My friend is having second thoughts on her adopted baby.?
Are you kidding me? This has to be some sick joke. It is people like her that give adoptive parents a bad name. My husband and I pray every waking moment that we are blessed with being able to adopt a child whether from a person to person adoption or from foster care, and here this woman is blessed with a child by adoption and a biological child, and she isn't sure if she wants the adopted child. Shame on her! She doesn't deserve the adopted child, and I feel sorry for the biological child. What happens when the bio kid is upsetting her, she's going to get rid of that one too? Apparently nothing is good enough for her. She needs to give both of those children to a family that will love them unconditionally, not just until the next best thing comes along.
I'm having second thoughts on getting married, do you have any advice for me?
We have a habit of ignoring a person's faults until we agree to marry them. As the wedding day gets closer, we start seeing the person and all his faults and ask our self, "Do I really want to spend the rest of my life putting up with all this man's faults?" About 2 weeks before my wedding day, I wanted to call off the wedding. But all the wedding plans were done and the invitations sent out. How could I call off the wedding now? I told myself I just had cold feet and I went ahead with the wedding. Big mistake!!! Two years later and now with a baby, I divorced him. All my fears about him and what marriage would be like with him, all came true. When you marry someone, you have to believe with all your heart that he is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Just because you love him, doesn't mean that you are meant to be together for life. Call off the wedding. Tell your boyfriend that you love him, but you just aren't ready to make a lifetime commitment at this time. Yes he will be hurt and maybe angry, but you will be making a big mistake marrying someone you feel that if you had it all over to do again, you wouldn't marry him. If he's not the right man for you, then you need to move on and find someone else. I think it would be hard for him to continue being just friends, while you date other men. It would be a mistake also for you to continue dating him after you cancel the wedding. Don't put your life and your future on hold like that because you love him. As you said, you love him, but he's not right for you. Make a clean break. It's the best thing for the both of you.
My friend is having second thoughts before her wedding in August, how and what should I tell her?
Did she have first doubts too? If she is really wavering tell her to decide if she's in love with her future spouse or in love w the idea of having one. Be careful you never give your opinion (unless he has serious flaws) , only help her to reach her's. If she can't imagine her life without him, and he's a good person, she may regret not marrying him. Have her list her fears and concerns and evaluate how legit they are. You each have to be willing to put your spouse first when it's fair, or it won't work out. Marraige is hard sometimes, and there's little room for a bloated ego. Knowing if you're in love is one thing. Being able to evaluate character is vital.
Having second thoughts about going to Prom?
soo it's my Junior prom..and im also on the prom committee. but im having second thoughts about going..all of my friends have dates besides me and like two or three others. To me, its just not Prom without a date..thats just what everyone wants to happen. And Prom is April,26..I haven't got a dress, shoes, or a mask(masquerade is the theme) and I just don't know what to do. I hate to not go in a way but the other half doesn't wanna go. SOO any advice, suggestions? Thanks:)
Said yes to a date, having second thoughts. Advice?
I'm 15. I've kissed guys before, but I've never actually been on a date. I was just getting over another guy, who I made out with a bunch of times, but he ended up getting with another girl. So i kinda felt like my self esteem went down. so then this other guy started showing interest in me, and I definately led him on even though I didn't have feelings for him, 'cause it was a distraction from the other guy. Last night he asked me out, and I said yes, but now I'm really doubting that. He's not like geeky but I hear he's "awkward." I feel like I should just stop leading him on now so I can avoid the awkward date with a guy I don't even like. But I feel bad because I flirted with him, and I feel like I should give it a try. Opinions?
How do I stop having second thoughts on the guy I'm dating right now? The more I think about it, the more I want to end it…
You must have been seeing red flags yet you are ignoring them like a blind driving a Porsche. Your mind is telling you to stop all at once because you are seeing nothing ahead but your heart is telling you to go ahead because it is exhilarating. Problem is you are hearing only the latter.There should be no second thoughts if the relationship is steady and rock solid in the first place. You like being in the “Porsche” but you don’t know if you should be in it at all.Having second thoughts is like your mind is telling you something is amiss, something must not be happening or something should be like this and not like that. It could be the way he is treating you or how you are treating yourself.Take a time off without your boyfriend. A week or two will help. Be with friends, family or just anybody who really care for you sans the romantic feelings. Then once you hit it again with BF, you will easily see the differences of yourself being with him and yourself just being yourself.
Is it okay for a girl to have second thoughts about her boyfriend she is planning to marry?
That is a loaded question and there is not much of details given..While it is always totally ok to have second thoughts about anything in life, we need to reflect on the reasons behind themIf you are just having an argument or disagreement and either of you ended up being spiteful, that is very natural. You just have to have a conversation and sort things out. Very common among mature couples who discussion, converse and share thoughts.However although you have not mentioned it, I am still going out on a limb and assume you are having second thoughts because of somethings that you feel are incompatible then again as adults you should sit down on trying to understand what his real thoughts are about it. It could be about how both of you manage money or having kids then again open discussions will sort those out.Never go into something like marriage with second thoughts because that could be the result of your gut feel and somethings that funny feeling in your stomach turns out to be the "canary in the coal mine"I am surprised some people are just being judgemental without being helpful in their answers and that is not nice!HTH!
Second thoughts joining the Marines?
Okay so I'm already in the deluded entry program and I leave in a month and a half. My MOS is going to be in the 1300 field. I'm starting to have second thoughts because all my friends at college and their having the time of their lives and I feel I'll be missing out on that when I could be with them. But then I think of how great and proud Ill be becoming a Marine even though I'll be missing out on all the parties and the girls. I know I can go to college when I'm older but it'd be different and all my friends would be done with college while I'm just starting. Basically am I going to miss out on partying, women and concerts while at my duty station? And if you're going I call me immature and dumb then just go kick rocks because I'm asking about my future and I'm curious.
Just started dating a guy and already having second thoughts. :(?
Okay, So i used to like this guy a lot. I told him. He told me that being friends is all he wanted. I was hurt but I made it out. I sorta got over him until he told one of my friends that he likes me. So...even though I was sort of over him, it ignited the sparks again. But it may have been temporary. He then told me that he likes me and I said it to him back. But he didn't ask me out. I started having second guesses. Sometimes, I felt completely crazy about him but sometimes I felt like I didn't like him and sometimes , I just didn't know. I knew he was going to ask me out soon, so sometimes I thought I'd say yes , while sometimes I thought I'd say no. But he asked me out 3 days ago and I said yes. So we're dating. He's my first boyfriend. But right now, I feel like just breaking it off with him. It can be cold feet and just an uncomfortable feeling but I don't really know. Is it cuz I got over him or cuz I'm just weird about having a boyfriend? I've also starting noticing a lot of his flaws. Like his spelling and grammar is bad, he can be really stupid and just random stuff. Not to be cocky, but he goes to a weird school. And he has facial hair that I hate. He's a nice guy but I feel like I'm settling, Please help. :( And I don't know about breaking up with him because he likes me a lot. Plus, we are apartment friends and his bestirred is this girl and i feel like if I do break up with him, everyone is going to hate me. So , I'm just scared. :(