What is one mistake that ruined your life?
I decided I wasn't going to put effort in before I had even started.Now, I might be a bit melodramatic in claiming it ruined my life but it certainly had a major impact on its current course. I am terrified of failure. It comes from being an overachiever in primary school and a bit of a perfectionist. But it's what I define as failure that causes the problem. To me, failure is only unacceptable when I try and subsequently fail. I'd rather have potential than hit a limit.Take 8 year old me in cross-country squad trials. I had been a steady member of the team the previous year. I wasn't anything spectacular but I wasn't bad. At the end of the season, I had a new personal best. At the start of the new season, I knew it would be tough to beat that time. I hadn't exercised much over summer and could barely run the whole course without wheezing (we later realised this was asthma). Instead of running a trial time and making the cut-off for the team, I lied and said I had twisted my ankle. My coach knew I had a good time so she let me on the team. I could've finished the course and made the team properly but it was that minute risk of failure and the overshadowing feeling that I wouldn't be able to top the previous year.This extrapolated to much of my life. I'd rather not put effort in and fail than put in effort. It was like I needed the ability to say “Oh but I didn't try so I wasn't expecting to do well” as an excuse. It took a long time to form a solid work ethic and to motivate myself. I'd like to say that I realised before I went too far but that would be a lie. I didn't put enough effort into university applications and now I'm scrambling to pick up the pieces of my self-constructed jigsaw of a future. But at least I've learnt my lesson.TL;DR: preferred to increase chance of failure than decrease it. This concept backfired.
How come one mistake can ruin your life?
It can't, people only think it can because when mistakes occur it demolishes our optimism. There is no such thing as ruining lives unless you physically injure someone and ruin their life. People who have been damaged emotionally only think that there life is ruined because that is how they feel from whatever has caused damage to them. If one mistake links to other things that can cause a lot of grief to an individual then that is how one mistake could damage somebody.
I made a mistake that could ruin my life?
I'm 17 and i went on a few gay video chat websites and masturbated with other people more than one. On one of them I did other things that are really dirty. I showed my face vividly and this was the stupidest thing I ever did. I was exploring my sexuality and I guess I felt repressed and it was nice having people compliment me. I can't believe I could be so stupid. This could ruin my life if it was recorded and got out. It could come back years later and lose my job and prevent me from getting jobs and it could even hurt me now if it got out I would be kicked out of my private school and I love in a religious community. I try to tell myself there's no reason I have to believe it was recorded but I know it's possible. I showed other things besides my penis and i was in very sexual positions and the guy told me to do them so I listened to him. I told him I was 18 so he doesn't know this is child pornography so he would still post it. I now feel like for the rest of my life this could get out and it will never leave me because I don't know if it's on the internet. I tried searching for it on websites but I can't find it. I learned my lesson and please nobody write "well you deserve it'" because nobody deserves this stress and fear. I'm scared. And if I become an actor, people could recognize me from the video. I regret doing it. I can't believe how stupid I could be. Could anyone give me some advice?
I just made a mistake that ruined my life forever?
Looking for any words of wisdom or comfort that are also true. What is a good way to think about horrible mistakes we make in life? Any way I can view this that is not putting a falsely positive bent on things.....words of comfort or wisdom that are also true - I need a way to deal with this regret....help!?
Ever made one stupid mistake which ruins your life? explain?
The only way you can ruin your life is by killing yourself. But no matter how messed up things are, it's never too late to get your life back on track. There are some mistakes that still linger in my mind (my first boyfriend, my messed up credit, not finishing school etc.) but these things aren't enough to hold me down. Though it may be a little harder and stressful at times, we are equipped with the power to overcome and that's one of the wonders of life.