My boyfriend has made the same mistake twice. How can we move on?
Two times, my boyfriend has without realizing it led me to believe that he intends to propose to me and get married eventually. Both times, he has ended up having a big meltdown saying I'm pressuring him and he doesn't know if I'm the one. He constantly lets little things pile up without telling me until they get to be huge. He says that things have gotten messed up because of his job. He's in a job he hates & has no social life. He is a very social person so I know this is hard for him. He says he's willing to work to make things better, but everything he is saying is the same as what he has said before, so it's hard to trust him. I do love him, and I do want to make this work, but I really don't know how to do it. I feel like I'm walking on egg shells trying not to do something wrong & if I do something wrong I don't believe he will tell me. I feel like we are hanging by a thread. I want to help the relationship, but I don't know what to do.
My married 40 year old son moved an hour and a half away. How often should he reasonably contact me?
In my opinion, it depends on the kind of relationship you have with your son and his family. I'm unmarried, but when I was in my thirties, I lived about three hours away from my family. I usually called my parents once a week, more if I felt like it; but it was a lot more expensive in the days before cell phones. My grandma also called me every week, "just because." She kept in close touch with several of us grandkids who lived out of town and around the country. I loved her calls, and for months after she passed, every time something funny or exciting happened, I'd grab the phone to call her … before I remembered she was no longer here. But I digress …If you have a warm and cordial relationship with your son and his wife, they will probably call you once a week, after they get settled. If you're also close to his kids, you may hear from them in between times, as well. A lot will depend on their ages, the various activities they are pursuing, how much time your son spends commuting to and from work, etc. Whether your husband is still with you — or you're divorced or widowed — might be a factor, as would having other grown kids living near you.On the other hand … if your relationship with your son and/or his wife is strained in any way, or you've just never been especially close, you will probably hear from him less often — once or twice a month. If you try to make calling you seem like an obligation, expect his calls to seem obligatory rather than warm and enjoyable. JMHO.When I moved back to town, I talked to my parents more often, and I usually had dinner with them 1–2 times a week. After Dad passed — and once I got a cell phone with Bluetooth — I used to talk to Mom for 10–15 minutes on my way to or from work, most days. It was a good way to keep in touch with her, and the time was uninterrupted by other people pulling at me. In fact this might be a good way to keep in touch with your son, as he really can't do much else when he is driving. I hope you're able to work out a satisfactory solution.
Should I let my 11-year-old mail letters to her old friends? We moved to a different state, and she’ll have to assimilate at some point. I also promised that I’ll let her use social media to contact them in 2-3 years.
Of course you should. Letter writing is a valuable skill. She will be better at email and better prepared for essay writing. She will have to practice her long term contextual memory to follow the threads of conversation over the course of the correspondence. She will practice her handwriting, and put effort into the gift that a latter an be. She will learn the value of completing a project promptly, how to budget for stamps, and how to manipulate paper for effect and efficiency.Furthermore, why would you teach your daughter to throw people away? If she moves to college do you want her to never talk to you again? It is worth attempting to maintain these relationships. Even if she does her best to fit in at her new school, it might not take. An old pen pal may help her feel a sense of continuity and self hood during an alienating and crushing period of adjustment. Don't isolate your kid on purpose.
I'm moving twice and I need to take my 15 year old cat. What's the best way?
Get a large carrier or small crate. You may need to collapse it to get it inside your car but once its inside you can open and set it up for her.Get her a litter pan for inside of it, hence why it has to be big. Also, have a bowl with water, preferrably a high rim bowl and a small bowl for some food.Give her cat nip and treats (or even cat nip treats), have some small cans of wet food to give her, and if necessary get a small bottle of feli-way.I literally moved a few years back this way from NC to TX with 3 cats at the time aged 15, 13, and 3. I also put pee pads for dogs to line the bottom of the crate and a few old towels I didn't care could get ruined for the padding and to control accidents or the spillage of the water bowl.The first few hours were the worst but I comforted them as best as I could never yelling or screaming or mocking them, always reaching my fingertips back to pet their noses and stroke their tail.They were very amicable and quite excited for the journey when they had all the comforts of home inside the cage with them.Best of luck!
Can a child be christened twice?
I have some friends with an 8 year old daughter. They have just moved to a different town and want a brand new start. Their little girl was christened/ baptised as a baby but I think the family and the godparents have fallen out and haven't seen each other for years. The want her to be baptised again with a new set of godparents in their new town to give them a fresh start with everything. Is this possible to do or is it down to the discretion of the vicar or the church?
Should I move my four children to Australia for one year?
I don't really understand the question, does this mean that the whole family is moving to Australia and just the children are going to UK? Or the other way around?Either way I wouldn't really recommend it. Moving to a new country and culture on its own is already pretty stressful. Moving twice in two years sounds even more challenging. Not to mention Australia and the UK are quite different. I think the whole process would be more harrowing to your family than enlightening.For me, “experienc[ing] the Aus lifestyle properly” sounds like an insufficient reason to move to a new country, even temporarily. I came here from Asia when I was very young, and it took me at least a year to comfortably settle in. (For your children, who are older than I was, it'll probably take longer) But my home life was true to my parent's culture. Unless you're living with host families, I don't think you'll be able to properly absorb Aussie lifestyle into your established family within 12 months. You'll just be an Asian family living in Australia. The year passes, and you're off the the UK; another completely foreign place.Later on in life they have all the time they want to come to Australia (as an exchange student perhaps). But I don't think coming here for just one year would be a very good experience.
Should I work toward getting my 37 year old son to grow up and move out?
Yes, but this should have been done years before. Clearly, you want him out and know he’s living the life of a child.He likely has friends he could stay with, within the short term; let him know he needs to leave that very week, or he never will. As this is a child in a 37-year-old body, have a male relative in good health present when you give this order……………..and it has to be an order, not a suggestion. Hide your money and valuables before kicking him out.If he’s working, there is hope he’ll do fine. If he’s been unemployed all this time, it won’t end well but he had his chance in life and didn’t care, so take care of yourself..
To stay or move back to hometown after divorce?
When all is over and you have nothing left - the house will be put on sale, husband out of your life, no career, no kids, hardly any friends - what is the best option? Should I continue my life in this place I have lived for the last 10 years? Or should I go back to my hometown abroad (in europe) to be with my family? I am depressed and I can't seem to decide. Please give me some good kind advice.
MY BABY'S FATHER GOT ANOTHER GIRL PREGNANT ((TWICE))?
get over him. have minimal contact. still let him see your son, but you don't need this guy in your life. there are alot of better men out there. :) kick him out. good luck. guys like him never change.