I'm such a loser/bum/no life?
People are like flowers, their only purpose is to bloom. Life is what you make of it, and if you seek change in that life. You simply change the way you act, and therefore you will change the way you think. Or vice versa, change the way you think and you will then alter the way you act. You seem to be hard on yourself, but not for the right reasons. This self oppression you give off is nothing more than a excuse when you should see it differently. It is called self awareness, to note ones flaws or vulnerabilities is a attribute worth exploiting. You dislike your life correct? Shouldn't that be the fuel to the fire in which sets you ablaze. Not to destroy you or to consume you, but allow you to rise like that of a phoenix and be born anew. Everyone is different, what works for one man does not work for all men. With me it started when I read "The Prince" and then I discovered philosophy. But I will recommend you something else, given your own knowledge of self insight. For I believe its format is best suited for the goals in which you feel the need to achieve. The book is called "The 48 Laws of Power" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/48_laws_of_... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PNALeYJhn... And if I may quote Buddha in case you are incapable of absorbing the knowledge from the 48 Laws of Power. That Buddha never said, "You should do this and if you don't, you're bad." But rather, Buddha said, "If you do this, you're going to make problems for yourself. If you don't want those problems, stop doing it." If we continue doing what will bring us problems, that doesn't make us a "bad person." If we don't do it, if we refrain, it doesn't make us a "good person." If we continue acting in a way that creates problems for ourselves, we're foolish and it's sad. If we stop acting in that way, we're wise. For your own sake in this harsh environment, I hope you bloom.
Why do the popular kids in school become losers when they get older?
It’s not always true. It’s just notable when it does happen.Usually it happens because the skills it takes to be popular in school aren’t the same skills it takes to be successful in life. In fact those skills can prevent someone from being successful in life.Gaining popularity from being on the football team doesn’t last long once there isn’t a football team.Withholding acceptance until someone conforms only works well if someone aspires to be a gang leader.My unschooled son took a couple of classes at our upper middle class high school and ran on the cross country team. Several team mates said he was the nicest person on the team. But “nice” meant he talked to anyone and treated them all equally. He didn’t get sucked into the social cliques. His “nice” was normal for society outside of school. In school it was oddly notable.He found the social atmosphere had a toxic undercurrent. Being successful in a toxic atmosphere can develop social skills that don’t work outside of school.
How is your life affected if you weren't popular in high school.?
If you live in the past, it will trash you. HS is meaningless in the long run. If it makes you feel better, a good portion of those "popular kids" will grow up to be the biggest losers on the block with no life except to plan reunions.
I feel like such a loser i'm never invited to parties and am always home.?
I'm 15, a sophomore in high school. I'm not a loser but i'm not extremely popular. I just you could say in the middle. The thing is though, i'm never ever invited to parties. Ever. My weekend usually consists of me staying home by myself on the computer, or going to a sleepover with my friends. That's seriously it though. It makes me wonder something obviously has to be wrong with me because i'm never invited to party like events. I'm not mean either i'm really nice to everyone but i think that people are just intimidated by me people have said that to me before. But seriously i feel like such a loser almost every week but especially today because its New years and i have no plans. Everyone else has plans except for me. I'm going to be staying home and my sister who is 19 has a party to go to. What makes it worse is she asked me if i'm going to a party tonight and i had to lie and say that i had a lot of homework and i'm really tired instead of revealing that i wasn't invited to any. The thing is though i know that people i know are throwing partys i see it on twitter but no one bothers to invite me. It just makes me sad
Feel like a loser? Sit at home almost all day?
I can't help it, but I feel like an antisocial outcast. Almost all of my summer I have been sitting around at home watching tv and reading books and browsing the web. Sometimes, maybe 2 - 3 times a week I hang out with the few good friends I have but that only consists of a few hours. I live in a suburban area into which I moved 3 years ago. Most of my classmates have been friends since childhood and while I have no trouble speaking and socializing with them at school, I rarely, if ever, get invited to any parties they hold. Don't get me wrong, I am no outcast in school. I talk to all the popular kids but they only hang out with their friends outside of school. This is no rant about how I want to be included in the "popular kids" gatherings. It's just that I feel bored and like a loser sitting at home all day. My limited collection of friends do not know each other that well, nor do they get along that well either (conflicts of interests). I cannot hang out with the same person 7 days a week which is why I sit at home brooding all day. Hopefully, this will all change when I will go to college. And yet I feel like I missing a large portion of my high school experience. Instead of socializing and partying I stay home, not a very proactive lifestyle. I think it would also help to mention that I am not a pimply ugly guy. In fact I attract female attention quite well. I'm sure some people will say that high school friends are a waste of time and breath. Not in my opinion. It is always good to remain social and develop contacts (at least in my book). Comments? Advice? Criticism? Thanks.
Am i a "loser" because i dont get high or smoke?
First, no, you are not a loser for not smoking/getting high. Stick to your morals, and at the very least you'll respect yourself. Second, popularity really doesn't matter. I know if I could have a hundred friends who I barely talk to, or a friend who I completely trust, I'd take the single friend. And that's what I have done. I'm in my third year of high school, and I have 3 people I consider friends - my boyfriend, and my 2 best friends, Kayla & Shawn. And, well, after high school, most people really don't stay the same, or keep the same friends. People who were complete jerks to me in high school were amazingly nice to me in university. And vice versa. Either way, I am a successful university student, on my way to being a teacher, and I have never done drugs, or even smoked. And I have to say, my life is pretty awesome :)