I Lost My Bestfriend How Do I Get Her Back?
Ok..i have this ex best friend that ive been knowing since we was 10 years old. I have recently lost her because she start hanging out with her new friend. I don't have a problem with her new best friend anymore. But i just feel betrayed.! I know i should probably move on but its kind of hard because we used to be so close and i don't like to give up on someone that i care for.I really do think our best friend relationship is meant to be. We have try ed talking about it on the phone to one another but everything we say just makes each other mad. I told her how i felt and she feels the same way. I feel as if she left me for some other friend and she feels as if i left her for some other friend.! We have wrote to each other about the way we felt[since we cant talk about it on the phone with out getting mad]and we both said we want our best friend back[which is each other]. After writing our letters and reading it we haven talked about become back best friends yet.I love this girl like she's my sister and i don't want to give up on this. I need to know how can i get my best friend and how can i approach the situation. But its kind of hard to do when her lil friends/groupies are around.! I need some advice!HELP ME PLEASE!♥
How to get over losing your best friend?
We'd been best friends since we were 7 or 8. We always did everything together. We were so close. When we were 15 something really bad happened to me, and I tried to talk to her about it, but she just turned her back on me and called me a liar. She was so selfish and kept hurting me from that day on. I'm now 18 and I still can't 'get over it'. She's moved on, very clearly. She has a new best friend, who I know and she's a good friend of mine too. I've got a new best friend and he's amazing, far more than she ever was. Is it normal that I'm still not over it?
Lose my best friend, because of solitude?
After being alone for a long time, I've basically decided to give up and settle. There is a woman who wants to be with me badly, but she lacks the one thing I look for in a lady, a good heart, she is kind of selfish and doesn't even think about her 9 year old daugther,(to me thats not good). Problem is, my best friend of 26 years doesn't care for her, and if I do decide to be with her, it will trouble him, not that he wouldn't try with every bit of his heart to get along with her, he would, just because of me, but I would know his true feelings about her, and I wouldn't want to bring her over to his place or hang out together, then the only time I'll see him is at work. Sooooo.... Do I lose my best friend/brother of 26 years and settle for someone I may never care for , or do I continue this solitude, which has been driving me insane for the past 16 years. This solitude must end, but waiting no longer seems to be an option.
What is the feeling of losing a best friend?
Love is not painful, but the unfulfilled expectations when you become too much attached and the pain that it creates is sometimes unbearable. It is painful especially if your feelings are genuine and you love her to the truest of your senses.It kills you everyday to realize that she isn’t with you anymore. But the thing about love is, it is always unconditional. You love her because you want to, not because you want her to love you back. That's what love is all about. Just be true to your feelings and carry on with your life.Getting over someone you love truly is an extremely difficult task. Someday your heart will learn to live with it. It may not completely move on, but it will try to heal and live with it. The problem is to just silence the mind.I lost her not because I cared less, but because I still love her way too much.I lost her because my love strangled her.I cut myself off from her life because I couldn’t see her sad/guilty.I moved away because I still love her when she doesn’t have any feelings.I regret ending the friendship, but if that is what makes her happy, then I am happy to give that to her.
I lost my only friend. How can I move on?
I imagine the crush probably had something to do with the losing of the friend. We often make the mistake that how we feel is a secret until we say something. This is almost never true. We essentially walk around with a great big flashing neon sign above our heads broadcasting everything we think and feel about others. It's called body language and facial expression.The problem you have is probably related to the fact that you have so few friends, because of this you placed affection which should be reserved for a partner on your closest friend, which in turn made that person very uncomfortable.You will probably get past this situation eventually but going forward I suggest thinking of something you are very enthusiastic, passionate about or interested in. Find a club, forum, activity group or something that focuses on this thing of interest. You will then have common ground with everyone in the group from the start. The topic of conversation is already sorted so it's a lot easier to engage with people.Try to practice engaging with others in this context. If at any point you feel like you've mucked up too many times, find another group and keep trying. You will no doubt find other people like yourself, who share this interest and then make more friends!
Why do people lose best friends?
I am sorry this is happening to you.In general, there are many reasons why people stop being best friends. I��ve written about that here: René Alix's answer to How do you know if your now best friend will be your forever best friend?In your specific case I have no idea what happened. If you’re describing things accurately, it sounds like she is an emotional vampire; nothing you do is ever enough to fill her needs; sucks it all out of you and then comes back for more. You’ve been a great friend to her, but she’s not done the same for you.I am sorry to say that it would definitely be best if you cut all ties and moved on. Yes, she’s been the only one you’ve been close to, but it sounds that happened at the expense of everything else in your life. That is never a good sign. You need to keep a balance, or when one piece gets removed, the whole building of your life will threaten to tumble down. A real friend would make sure that they are not consuming all your emotional energy.Try to look at it as a growth experience. Yes, this hurts. A lot. But there is so much of life just out there waiting for you. Next time you meet somebody who might become a friend, you’ll know not to sacrifice everything for them, but to maintain a healthier balance between giving and taking.