Should I tell her that we can't be friends?
I am in love with her, but I don't think she wants to be in a relationship with me - she told me I'm the "nicest" person she has ever met, that's pretty much the kiss of death - I don't want to be her emotional tampon, should I tell her we can't be friends if we're not going to date? I am hoping this will make her re-evaluate the situation, or maybe think of a possible relationship between us that maybe she hasn't quite thought about before... What do you think?
When should I tell her I love her?
Well, your friend is right. You should say it when you really know that you feel this way. Maybe a month or two. Who knows - it's really up to you. I think it's acceptable to say I love you real fast only if you were friends before becoming lovers - that's pretty self explanatory.
I fell in love with my friend, but she doesn't feel the same way. She wants me in her life but being there as just her friend hurts too much. I’ve tried distancing myself, but we both miss each other. What can I do?
Hi.I can tell you what to do because I'm in exactly the same condition.LITERALLY.So what I did.I took a day and explained my complete mental state to her and told her that I need her more than a relationship.I explained to her what she means to me.I told her that my feelings are on one hand and they can never come between me and her because she was scared to lose me as a friend.I try to distant myself, it hurts even more.I have learned to live with it now, you know why?Because, if I am honest with her about my feelings and If I am strong enough to stay focused in my own life even after being in love with her and still not being WITH her, only then she'll see me as someone worthy enough.Maybe she never accepts you as anything more as a friend, but you won't regret not trying.Just tell her once and if she tells you NO, back off.. stay normal and be a good and supportive gentleman.I joined the gym now, I train myself hard there and leave it all there.. Life goes on right?I'm waiting for her even now and a lot more.Hope for the best.
I don't know what to do... I love her so much.?
Mkay, here it goes. 7 months ago I met a really wonderful girl. We became best friends (I did, she liked me I think.) She with the time started to like me, and I also did. And in June I was going on a vacation. Some days before I went she told me that she liked me more than a friend, and I told her the same thing. The problem was that there were people surrounding us so it didn't work out as I wish it would. Anyway some days later I screwed up things when I started to act like an idiot. (And that was because I was thinking about our situation, what would happen next? What would happen in 3 months etc?) Anyway she felt that something was wrong. She told me that every step she took forward, I backed down or resisted. That was unfortunately the case, but it was not because I didn't like her, it was because of my thinking and sorrow that I had to leave. So I was stupid enough to tell her that we should chill out for a little bit. Oh God I’m starting to cry... Anyway she ignored me totally and did not talk to me, because we had stepped down. When I asked her why she did ignore me, she said that "we decided to step down". My reaction to her was "I did interpret this like 2-3 steps back". Unfortunately I went to my vacation without even kissing or hugging her. I did not have the guts to do anything after we stepped down. When I came up to her I forgot everything I wanted to say and so did she... Now when I’m back from my vacation I love her so much that I can't freaking describe it. I've like cried for days and weeks. Sometimes literally bursting in tears. God damnit... I don't want to tell her my feelings because I’m afraid she will get scared and leave me directly. (Maybe I should give her some time?) If I knew she loved me, this second I would run over to tell her. She has a best friend that she tells everything to. I was thinking about asking her but what if she tells her? I don't know what the hell I should do. I love her so undescribably much. It is so hard trying to live without her. I just think about her. Every freaking minute, some times every damn second! I can't have fun, I can't look forward to anything I can't do anything. The only thing I can do is to think about her. Two days ago I felt so bad that I would rather have been shot in the leg by a rifle just to stop thinking about her for that moment. Please someone help me. I don't know what to do...