I only have 3 friends right now?
I'm at 16 year old girl (going into my 11th grade year) and it almost seems as if I have been stressed out for a year now because I lost my group of friends. I had a group of friends my whole life, about 8 of us until 10th grade. In 10th grade we all kind of just separated. We were all way too different. I tried to tolerate them but by 10th grade I couldn't take it anymore. There's only 1 girl from that group that I'm best friends with. The thing is, I really only have 3 friends right now and it's a huge struggle for me to find plans all the time. I cry all the time because it's embarrassing knowing I only have 3. I feel like I don't even talk to anyone anymore and I just feel so depressed now matter what I do. There's a guy that I'm talking to at the moment and it's nice to have someone right now but I'm afraid to get too happy over it. My mom yells at me for sitting in a lot and says "you have no friends" and makes me feel horrible. There is no going back to this group no matter what, they are completely different than me and haven't matured at all. I need advice, am I over reacting? Is ok to only have a few friends? How can I feel happier and make this stress go away.
We're just friends, right?
*Story is changed around to be 100% Anonymous* I met this girl at a Hospital, we were both kept in for suicide watch which was for 2 weeks. There was me her(Jen) and another girl. Jen is really gorgeous, Id compare her to Tom Cruise's wife.. but at 20 years old. We didn't talk a lot at first because she had break downs with her bf, who came in to visit every now and then, but every other day we'd know a little more about each other, talking a little and sometimes laughing. The girls had fun watching me play Devil May Cry 4. So I was the entertainer.. At the last week we were really close. We didnt want to leave but our time was done. Then I havent seen any of the girls for 6 months. I met Jen again at a gym. Still absolutly stunning. We traded emails and decided to hangout one day... Over our email conversations I learned she hasnt been doing well because she broke up with her bf because he wasnt making her happy. I talked with her about it for a while and She told me I made her feel better. The next next day she wanted me to hang out with her... I arrived at her apartment, it was just me and her. we talked and talked giggled over youtube vids.. talk about storys about getting drunk.. graduation.. It was fun. Jen got a call from her friend and she exclaimed EEWWWW. I asked.."hehe what is it?" .. "Oh, my friend asked if we were makin out".. "Ohh.. heh...yeeeaa." So that was a little downer moment there, but then again I didnt tell myself I'm going to date her and stuff already. Later on in the day we went out and got some horror movies..When we got back It was like..11:30 and we started watching the first movie... After maybe 5 mins into watching, she leans her head against my shoulder. "Oh, one sec." I put my arm around her, so her head is on my chest. Now theres a troll in my head playing Stone Mecca - The Walk, so now I dont even notice the movie. I get a real nice fuzzy feeling in my stomach. on the second movie shes now lying on top of me and we're holding hands.. That night when the movie is done she goes to her room to sleep and i sleep on the couch. The next morning we're just lying on her bed spooning, holding hands, etc. Then when It was time for me to go she hugged me tight, and I whispered her to take care.. and I left. ..So I don't know, would she think of me as more than a friend?
What can I do to get a German for a friend right now?
1. Learn about the culture. 2. Visit often We are what we do and find about cool events that are trully interesting for you. Then find Fachleute there. True nerds like you with whom you share common interests. Nerds like us, of course with the slight difference they were nerds of German descent, built the good old Germany. We have quite a tough competition in their face, so We have to work damn hard. 3. Go on all kinds of social events. Playing board games is amazing way to make a lot of connections. I tried that, it helps.4. Perfect your language online. 5. Keep yourself well-informed. Use variety of sources, not only this. 6. Find a German to live with, sharing a flat.7. Assume you are in the best country in the world and you have to do your best to adapt to the culture but do not in any case show that you think or feel this. No matter if you hold it for true or not. This is a key factor for integration. :)8. Be a perfectionist in every aspect of your life in Germany! It helps, trust me. 9. When in Germany, do as the Germans do. 10. Start drinking some beer and eating all kinds of wurst. Pork is a nice meat, I assure you, it keeps you warm during winter. It helps me enormously.tldr, respect the good old Germany and work on integration, integration, and again it’s all about integration!
I don't want to have any friends right now?!?
well I am 18 years old, I just got my license and I am just now starting a job as a CNA. I work full time.. I plan on moving out of my moms house in 2-3 months. During this time, I want to live alone, work a lot, save money and also better myself..physically and mentally. I just came out of a 3 year abusive relationship and I lost all my friends and I just feel so numb.. and I don't know who I am, or what I want. Now I say make friends next year, because next fall I will be starting classes to become a registered nurse. What do you guys think, would I go crazy? I don't think I would.. I'm not one of those types who "needs" someone around 24/7. Thanks for answering :-)
Right now, i just need a friend,someone to talk to?
in my life, i've done alot of "stupid ****" I've had sex with many women. I am a 28 year old heterosexual male that was once addicted to sex. I wouldn't bother to get tested. I had 5 encounters where a condom wasnt used. Finally, this year, i got tested for HIV and other stds, all negative! I should be very greatfull and joyess, but im not.. i either am not convinced that im negative or sometimes i feel i deserve to have the virus due to my mistakes..im in tears now out of confusion..i wish i can talk to someone about this...i have yahoo im and aol im, if ur online and willin to talk.. i would apprciate it...I just feel so gulty and still convinced i deserve to have hiv
I want a hug right now but I don't have any friends. What should I do?
I have a set of tools for this:1- Hug your biggest pillow as strong as you can, and feel it in your arms.2- Hug a pet if you have one, sometimes it’s even better than humans.3- Ask a stranger.4- Ask someone from your school or job, even if you’re not friends.5- Hug a tree (never done it but people say it works)6- Meditate, it can heal and ease your soul (even if you don’t believe in souls)7- (Extreme, requires self-decieving to introduce and to get rid of it, you need strength) Get angry, that’s right, get defensive and angry, sometimes it takes away the need for a hug and love from someone, it’s like a tool, but be careful, something grows inside of you when you do this, i call it “darkness”. At some point you gotta let it go. You really have to learn how to manipulate it and work with it, it wasn’t my last resort but….use it as a last resort.8- (Extreme and total trust) Talk to God, i’m not a religious person at all, but you know, sometimes it totally makes you feel better, you don’t need a church.
I need to be surrounded by the right friends because I am all alone with a dependant and everyone I currently have contact with are taking advantage of us. What can I do?
You get rid of the users fast! I had this problem when my son went through an insecure phase and it broke my heart watching other kids just take from him and blatantly use him. He finally ditched them on his own after it got so in-his-face but it took a while. I’ll tell you what I told him: You are lucky in life to have 1 or 2 real friends. If a person doesn’t want to see you just to be in your company, he’s looking to take- and you can’t enable that behavior. You have a lot to offer the world and real friends so when a user calls or comes by, tell him you have nothing to lend or give him and see if he comes in anyway. Many kept moving to their next victim. He has 3–4 real friends now, a few years later.So- tell the users you have a sudden hardship and you need help and when they run you have gotten rid of them. If they offer help and money than they are friends. I’m guessing not 1 will come in to “help”. DO IT OR YOU’LL REGRET IT!Make up a sudden hardship now!
What does, i just want to be friends right now mean?
i'v been talking to this girl for a week or so and she just said well right now she is just looking for friendship, what does that mean should i just back off, leave her alone, or should i still persue but take it much slower, i feel as though i just dont want to do anything to lose her she means alot already and i know that she has alot going on with her life right now and so do i but does this means she is anot interested? should i just back away, but if she wasnt interested why would she talk to me in the first place, or even keep talking to me
Is it ok if I just do not want to have friends right now?
Please do allow me to explain this with an example.Since childhood, X never made friends. Not because X didn’t know how to. He was just disinterested. In adulthood, he was the same. Whenever X did make friends, he never stayed in touch with them. He preferred to do things by himself or confined himself to his house. He rarely partied, rarely hung out and was buried in books. X thought that friends were unimportant and can be overlooked on the path to success.X is 21 now. He is a successful Editor and Content Writer with a website and has done a triple major in a prestigious college. But, he is battling mild depression and general social withdrawal. X had his heart broken 6 times in 5 years because he didn’t know how to handle the pressures of social relationships.X understood the importance of friendships and relationships too late and currently, is struggling to forge them with anyone.Do you want to be like X? I hope not. Every social relationship - friend, boyfriend/girlfriend, parents, siblings - is important.Start forging relationships before its too late!