I am feeling lonely and depressed. I am living alone, go to work alone, and rent a house alone. What should I do about this situation?
For about six months I was feeling the same way as you. My depression and sense of loneliness was a reaction to my situation at the time. Reactive depression means that you know the reasons that are making you feel depressed but have very little control over them at that particular time.If I am feeling depressed (not sleeping properly or too much, no energy, empty) then I break my feelings down into more manageable pieces, try to sort them into ; things I have some control over and those that I just don't have control over right now. So this is what I did;Living alone; as loneliness is isolation then I decided that I would advertise for a housemate . Don't just choose someone out of desperation because you are sharing your home with this person. I knew who would be a good fit for me and the new housemate and I get along well with mutual respect being very important.I wasn't going out enough so I went to the cinema by myself to see a film that I really wanted to see. I am now feeling better because I am working on myself. Baby steps.Next I looked up groups with similar interests to me in the local paper and I am working on joining one. I am not forcing anyone to be to befriend me out of sympathy but dealing with the feeling of being depressed and slowly but surely building my confidence back up.I began to eat better and getting more exercise. I have a dog who has been my saviour. Even a ten minute walk makes you feel better. This even helps your sleep. I have found that having a pet that depends on you, gives meaning to your life. A dog will shower you with love and adoration in return for attention and nourishment from you, it's primarily caregiver.On the days that I am off work, I only allow myself an extra hour of sleep and get up. It's important to find a routine when you are feeling depressed as this gives structure to our lives and we need it.For the things that I no control over like my daughter moving interstate then I write down what I feel, cry and go through the healing process of acceptance. It's what she has to do and I have to accept that.I hope this helps you in some way.
Is it normal to feel so depressed about losing my job?
Pretty normal I would say, losing a job you loved, after being there for 2 years is similar to a death of sorts. Yep. pretty depressing. Get out there as soon as possible and find another! Go on line and start searching. Maybe this will open another door for you for something better! you may not have been able to get this other dream job unless this one ended! Just think, you have 2 years of great experience. Build up your resume now and you will be surprised at how much knowledge you have gained by being where you have been. Open your heart for a new one and it will come to you.
Job is causing me to feel sad and depressed?
I'm 18 and work a minimum wage job. I have a mean boss. I come home after my job and cry sometimes, even on the way home. I feel so depressed there and when I'm not there, work is all I can think about. I know I'm a good employee because I'm told so. I gave my 1 month notice (it's a small company and I wanted them to have time to replace me) but I can't take it anymore. Can I just walk out or call in and say I'm not coming in? I feel so alone in this and I'm so unhappy. It's not healthy. I have a wonderful manager (not the main boss) and would love to use her as a reference but that means putting them on my resume. I have a new job set up and can start whenever I'm done with this one. Advice?
I'm depressed, I don't want to work, why did I even get a job?
I'm 18, almost finished two courses and I will graduate high school. Day before yesterday, I went on Craigslist and sent my resume to a few postings. Yesterday I went to an interview at a restaurant about 5 blocks from my house, and I landed the job. Today was my first shift; I worked from 5 pm to 11 pm. Mostly it was preparing and portioning food and dishwashing. These days I've been so depressed. I have only a few friends, no girlfriend, barely a social life, and I always feel so worthless. Even though I play organ and electric guitar, and am (kind of) in a band, I feel there is no point to me. I finally convinced myself that if I get a job, I will get money to get a cell phone, and then suddenly my social life will skyrocket and all will be good. Right. So I got the job. Already, after my first damn day, I hate it. I feel like a slave. All the employees are so nice and so is my boss, and the work isn't that hard. It's a bit tiring, but it's not so bad. Everyone else seems so happy there. But the whole shift I felt so self-conscious and ugly. I kept asking myself; "why are you even working, to get money? What are you gonna buy? Money won't make you worthy as a person..." My next shifts are from 6 pm to 11 pm on Tue, Wed, Thu, Fri and then Sunday. How can anyone be expected to work that much? I've had jobs before, and I can never hold them down because I always get so irritated being couped up in a kitchen working like a slave. I hate it. The worst part is, everyone here will tell me that I gotta work, especially after I finish school, to support myself. Well, what the hell is the point of working to stay alive, if I spend all my time being alive at work? I wanted to go to a meditation class on Wednesday night, but now I have to work instead. Goddammit... There is something wrong with me. I've always had ADHD, depression, OCD, bipolar, you name it. But I thought I was okay now. I'm not. I can't flirt with the beautiful girls at my work, and I feel like an ugly idiot, who doesn't even deserve a job. If I work, I am depressed because of how meaningless the labor is. If I don't work, I'm depressed over how boring and meaningless my day-to-day life is. So what is the point of anything then?
How to stop feeling depressed in a long distant relationship?
I can totally relate to what you are saying.. If I were you I would take the time to work on "Me". Find hobbies to do and if you are in school stay busy, go out with friends.. YOU HAVE TO STAY BUSY!!!! I know it's hard because you want to be with him, you love him right? Of course you do but you really can't change your situation so stay busy.. If the love you both share is real the distance will only bring you closer together.. I have been down that road you are on so there is someone out there that understand what you are going through.. Good luck sweetie.. STAY BUSY!!!!! Do hobbies and write, text and all that fun good stuff.. AWWW that young love!!! Best of luck to you..