I want to drop out because of my social anxiety?
i'm only a sophmore in highschool, but my social anxiety is so bad that i can't even function normally anymore. i walk in a weird way because my legs shake and feel like jelly when i'm near people. i don't eat lunch because i cant even stand in line without having anxiety and nobody talks to me so i sit at a table and put my head down and sleep. i'm constantly tense. i'm failing all of my classes. everyone thinks im weird because of how i act and how i dont talk. people make fun of me all the time. nobody talks to me. when im near people, i feel different from everyone else and i feel like i dont fit in with anyone, which is true. i'm always feeling uncomfortable and awkward all the time. everyone there treats me like a piece of ****. i have no self esteem anymore and i cant think straight anymore. i literally have no reason to keep going to school. i've tried so hard to change myself and try to be normal but it;s never worked out.
Serious Social Anxiety Disorder?
there might be a some sort of anxiety disorder, but it is all in your head. People only see and act the way you feel about yourself. Maybe you are just too shy and from the experience you told, i bet that you dont even ask questions at school, get lost all the time, dont know whats going on all the time, and have a hard time in relationships, am i wrong? if you keep this up you will never get nowhere. Let them think what they want, i mean was missing your stop, wasting precious time and getting lost all worth it so that people WHO YOU DONT EVEN KNOW AND DONT KNOW YOU wont think that you were a loser? i know how you feel because i am the same way with people i know. Sometimes when i am at a place and i know people from school i feel like you feel, but you just need to relax, keep telling your mind that you are cool and there is nothing wrong. You just need to know how to act kool, and even if you need to get up to get a map, do it with attitude, with your head up high, look at the people around you (give them the stare so that you could intimidate them), take your time, and they will think you are cool. If you dont know them them screw them, who gives a **** what they think. ps. most people who ride the bus are old, old asians, adults, drug addicts and crazy people. i dont think you are one of them so once again, WHO GIVES A **** WHAT THEY THINK.. i really hope this helped and i just didnt waste my time typing all of this up.
I have bad social anxiety at work with few coworkers, any advice or help ?
Hey girl. I can totally relate; I have social anxiety too, & I get word vomit sometimes. Like, I'll say something totally stupid/embarassing, just because it's literally the first thing that comes to my mind, even when it's not true. I just laugh it off, life's too short to be so serious. & Then I try and work on it so that next time I will be calmer & can think before I speak, because that's what it really comes down to: staying calming & thinking before you open your mouth, instead of being impulsive & saying whatever. As for Charles, it's really petty of you & everyone at your work to recognize him as 'the ugly guy'. People don't get to pick what they look like. Maybe he isn't gorgeous, but who knows, maybe he has the sweetest personality ever. You will never know if you write him off just because he's 'ugly'. Shame on you guys... As for your crush smiling at you, he probably knew he made you nervous & that's why you said that. As for the girl who said you were wierd, just ignore her. People who pass judgement on others aren't worth the effort of trying to be-friend. That's about the best advice I can give you; remember that because you have anxiety you see yourself in a different light than others. You think people are watching you so intently, which causes you to act wierd. You just have to keep telling yourself to be calm & that no one is watching you & looking for errors in your behavior the way you think they are. Just don't interupt people/be too obnoxious, that can get on people's nerves fast & you will get judged for being annoying, lol. Good luck! :)
Social Anxiety : School issues. (LONG)?
I'M IN THE SAME EXACT BOAT. I'm a sixteen year old girl and I've been like that since I was about thirteen. I'm really insecure, not to mention. I seriously was self conscious about the way I would WALK. I always felt like people were watching me, and I absolutely had no friends. I moved from Cincinnati to a small town in Maine. And then I moved schools four different times in a year. I won't even eat lunch because I'm scared people will think I'm fat and gross. When people try to talk to me, I never know what to say. Never. I just smile and nod and walk away. I went to my cousin's wedding recently. I met five new people at once and I ran away crying because I was so scared of people! At school I skip classes and lunch, just so I don't have to be near people. I practically have panic attacks in the hallway. I remember when I was new at the school I'm at now, and these three girls came to talk to me, and they were really nice. But I just smiled and said a bunch of awkward crap so they gave me a weird look and never talked to me again. I dread school. I really just can't stand it. I recently got ringworm from a stupid field trip, and everyone thinks I'm really gross and whispers about all the spots on my neck. As for advice, I wish I could give you some, All I know is, to help me cope, I made a tumblr, painted, and played music. Tumblr is the best place for the socially awkward. And art just kind of was my escape. You really should e-mail me sometime. We could be like... Weirdo-Awkward penpals. :) I know how it feels to want someone to talk to, because I don't have anyone myself, And it would definitely help. thechippysnuggler@yahoo.com Really.
Did you ever face social anxiety or shyness? If so, how did you overcome it?
I have in my preteens and very early teens, and to be honest, I beat it because I formed a personality disorder that inhibits empathy.At this point, I see everyone as replaceable. I can literally be friends with someone for 10 years and drop them at a moments notice because I have absolutely zero attachment to them whatsoever. Whenever I am talking to someone, I am fully aware that whatever strong opinions this person holds or whatever opinions this person might form of me is completely irrelevant because I literally don’t care about this person at all.There isn’t really any exceptions to this. I don’t form attachments with others anymore. Therefore, any negative opinions that might come my way are basically blocked out by apathy because this person can literally be dropped out of my life at a moments notice and I wouldn’t feel any different whatsoever.Not exactly the most “conventional” way of beating social anxiety, but it worked. I no longer care about what people have to say about me. They can be the most wealthiest and famous person in the world and could be firing insults at me until they’re blue in the face and I wouldn’t give any shits. People have stopped being important to me. It doesn’t matter if they’re family, friends, or what have you, I see them all the same. I’m indifferent to them.And to be honest, I am perfectly content with how I turned out. From looking back at how I used to be, I can make an accurate assumption that life is now better now that nobody matters to me anymore.