girl, and you can develop an idea of the kind of girl you'd like to find in life. It's only a bad thing if it starts to get in the way of you actually finding a real person. No one will ever live up to what you can create in your head, and you might start using your imaginary relationship as an excuse to isolate yourself from real people. And that would be a shame.
I have an imaginary family in my head?
I think you and I are going through the exact same thing. In addition to the fantasies, do you also have social anxiety and self-loathing? Do you tend to stay away from close relationships, feel inferior to others, and are really shy? If so, you could have what I have, which is avoidant personality disorder. One of it's symptoms is creating fantasies in order to deal with stress or escape reality. There's nothing necessarily harmful with the fantasies, but the reason it's a disorder is because they tend to keep us away from dealing with reality and real life, which isn't good at all. I really suggest talking to your therapist about it. They are much more informed about this than I am (I'm just speaking from experience). I'm sorry you're afraid of being diagnosed of a disorder, but trust me, the first step in dealing with it is admitting to yourself that you have one. You're at a young enough age where treatment can really help you, so the sooner you get it, the better. They can help you find different, healthier ways of dealing with your life in lieu of fantasizing. It may seem hard to let go of the fantasies, but the longer we go on with them, the more detached from reality we may become, and THAT'S when they become harmful. Good luck with everything.
Is it mentally healthy to have an imaginary friend, boyfriend or girlfriend?
Thanks for the A2A.There’s nothing wrong with a little fantasy life in your imagination. Having pretend conversations can be viewed as part of the problem-solving process. Many small children have imaginary friends and it’s sometimes a sign of loneliness, isolation, and/or social difficulties.That leads me to this next bit.I don’t know how old you are, but I’m guessing perhaps a female teen? It’s only relevant so that I can direct you. If you’re in school, talk to the counsellor there. You could use some coaching in self-esteem and some tips on making friends.Making imaginary friends is a symptom of a difficulty you are having with social relationships and it will serve as nothing more than a Band-Aid.If a person is banging their head against the wall repeatedly, the answer isn’t an aspirin for the pain, it’s for them to stop what’s causing the pain. Same in this situation. You feel the need for an imaginary boyfriend tells me that you might consider talking to someone (a qualified someone preferably) about your shyness and self-image.Bottom line - why settle for some imaginary companionship when you can work towards the real thing? Best of luck!
Is it normal to spend hours living in your imaginary world as a different person with imaginary people and unreal events inside your head?
I had been asking myself this questions for a time that wasn't really short.I used to live in my imagination when I was idling especially during my everyday travels, which lasted for hours, while listening to music mostly.But I noticed that it started to really affect me to believe in things that may not exist.I used to play video games. They were an escape for me. An imagination, a way out, that somebody had created for me to get some rest of my real life.But in video games it only lasted for several hours. And I can tell that this little time really energized me to continue do my role in real life in some magical way.I applied the same thing to my own-created imagination. I started treating it as a small rest. I let myself play my own game for some little time, so that I can energize my day and get the motivation in reality. So instead of putting my headphones everyday and starting my game, I used to turn on my imagination for a reduced number of days and the rest I would use to achieve some real life thing.So, you know, an overdose can kill you, but a little can heal you.