I just got caught shoplifting, I feel horrible HELP?
berry - I am an attorney and I know a lot about this subject. Do not take this as creating an attorney-client relationship. You may, however, find it helpful. I won't judge you, dear. Many good people find themselves caught up in this type of situation. There may, however, be legal consequences to this, which you need to be prepared for. That is why I am answering your post. You say that the police were called but you don't say whether or not you received a citation or other paper which requires you to appear in court. If you have not already received a citation, then, probably, you will not receive one. I can't be certain of that, because sometimes people are charged with a crime after they are released, but usually they are charged with the crime on the spot, particularly when the police are called. If you did receive a citation to appear in court (or receive one later) you absolutely must talk to an attorney experienced in criminal matters about this. An attorney may be able to defend you if your friend was the one who actually stole something. Also, even if you have no real defense, in some states the charge can be reduced to a non-criminal infraction and in many more states first offenders can qualify for a "diversion" program. If you are allowed into diversion and you successfully complete the program requirements, at the end of the day the case is dismissed and you have no criminal record. Do not expect judges, prosecutors, police, or court staff to give you good advice. It is not their job to protect your interests. Another thing tha may happen is that you and your parents may receive a "civil demand" letter from the store, saying that you owe a penalty. The amount of the penalty may be many times the amount of the stolen merhandise. Usually, attorney fees can be added to the penalty if you don't pay, and that may be many times the amount of the penalty. Generally, it is better to pay the penalty than risk the cost of fighting it. If you have or do get charged with a crime, however, you should talk to the attorney about the penalty before paying it. Well, hopefully neither criminal nor civil penalty consequences will result. If they do, however, make sure you talk to an attorney to minimize the consequences of this mistake.
I made a huge mistake and I feel the worst person in the world. Does a big mistake make you a bad person?
No if you are ready to work out your mistake. I mean what matters is not that you make mistakes (cause eveybody makes mistake and sometimes we dont have any intention to do that but it happens) but what matters is just that how you correct your mistakes.And mistakes are the best teacher if you take responsibility of your mistakes. And the worst thing is that you make lame excuses or blame someone else for it. Be truthful and say i made a mistake but i want to correct it.if you want to share with me what did you have done? you can . i will try my best to help you.Is this answer helpful? Tell me what should i also tell. If this is helpful , dont forget to upvote
I made a mistake in my life which I feel extremely bad of. I'm ashamed of myself to the core. I never thought I would do something like that. How do I recover?
We as humans are not infallible. We all make mistakes, it is part of human nature that we are sometimes driven by our fears, our over ambition, sometimes by our desires. All these our drives sometimes push us to make mistakes.When you have made a mistake or mistakes. It is not the end of the world. It is not that we are the worst person ever existed. It is not good for us to dwell in self-pity or guilt. It is good you begin to forgive yourself by understanding that you are a mortal being. And mortals make mistakes. They have flaws and are not gods.When you make such mistakes ask yourself. Is there no way to make it right? When you understand the truth about this question. You begin to have a new mindset. It begins to resonate in you that the future is far better if you reshape your thinking pattern and objectively see that what matters the most is not what happened but how you respond to what happened. Rise up from self-defeating thoughts and move on with your life. Life favors those who fall and rise up again.
I cheated on my boyfriend and I feel horrible.?
ok a few things... first off you absolutely HAVE to tell him... it's a must... you have to tell him what you did and that you're sorry and hopefully... HOPEFULLY... he will take you back... there is NOTHING you can do to garauntee him to stay with you... and you were in the wrong and you know it... you know you shouldn't have so if he does dump you you know you deserve it... you sound like you actually do care so i'll give you the benefit of the doubt... but i just want to know... why did you do it? what in the world makes you people want to do this to the people you care about? i've had this happen to me before and it's the single worst thing that has happened to me... there's no garauntee that he will take you back but you NEED to tell him what you did there's no way to have a good relationship if it isn't honest and if he finds out what you did from anyone other than you then you can kiss your relationship goodbye so you just need to tell him and then hope he forgives you
I "catfished" someone and I feel really terrible about it?
This isn't really a question.. I just kind of need to vent. So I met someone last September on omegle* text chat and he asked for my kik and I gave it to him and we started talking and hit it off right away. So he asked for a picture and i showed him a picture of someone that wasnt me. But I was going through a rough time in my life and just needed someone to talk to that wouldn't judge me based on how I looked. Anyway, he believed that this girl was me and we continued talking and he always suggested me to come meet him. (He lived in delaware I lived in ohio) and I always said I would. We made plans to meet spring break but obviously since I was not the girl in the picture, I couldn't meet him. So I made up an excuse and he fell for it. And if you use kik, you know how it shows when someone takes pics from the camera or gallery, I always sent him pics already in my phone. He would always ask for camera pics but I always made up an excuse. Anyways, in late April, he found out I was fake. Because the girls pictures I used was someone who was a site model and he did the google drag pic method and found hundreds of Facebook accounts for the girl. Surprisingly, he was cool with me being fake and just wanted to see the "real me". I still couldn't bring myself to show him my real identity so I catfished him yet again using another girls pictures. He found out more quickly this time that I was fake and in may, I finally showed him my real self and he STILL wanted to talk. But as may went on, he had final exams in school and graduation and work and needed to concentrate so we started talking less as less until he just stopped talking to me. I messaged him on kik and he said he just couldn't talk to someone who was fake to him 2 times. And I agreed what I did was wrong and if he ever wanted to talk again id still be here. That was late in may and we have not talked since then but I think about him every day about how wrong of me it was to do something like that
Have you ever done something so terrible that it made you feel guilty and ashamed? How did you cope with it?
This question seems like it was Taylor made to allow me to share a life changing experience!I live in NYC. During summer here, a very popular sport that is played in parks citywide, is handball/Paddleball.As a younger adult, I was quite a Paddleball enthusiast, and played as often as I could. I'd consider myself a decent intermediate player.For those who my not be familiar with the sport, it could be described as similar to tennis, except you and your opponent alternately hit the ball against a wall, and the person who fails to hit the return after one bounce on the court, loses the point. In most of the parks here, the courts are in pairs. The wall is in the middle, with a court on both sides. So, two games can be played at the same time.One day I was playing against my cousin, who was my most closely matched opponent. Our games were always very close, and fiercely contested. This day was no different. While we were playing our game, there was a 9 or 10 year old boy on the other side of the wall, just throwing the ball against the wall by himself. He was having fun, and not bothering anyone. However, a few times he accidentally threw his handball over the wall onto our court. The first time was no big deal. It happens often. I just threw it back over the wall, and we replayed the point. But after the fourth time it happened, I got frustrated, and hit the young man's ball with my paddle. It flew over the wall, and over the fence behind his court, onto the soccer field on the other side. Since his ball was green, he couldn't find it in the grass.However, after about a half hour of searching, he DID find our Paddleball (which is smaller than a handball) that we had lost earlier. He came over to us and asked “did you guys lose this?”I immediately felt like the lowest P.O.S. on Earth!He could have easily just pocketed our ball, and we would have been none the wiser. Instead, he did what most parents dream of for their kids. He found something like the one he lost, that didn't belong to him, and he returned it to its rightful owner.I felt so terrible about my impatience, that I reached into my bag and gave him all of the extra handballs that I had (about 5).I will never forget the lesson that that 9 year old kid, taught what was a 28 year old man at the time.From that day on, whenever I feel my self starting to lose my patience with people, I remember that day.That memory SNATCHES me right back in line!
How do I stop feeling bad whenever I make a mistake?
The answer relies on this simple note of the movie Black Swan:What type of human being even tho he knows that he has flaws, still invalidates himself when he makes mistakes? The ones that are trying to be P E R F E C T.And aren’t we all, battling against this “disease”?! It’s almost as if ALL of us are so scared of imperfection because we are being seen all the time, like a reality show, and even this type of shows, are 90% editing, 10% reality. We were taught to see the perfect side of things on movies with the fake type of romances, social interactions where we all want to seem the “Knows-it-all” when we have no clue of many aspects of life, through fashion with the fake personas many of us are creating to ourselves trying to portrait famous people, without forgetting social media, the “KING” of them all in fakeness, with the wannabe “luxury lifestyles”.How can’t you not feel invalidated being surrounded by this type of “environment”?! I totally understand your pain but I won’t understand you (with all do respect) if you let your pain destroy you! Because honestly speaking if you want to live an healthy life, far from anxiety problems or other psychological problems you will have to choose: is it your perfect imperfection, or your fake perfection and it’s going to win?I believe you are smart and I know you will choose wisely. So LIVE, because our time in this earth is already short and at the end of the day it will be only every single one of us at the end of the tunnel.
My nose makes me feel ugly?
Don't get the nose job, it's not worth it, there are lots of risks and once you grow up you might regret it because you;ll realize that confidence is key and you shouldn't care about things like that. Once you have confidence in yourself then the other things don't matter. People teased me when I was younger but now the boys look at other things, they also think that i am very attractive because I am now building more confidence in myself.