Losing my best friend because of her boyfriend? :(?
Hello everyone. I have a problem which had been bugging me lately. I've met my best friend 2 years ago. As we met, we became very close from the start and ended up being best friends. Our friendship was amazing, it looked to good to be true. We were always there for each other, never had a fight, we used to be the most important people to each other (ok, after family). My best friend used to have a boyfriend but I was always more important. I was her #1. She would cancel things so that she can spend time with me. I was always there for her and helped her with college and whatever she needed. I would come to her place although she lives at other side of the town just to comfort her when she was down. We would talk on the phone non-stop. She would call me five times a day. About a month ago she started to date this guy she met last year. Since she's with him, she isn't being social with her other friends anymore. Not even me. I understand that things change a bit in these kind of situations, but I feel a bit hurt. It's because I have a lot of friends, but this with her was different. I really tried hard, our friendship ment so much to me and now I am being left out because of some guy who loves her for some other reasons, not because of the reasons why I and the rest of her friends love her. And also, it hurts me the fact that as she started to date him, she called me being formal. She texted me from his place, wrote long message and my reply was friendly but not too long since I didn't want to bother her since she was with him. She acts sometimes like she want me to be jealous which I'm not. I am very happy for her, but feel a bit hurt because of the way she acts. What if some day he dumps her and she wants to come back to me and others like nothing ever happened? She totally is ignoring everyone. We barely see each other. I tried to talk about this, I said that we don't need to see each other everyday, but at least two or three times a month. It hurts me the fact that she forgot about me, after everything that we've been through. I could never act like that. I don't understand. She always used to say how our friendship is the most important thing to her and how she would never let some guy destroy it. Sometimes I feel like she doesn't care anymore, but she keeps denying that. What should I do? What do you think about this situation?
I get very possessive about my best friend. I care a lot about her. I do every possible thing for her. But somehow she hurts me unintentionally. What should I do? How do I deal with my possessiveness?
It is OK to be possessive about your friends. But let there not be a jump from possessiveness to obsessiveness in your friendship. No relationship grows if you try to stifle it by imposing your self on the other person. If you call her your best friend, you must understand that she needs her own space. Don't expect her to spend all her free time with you and make you the centre of her universe. Everyone has a different perspective towards friendships; accept that and move ahead. Otherwise, you risk losing your best friend to your overt possessiveness. It is up to you if you are willing to take that risk.Now, you also stated that she hurts you unintentionally. Again, very natural because she is a human being and humans tend to do that. More so it happens in case of our best friends and loved ones because we usually take them from granted. So what you can do is, communicate to her how much you value her and tell her that you feel hurt by the concerned actions / words. If that doesn't work, it is time for you to take a step back and re-evaluate your friendship.Good luck! :)
My best friend has become so possessive about me. What should I do?
The best answer is Even i am jealous possessive of my girl best friend .. She’s open minded she talks freely with everyone that makes me jealous more some times i burn that time i lost control break all things …But one thing you should do is hold her hand & say i’ve many friends But when it comes to you that many i dont want .. YES , I WANT YOU FORT LIFE LONG THEY’RE JUST FRIENDS I FORGET ABOUT THEM WHEN I GO TO HOME I DONT EVEN REMEMBER THEIR FACES OR MOBILE NUMBERS.. Every day every second i think about you how to make you happy .. It’s not i am proving good in front of everyone you know about me very well they’re temporary you’re permanent (Say this words definitely it will work Don’t think it as filmy lines but it’s true it happened with me .. She’s my online best friend we stay far but every time i go low she assures the same … You do the same & same time present her a little bracelet tell her that it’s my friendship keep it safe life line pakka means pakka it will work i betAll the best
My best friend wants to date my ex boyfriend should I let her?
Okay here's some things you should know. I have a new boyfriend (not really new to me, but newer), who I have been dating for eight months and who I love with my whole heart. My ex boyfriend was my first love though, I don't have any feelings for him now but after we broke up (I broke up with him because he had been texting girls behind my back and I couldn't trust him. Which pretty much broke my heart.) I stopped talking to him altogether.I ignored him, and basically did my best to forget about him. She knows all this bust insists he's a different person. I guess him and my bff have been talking behind my back (ouch) and they have started to like each other. If they date they're going to be hanging around together all the time and I won't want to hang out with her if she's with him because I really can't stand him anymore. She asked me if I was okay with this, I said I don't know. That just made her mad, she thinks I'm jealous of her now but really I'm not. I just don't want to lose my best friend. We've been best friends for over six years. I don't know anymore. Do I sound bitter? I love my boyfriend and if I could go back and redo it all I would as long as I would still end up with him. Should I just let her date him? I'm afraid we will grow apart. And I'm afraid he will hurt her too. Dx Please help. I just don't know what to do.
My best friend is ditching me for her boyfriend. What should I do?
My best friend and her boyfriend have been dating a few months and since the day they started dating she became a different person she's always rude to me because I don't have a boyfriend she always puts me down she is so arrogant she thinks every guy hits on her and they don't I never seen any hit on her. I love her to death she's my other half but I can't take her boyfriend anymore she wants me and him to get a long and when we do she's like you so like him ____ stop stealing my boyfriend and I am just left standing there like what the heck? She has this group of friends and they have everyone bring a friend and ever since my "best friend" and her boyfriend started dating she never asks me to go and this is my 5th Friday sitting at home a lone. And when we hangout all she does is mope around saying she wants to be with her boyfriend and she doesn't put her phone down so we never talk at our sleepovers. It's almost like she is a stranger at our sleepover and she wants me to feel bad for her. And when she gets mad she takes it out on me. She never used to do this she is a different person now and sometimes I don't want to be friends with her and I am worried about her, and when I CALMY bring this up to her response is always the same. "Your just jealous you don't have a boyfriend and you want me to sit and home and mope with you out of your pitty." Before her boyfriend came into the picture we had a TON more fun. I know I sound self fish but she's really hurt me and this has been going on long enough and I can't take it anymore!!!! Please don't say I am a horrible best friend cause I am not I am ALWAYS there for her when she needs me I drop EVERYTHING to help and when I need her she just says get over it. So please no rudeness What do I do? Thanks in advance!
Best friend gets jealous when I have sex with my boyfriend...?
Idk what to do. I just lost my virginity to my boyfriend last week on valentines day. It was a huge deal for me and I'm 19 so no I'm not too young to be having sex. I really like my boyfriend...a lot. But my BEST BEST BEST friend gets so jealous when I have sex. I've only done it twice since valentines day...I don't think I'm going overboard... The most complicated part is that I used to be in love with my best friend. I'm bisexual I think haha idk i just like people...and I fell in love with her. She on the other hand doesnt like girls, but said she liked me a lot. We somewhat "dated" for about a year. We were not exclusive although we knew if we hooked up with someone the other would be seriously hurt so we never did, we weren't OFFICIALLY dating..because she "doesnt like girls" and she never did anything sexual to me. I only did things to her. Anyway we "dated" (secretly of course because she wasn't too keen on the thought of dating a girl) but we recently "broke up" so I could get with my current boyfriend. She is so jealous when I have sex with him but still claims to not like me. I can't live like this and I'm getting so confused. Idk what to do. Its going to wind up ruining my relationship with my boyfriend.
I’m single. My best friend has a boyfriend. How do I not feel jealous and also feel like I’m losing her at the same time?
True friends are really hard to find. And one of the great things about true friends is that no one can take their place. It’s true that, now that she has a boyfriend, she may not have as much time to spend with you as she once did but boyfriends come and go and no boyfriend can take the place of a best girlfriend. You’re still going to be special to her in your way like he may be special to her in his way. When she needs someone to talk to (alot of the time about him) it’s you she’s going to call. When he hurts her it’ll be you she’s going to count on to be there for her. Think for a minute about a time it may be you that has the boyfriend. Won’t you still want her, your best friend, to be there for some girl time? Sure, at first he’ll probably monopolize most of her time but that doesn’t last long. He’s still got his buds, too, and they’re going to want him to do stuff with them. That’s when you two girls can get together. You don’t have to be jealous coz it’s you that’s there for the long haul. For just a minute, instead of thinking about having a good friend, think about how you can be a good friend. With a little change in perception you’ll begin to let go of those jealous thoughts and with a little time you’ll realize that there’s few things that last forever but having a best girlfriend actually can. Best Wishes-S
I've lost my best friend because his insecure girlfriend is jealous of our friendship - :-(?
I'm a girl who loves guys.. (nt in a sexual way) i get on with them so well. Anyway, a couple of years back i met a guy and we became bestfriends like the bestest of friends. we would speak everyday and i'd give him advice and vice versa; we were just really good friends. now his jealous girlfriend has given him an ultimatum, either her or me... :-( she thinks that we are sleeping together. :-( it's really heart breaking because ,y friend has now changed because of her.. it really really hurts.. :-( i'm not single, i have a partner and a kid also me and him don't see each other in that way at all. i don't know what to do. now we go days without speaking and when i see him (around - we don't even meet up anymore) he is cold towards me. it's actully breaking my heart and i cry about it because i love him so much and don't want him out of my life. What should i do???