So. I miss my guy friend. But he hurt me.. ?
Ok so. I had this friend. We talked all the time and always helped eachother with our various problems. And deep down I had feelings for him all along. Then all of a sudden, we started flirting more and one thing led to another and he told me he liked me, and that he had for a while. Which made me sooooo happy. But he had a gf. I know I know I'm terrible. He had been telling me he was gonna break up with her. Anyway. 2 days later he stops talking to me altogether and never breaks up with her. I was devastated and so hurt that he would do that to me, his really good friend. But now I miss him. And I am so mad at him. But I misss being his friend. Would it be pathetic and stupid to try to talk to him? I was thinking something like "so. I'm totalllyyyyy mad at you. But I miss talking to my friend..." should I do it? I really don't know.
He hurt me so bad. Why do I still love him and miss him so much?
Think of it this way: if he came back to you now, things wouldn't be the same. You'd resent him for breaking up with you just because he liked someone else more. You'd feel a sense of betrayal no matter what. Fixate on his flaws, not his good points. Imagine the girl he left you for. I'm not sure if you know her or not, but imagine what she's got going for her. I don't mean physically, I mean her character. Is she honest? Hard-working? Independent? Extremely kind? Whatever traits you see in her, try to strive for that yourself. Improve yourself to the best of your abilities. That way, if you're the best person you can be, then you can get someone just as good (or even better!) easily. Do things for yourself. That's REALLY important. When I thought I failed a job interview, I got my nails done. Do things you might normally not splurge money on--this is YOUR time because you've spent far too much time on someone else. Get your hair done, buy clothes you normally find too expensive, go to a spa, get a massage, etc. The last time a boyfriend broke up with me, I was so hurt I could barely get out of bed for a month. Even after that month was over I really withdrew from my friends because every day I felt like my arm had been chopped off. I slowly crawled out of my shell by getting a new job, being in a new environment and giving myself some ME time. And if you want to get over him quicker, just pretend he died and if you see him around, tell yourself that's his identical twin whom you did not have a relationship with. I feel most of the pain from a break-up comes from your ego being wounded by the fact someone you gave your heart out for thought you weren't good enough for them. So don't think about it that way. Just pretend he died.
I miss my ex girlfriend, the love of my life so much.. it hurts so bad?
Even had a tear in my eye for you then! I miss my ex too, he felt the way about me that you do about her. I also lost the spark, but didn't know what I had till it's gone... If its meant to be it will happen later on, but for now - chin up, smile and take life as it comes...
Why do I miss someone who hurt me bad?
Daisy you can't stop thinking about this person because he was very dear to you, he meant alot to you and you valued your friendship. and its just such a shock that someone you don't take for granted would hurt you. Time is the best medicine and everyday gets better. Friends will walk in and out of your life, some were fake from the beginning and some weren't. may as well get use to it because its probably not going to be the last time.
I miss her so much my heart hurts...?
My best friend and I got into a fight a few days ago and I miss her so much, we were so close. I want to apologize and I want everything to go back to normal but I said some stuff that I can't take back. I told her I didn't want to be friends anymore but I didn't really mean it and now she isn't speaking to me. Now I'm questioning if our friendship actually meant anything to her since she doesn't seem to be as sad about our argument as I am. How can I fix this mess?
I miss my boyfriend so much it hurts! My chest has a constant pain. Why does it do this?
Dang girl! you have to be independent woman not dependent! what the hell happens if you two break up, are you goingto curl up in hte feetal position and die! hell no! wake up, get into some sports! go joggin gevery morning, get yourself busy so you not soo damn bored taht you think about him, make new friends, ooo go shopping! get yourself a dog ,cat or fish! haha theres so much to do out there, dont sit around and pout, becuses remember this, onceyou fallen rock bottom all you can do now is get up! so get up and do something with your life and when your older you wont remember your college years as sitting around moaping cause your bf aint there!
Why do I miss someone who hurt me?
Well the psychological explanation for this is quite easy. And knowing the exact reason why you miss someone who has hurt you can and will help you to heal better. With that being said, let’s jump right into it.The most fundamental reason why we miss someone or something is that once it made us feel good. Our brain functions in a very different way than we might assume. It’s job is to keep you safe and happy at this particular moment. That is all it does.Now you may think how is it helping me by reminding me of the very person who screwed me over! Isn’t it the very thing that is causing me pain!And to answer that I will have to tell you that Your brain does not know the freaking difference.If you were in a relationship for a long time, (or even if it was short and you were very much attached to that person) then the chances are whenever you were alone, sad, felt hurt, were happy you shared it with that person and they listened to you or supported you that made you feel good. Our brain releases a hormone call Dopamine that makes us feel good. And it is Highly addictive (It is the same hormone that is released when we smoke, drink and do drugs).Now when they have left you, have hurt you, chances are you are feeling lonely, afraid, empty, sad. And guess what you brain is trying to do to make you feel good. Reminding you of the person who was the reason for that sweet sweet dopamine at times like these,hoping it will make you feel good (Interestingly, this can be a reason why people tend to do drugs and consume alcohol after a heartache, it gives your brain the dose of dopamine it is craving for). But as our brain also knows the very fact that they are not in our life anymore, it causes conflicts between what you know, and what your past behavioral patterns are. This causes the feeling of helplessness. As we know we want something, and can’t get it anymore.To change this just change your behavioral patterns. Talk to someone you like when you feel lonely (Like your crush, a friend, your family), Do things you are passionate about, travel, talk. Do anything and everything (Except drugs, if you don’t want to ruin your life) to give your brain the necessary dose of dopamine so it doesn’t crave it from that particular person. And with time, your brain will form new habits, connect your happiness to new things and people, and one day you will wake up and realize that you have moved on.
I miss my best friend...help?
So, my best friend and I used to be real close. Like really close. She and I were so inseparable that everybody at school started thinking we were lesbians haha cx bit over the course of a couple of months, she completely changed. She started hanging out more with this other girl in our friends group and we kinda drifted apart. She was like my first real best friend and it hurt. We still hung out at school. All of us. Bit I was always left out. They'd talk about what they dis over the weekend and I'd just sort of be there because I wasn't invited. I started not to really talk to them, sit with them at lunch and stuff but not talk. It came to the point where I started talking to other people I didn't really like just to get my best friends attention or get her jealous. She seemed liked she didn't really care and really hurt more. Every now and then I cry about this. I know I should just get over this, find new friends but it sucks and hurts. I really mis my nest friend, we still talk now but it's not the same. We both know it. She is so important to me and I don't know how to let go. And she's just using me and being so mean and it really hurts my feelings. Any advice. I've been like this for like 4months.