I Met A Freak Five Years Ago And Still Can

We’ve been dating 5 years, and have been engaged 2 months, but he still isn’t telling his children about the engagement, why?

Have you thought about asking him? Depending on the ages of the children and the circumstances surrounding their mother, he may find it difficult to voice the engagement to them as it means that you are both serious in your commitment and marriage is on the cards. What do they think that you are wearing on the ring finger of your left hand? That is a huge giveaway. I would probably start to press him a little about when the wedding date should be and gauge his reaction to that

What is something that people were better at 100 years ago?

They were better at living frugally, and cooking economically since there was a limited number of ingredients.During and after WWI there was scarcity of food in many countries. People were inventive and they came up with different recipes in order to survive and avoid further food shortages. They mostly relied on potatoes and other vegetables, wheat and corn, but the general advice was, at least in the UK, to reduce the amount of bread eaten per family because there were wheat shortages. [1]Unlike today, people in the 1910’s threw away minimal amounts of food.Here are some of the dishes from the 1910’s. All recipes can be found here[2]. Not bad at all considering a very limited number of groceries. Besides, food back then was healthier (less sugar, not processed) which is also a plus.Cheese and Lentil SavouryPea soupWar cake made without eggs.Better hairsyles. Ordinary women wore more complex and intricate hairstyles and it seems they put more effort into looking great on ordinary days. I'm not sure if getting the perfect hairstyle is worth so much time, but the 1918 hairstyles were more sophisticated than today. Of course, they may seem completely out-of-date now, but compared to the present everyday hairstyles, there was at least a greater variety to choose from.Fashion. It's the same thing as with hairstyles. Fashion was taken more seriously, and clothing items looked more timeless and more elegant than today. It's a broad generalization, I know, but please compare the two pictures and think about which items would look better to wear on a formal occassion.If you wonder where I took the photos from, just Google Fashion trends 2018 and voila!Children had more fun, spent way more time outdoors and very way more physically active than today. If we forget about the scarcity of food and medicines in some places and the war, children were physically fitter and probably more emotionally stable than today. There were no computer addictions, child obesity wasn't a thing and there weren't so many problems with concentration.In 1910’s and 1920’s……and today.Thank you for reading.https://www.europeana.eu/portal/...Footnotes[1] Waste Not, Want Not – Recipes from the First World War - Shropshire Remembers WW1[2] On The Home Front: Original Wartime Recipes from The Great War 1914 to 1918

I'm 25 and have wasted last 10 years of my life. I feel I lag behind my contemporaries. How can I catch up with them?

This are some of the common questions of today’s generation. But we should take some sort of inspiration from our previous generation people.An inspirational story ahead….COLONEL SANDERSanders was born in 1890. When he was six years old, his father passed away leaving Sanders to cook and care for his siblings. In seventh grade, he dropped out of school and left home to go work as a farmhand. Already turning into a tough cookie.At 16, he faked his age to enlist in the United States army. After being honorably discharged a year later, he got hired by the railway as a laborer. However, he got fired for fighting with a coworker. While he worked for the railway, he studied law--until he ruined his legal career by getting into another fight. Sanders was forced to move back in with his mom and get a job selling life insurance. And guess what? He got fired for insubordination. But this guy wouldn't give up.In 1920, he founded a ferry boat company. Later, he tried cashing in his ferry boat business to create a lamp manufacturing company only to find out that another company already sold a better version of his lamp. Poor guy couldn't catch a break.It wasn't until age 40 that he began selling chicken dishes in a service station. As he began to advertise his food, an argument with a competitor resulted in a deadly shootout. Four years later, he bought a motel which burned to the ground along with his restaurant. Yet this determined man rebuilt and ran a new motel until World War II forced him to close it down.Following the war, he tried to franchise his restaurant. His recipe was rejected 1,009 times before anyone accepted it. Sander's "secret recipe" was coined "Kentucky Fried Chicken", and quickly became a hit. However, the booming restaurant was crippled when an interstate opened nearby so Sanders sold it and pursued his dream of spreading KFC franchises & hiring KFC workers all across the country.After years of failures and misfortunes, Sanders finally hit it big. KFC expanded internationally and he sold the company for two million dollars ($15.3 million today). Even today, Sanders remains central in KFC's branding and his face still appears in their logo. His goatee, white suit and western string tie continue to symbolize delicious country fried chicken all over the world.Moral: Never give up. Staying positive and passionate can help us to go through this hard times. It’s Never too late to begin a new life. So cheer up and begin with a bang.

I’ve smoked weed almost everyday for the past 1.5 years. I just feel it is somehow affecting my memory. Can someone who regularly smokes weed tell me about its consequences?

Some people smoke just to chill outSome people smoke to createSome people smoke for the healingSome people smoke just to forget…I have a chronic disease. I smoke weed everyday and have no intention of quitting the herbs… Changing however is an option.When I am moody my soul turns black. I become this thing I hate… When it settles I'm remorseful, even so bitterly. It's a thorny bush to land on but that's my lot in life… EndometriosisLet's discuss the pain. I've had injuries to shame pro skaters yet nothing is as maiming the monster that chews the candy walls of my baby factory… Just to spit it out all along inside this delicate frame. Candy walls intact or spat out all swell every double fortnight. Pain in my thighs, hips, rectum (that's right), lower back, shoulders. God it hurts everywhere. The swelling makes me look pregnant. Blocked bowels. Nausea. Fatigue. Pedal edema. IBS. And a lot of fancy names for shit that isn't as severe as the abovementioned.Doctors have me pain medication that almost killed me with ulcers.I nearly died obviouslyChange of plans… Fuck the medical industry (Change to Biomedical Science)Weed kicks everything's ass.In the end all I can say is it beats the chronic meds I used to take. Helps with all my complications except dehydration. Helps me eat well. Keeps me in a good mood.The next step is to be more sustainable in terms of my lung death. Smoking weed is bad for you. Healthier methods are available. Edibles are the way. Waxes. Oils.Use only what you know has a positive effect on you. If it gets in the way of relationships, work, financial stability or constant dependence then take some time to evaluate the impact of it.

I am in the best relationship of my life, two years strong now. Why do I still obsessively think of my ex, even though I wouldn't want to be with them again?

Your brain has unfinished business. In what context do you think of them? Would you feel jealous or relieved if they were with someone else? Would you feel happy or sad if their life was not going well? You might have some resentment of them depending on what happened during the relationship, or you might miss some aspect of the relationship. If it were me I would want to pinpoint why I could not let them go emotionally. There may even be something missing in your current relationship that you aren’t aware of. Sadly, sometimes we miss the drama. If your relationship with him was more tumultuous than your current one you might miss the adrenaline rush you get from being with someone more “exciting”. Figure out what you really miss, then figure out a way to either get it, or substitute it with something healthier (in case it’s the rush you’re missing, etc).

Have you ever met someone that you had an extreme connection/attraction to that you never saw again?

My experienceI just went on a school trip to Iceland that lasted about 5 days. There was people from multiple different schools who went.The first bit of the trip I just stuck around with my friends, however by the second day, I got speaking to a lovely girl and we really hit it off. She was amazing, funny (she had the same humor as me), very intelligent, liked all the same music (we have a more rare taste in music), cute but not even that good looking, but something about her just really drew me in and we had a really strong connection, something about us just worked. This was a unique experience and sort of the first time I’d felt attracted to anyone that quickly, especially for more than just her looks (I know, shallow of me).By the end of the trip we were basically around each other almost as much as possible, joking around, flirting etc, right up until we literally left the airport and got into our cars.I still really really miss her, and to think it was not long ago just makes me pretty depressed to be honest.I have her on social media, we live in the same city and talk occasionally, but even then, realistically with different schools and busy lives and being on other ends of the same city, we probably won’t see each other again, or even if we do it’s not possible to continue any strong friendship.I didn’t even necessarily want to date her, i don’t think she saw me in that way and I didn’t necessarily see her that way either, I would have really valued keeping her as a friend, anything. I just can’t believe I became such good friends with this girl in such a short time and it was all over so quickly. I’ve never connected with anyone like this before, but it did help teach me about who I look for in future relationships and that there are girls out there that really suite me. and how you never know who or when you will meet someone you get along really well with.

Assuming being old is 55 and over, how and at what age did you first accept being old?

At 50 you don’t feel changed, but everyone treats you differently. They look at you differently, or worse, not at all! You find that you have become invisible to many that you are still interested in. It is a shock to the system. Then you start to accept that though you feel the same, you are not, and life is different.And you start to realize… oh my god… I am older.It’s a bit of a shock, and eventualky you begin to process the logic of it: if there are three parts to life, youth, middle age, and old age, and if a person lives to be 75, which is just about the average of a man in the USA, then youth is 0–25, middle age is 25–50, and old agenis 50–75. Anything beyond that is just good fortune!Then you discover that when you try to tell people what you know now, they don’t want to hear it! Nobody who’s 20 wants to hear that they’re about to become middle aged in five years… Nobody who’s 25 wants to hear that they are middle-aged… And nobody at 50 wants to hear that they’re old! But I think it is very helpful to be realistic about life.I think I was 55 before I realized that I had thought I was still in my youth when I was 50! And I didn’t grasp that I had missed middle age, altogether, while I was in a state of eternal youth, and flat out denial. And in my denial I was missing a perfectly good relationshio with reality.We deny our own mortality to feel better about ourselves, to feel safe, and we love to pretend that we are not going to die. But we all are. And it’s worth meditating on that. Being aware of our mortality hopefully inspires us to live life more fully, and to appreciate our every moment… to make the most of our lives and to direct our selves to do good. And to not leave for tomorrow the good we can do today.To meditate on life and death every day prepares one for both, and to live in gratitude frees one to live life in joy. Do you pretend like life is a fairytale and that you were not going to die, is to give yourself permission to delay doing what is important in life.I think the best advice I’ve ever been given was “it’s later than you think…”. So get busy doing what you love and what you are here for.