My girlfriend just broke up with me :( I need advice?
never get back with someone who left you. its just a recipe for disaster reading this reminded me of when my boyfriend of 1 yr 8 months broke up with me. we were so happy and so in love when he just left me. sometimes things just don;t work out i cried and cried and begged and locked myself away for a long time 6 months later i still miss him like hell and love him but at least i now know what you will figure out eventually we can love so many times in a lifetime don;t let her ruin your life, just accept her as a beautiful part of your past she's obviously not mrs right so just keep your chin up and never give up on love i can guarantee you 100% this will happen to you many many times you have to learn to deal and not be bitter put the real important stuff that reminds you of her in a box. throw everything else out and keep a few momento's for when your older and you look back and SMILE and remember how you had fun with her, how bad it hurt, and how well you recovered and learned from the experience
How can I help fix my broken girlfriend?
I have been dating this girl for about 6 months now, and we've had an amazing relationship and I want nothing more than to be with her. However, the problem is that she has had a very messed up past. It started with her dad cheating on her mom about 5 times (this is where she has her trust issues). She has had 2 ex boyfriends, one which she dated for 2 years and the other for about 1. Basically she was abused, lied to, cheated on, and mentally destroyed by both of them. Long story short, she started to cut herself and so on. After her horrible break up with the last ex, she tried to commit suicide twice. Now she has been left scarred, broken, and messed up. She cannot trust men because of what they have done to her. Basically my problem is this. As perfect and fulfilling as our relationship has been, we have been through things that most people would never experience in their life. I do not have a mean bone in my body, and I have never really said or done anything major to hurt her intentionally. But because of her past, she blows up on me, and says things to me that border on verbal abuse and on the verge of breaking up. I know she doesn't mean it because she apologizes in tears for it afterwards, so i just try to pack my pain away and not think about it. Its even worse because she knows she is starting to really hurt me, and this makes her hate herself even more and become depressed. I have been nothing but loving, caring, and try to spend most of my time with her when i have off from work and school. I know she loves me dearly, but I am worried because the last time she hurt me a week ago, I blew up on her. I think its because there was no room left to put anymore pain, so it just came out on her. She wants to get better, and she has improved greatly but i think it will fully never go away. I want to be the person to fix her, to make her trust me and love me without fear, but I dont know if i will be able to alone. The problem is she has already seen a counselor in the past, and she said it did more harm than good, so i don't think she will go back. Please help, I need advice. I love this girl more than anything in the whole world, and I want to help her get her life back together. I do not want her to hate herself or be deeply depressed anymore. -Thanks
I need some advice. Did I do wrong in breaking up with my girlfriend?
My girlfriend is preparing for NEET, for the second time. First time, she wasn't satisfied obviously. And, when she was writing her NEET exams for the first time, we weren't even talking to each other. It was during the holidays after all the exams, that we started to talk on WhatsApp. Her results weren't out yet. We both liked talking to each other, and did a lot of that.Her results were out, she ranked88,354/88,355 in NEET (What the fuck Snoopy? You don't even remember your rank, lol)Again, exact number, she does not fucking remember it XD XD 10.4k something in Karnataka CET. She says, who keeps such big numbers in memory, has a point.Fucked up numbers, that's the point.She clearly did not stand a chance to get the medical seat, which she wanted.We were speaking, and she liked it how I did not make it a drama whenever we spoke about her rank, others did, and I think that's why she liked me more from then.Now comes the bomb, her mom threw at her (Thanks Amma! You helped it, somehow, really)She's going to Bangalore (we stay in Hubli, *one-night journey in bus* away from Bangalore) to prepare once again for NEET exams, in hopes of finding a better coaching centre. She finds one - Allen Coaching Institute.We were sad about her going to Bangalore, which meant no more talking on WhatsApp, as she was not going to be using her smartphone until her exams get over (when in Bangalore)When I first felt there's something better than just liking to talk each other was when she decided not stop texting me, and only me. This continues, and later things got obvious, and now we are together since then. What's my point? It's not about time/phase of your life, based upon which you decide whether or not to be with your partner, both need each other always, especially at such times she needs you, so do you.No one is doing a favour here in your case, you're not helping her by breaking up. You are not a disturbance to her. To be honest, you could've been the sole reason she scores very well. Show her love, it'll help her to the greatest extent possible. Pour the strength into her, she can't be thinking about whether or not this break-up was right? I repeat, you need not be a disturbance, you are NOT.I am no love-guru, just a boyfriend to my girlfriend, who thinks what you did was wrong, correct it, and prepare together for this fight, don't let her do this alone.All the best! This is not a big deal for anyone :-)
I broke up with my girlfriend in anger...need advice!?
Hey Paul Kilpinen, I understand your suitation, however would like to share some my thoughts and experience I went through. See, most of the girls like to have their own space, why girls even we males do like to have our own spaces but few women do give us more space. Girl's world is really small to her BF's love and family n relationship things like that. Secondly, Gals are very sencitive however they may say they are not but they do be sencitive, when they hear that some one dumped them and break up they really can't take that bcoz it really hurts therm personally to the core. This also goes with men too when they are dumped by their gals; since we are men we certainly do think that we get another and/or may get another and we try forget the past. Once a woman is in real LOVE with her man do what ever the differences or fights or exchange-of-words that may come in between she wont leave him and go and look for another, of course she may not talk to you properly or may not even talk. this is all bcoz of the hurt that may have in her heart that may have made by her BF. Since you say that she said she don't know wether to give you another shot - for me this clearly shows that she do love you still otherwise she would have told you "NO". Bcoz once a gal says "NO" Mr. & Miss. No body or even God can't make change her mind to come back. I did experienced this 3 times trust me. Also some women like control their BFs its all bcoz to make sure them self that you never dump her and go once after you both start a family n things like that but its not anything else they wanna control you and trust me this is all bcoz of the love they have on you. If you really still want her return back to you and if you really still love here don't worry just give her some time, let she clam down first then try see her personally and try to talk softly and re-asure her that you said those things in anger and not meant from your heart. Don't talk anything hard. Also next time when you meet her just get some flowers and may be a sorry card too with a touching thoughts in it to forgive your mistakes. And if she takes those flowers thing she have forgiven you some but dont take advantage of it again. At that time just take her out for her favorite dinner or lunch and talk romantically that makes her feel happy. Sorry for a long answer, just keep your fingers crossed. Good Luck.
My girlfriend who broke up with me now wants my help for an interview preparation. What should I do?
There are things that you need to consider:Scene A: You don't help herEnd result: You might feel happy, but given the feelings you've had for her, I know you'll feel sad later on. But, it would be over sooner than you'd expect.Scene B: You decide to help herWe again have 2 situations here:1) Suppose she fails to crack the interview:She'll blame you for not being a gentleman and helping her "like before". (her failure might be more troublesome for you than her)If she doesn't blame you, her silence would hurt you more than in previous case.2) Suppose she nails the interview:She'll run off to her "new friend", leaving you fending off for yourself. She'll talk to you and thank you. This might tempt you and bring back the memories of that golden past of yours. But, you might not be able to open up to her again,because, obvious reasons...You have all the situations up here, decide on what you want to do. You have to choose between "avoiding the pain" or "being a gentleman". Choose wisely.
Girlfriend broke up with me for her ex?
Sorry to hear that; I know exactly how you feel; that **** always sucks. Now, to get down to the nitty gritty. This is not going to make a whole lot of sense, and will seem totally counterintuitive, but then again, female psychology has always been an enigma, especially in the light of relationships. The reason why she broke-up with you is because of precisely what you THOUGHT you did right: treating her right, and telling her you love her so much, you can't put it into words. Some guys would call this one of the many cardinal sins of seduction. Now, why on earth would that cause her to leave, you ask? It's cat-string theory, for the most part. As long as you keep that mouse at the end of the string moving, the cat will remain interested and chase it. But as soon as you let it catch and KEEP the mouse, it loses interest and leaves, like it never existed. You did the equivalent of letting the cat catch and keep the mouse, which, in turn, made you look (with all due respect) boring, predictable, and unchallenging in her eyes. So, she did what uninterested, and unchallenged chicks do; she dumped you. The fact that she went back to her ****** X means that she simply didn't have any better options, and she, like many other women, was attracted to the challenge that his apparently jerky, pricky behavior posed. The contrast between his rude behavior, and his half-*** interest in her, created an air of mystery and intrigue she could not resist. Now, don't get me wrong; this doesn't mean, by any stretch of the imagination that you have to go around being a jerk to attract women that you desire. It just means you have to stop laying all your cards out on the table, and leave something for her imagination to feed on. Don't make it so easy for her to figure you out. Be an interesting challenge. But most importantly, don’t take it personally; forget about her, and move on.
My girlfriend broke up with me and I still love her. What should I do?
I don't think you can ever "start over" as if nothing ever happened. A lot of my friends have tried that, and it never works. Someone always ends up getting hurt.Take your time to get over her. Don't see her if you don't want to and cannot bear the thought of it. At the same time, acknowledge your feelings. If you try to hide it and bottle it up, they will manifest much later in ways worse than you can imagine. If you need to cry, cry. If you need to vent, vent. If you need to throw something, do that (but don't hurt anyone or yourself). Feel all the feelings. Grief is to be expected when something is ending.Learn to love and value yourself. Rediscover time with friends (whom I'm sure have been put to the wayside for the sake of the relationship). Rekindle a hobby. Just try to find happiness in other ways.Should the need ever arise to go see her or talk to her, don't. Stop yourself before it happens. Write a letter or draft an email but do not send it. Then, discard, burn, bury, destroy. Write out your feelings until you no longer feel them, then let them go.Good luck.
How can I help my brother after he and his girlfriend broke up?
Severely depends on the person - but there are a few things to take into consideration when looking for ways to help him out.Some people just need space after being in a bad break-up. They often want to just be in a miserable mood - it shows them how much the other person meant to them. In the long run, it even shows them that if they were that devastated, they need to find a better relationship next time so they can get the same enjoyment without the disappointment.Some people will pretend they don’t want to talk about it, but in reality, that’s all they want to do. Sometimes it’s a good idea to pry JUST over the top to see if they’ll crack open. Always be gentle while asking though - don’t force it out of them. Talk through it with them, listening more then talking - they want to vent to you, not know your opinion!Some people might just want to forget about it all together. To do this, just don’t bring it up. Instead try to get their mind off of the whole situation by involving them in other things as much as possible, as to not even give them time to think about the break-up. Busy people are those who can’t be down! :) Now be careful, as if they DO want to talk about it, don’t just throw them off their course as they may be opening up to you! Try to bounce any depressed thoughts off yourself though. For example if they tell you stuff like “Ah, it’s all my fault, I’m such a bad person” - don’t give that conversation a second thought. You responding to it is only giving them attention and will keep them on their depressed train of thought.If you want some bonus points - make sure you keep reassuring them that they can do much better. Tell them it’s not their fault, instead, it was just not meant to be. Tell them anything that will take the blame off of themselves so they can start getting it in their head that break-ups happen quite often, and shouldn’t be look at as their fault.I am sorry to here your brother is having a hard time. If it’s any consolation, I hope he gets better quickly and starts hunting for his next mate. :)
What advice should I give to a girl who just broke up with her boyfriend?
Did you give any kind of advice before breaking up with her boyfriend? Had she asked any advice from you before her break up? Is she asking it now? Did she follow your advice or advices in these situations?If the answers to the above questions are in yes, then you need to advise her.If not, then it means that she does not value your opinion. Kindly refrain from saying anything. It doesn't matter to her.Now in the first case, if she really needs and respects your advice, then it is important that you are there for her. Your presence would be more essential than your advice.Advise her to continue with her hobbies and passion. Remember it takes time to get over a break up. So you need to be immensely patient with her. Ensure that she does not feel alone. Try not to think of the past or future. Make her realize that relationships are only a part of life. And a break up does not necessarily mean the end.The advice is never ending. But do not forget the most essential of all - your presence. Make her your priority, as a friend.Hope this helps.
My girlfriend says she would kill herself if I broke up with her, what should I do?
I'm sorry that you're caught in the situation, but I think it's great that you're reaching out for help and advice. I read an article recently that talked about how certain people are so defined by their relationships that they will do anything to stay in them. Do you think your girlfriend falls into this category? I don't know how long you have been dating, but sometimes when we get used to living life a certain way, it seems impossible to live differently. Sometimes people become so desperate to keep things the way they are that they will take things to the extreme, like threatening to commit suicide, to keep you in the relationship.In your girlfriend’s situation, she probably can get along fine just by herself, but she has forgotten how to. And that is probably where you come in. I realize that you want to end the relationship and it certainly is perfectly all right for you to do that, but you may have to help your girlfriend some before you end the relationship. If your girlfriend has threatened to commit suicide if y'all break up, then you need to take that seriously. The risk of being wrong is too great.I don't know what your girlfriend it's like, but I feel like what she really needs is a friend. She needs to be shown that even if y'all break up, everything will be okay. I would talk with her, learn she is afraid of, help her build her other relationships, and encourage her to try new things and make new friends. Still, if you feel like your girlfriend has some underlying issues that need to be resolved, then I would suggest contacting a counselor to help her. If you would like you or your girlfriend can speak with a licensed counselor for free by calling 855-382-5433.I hope this helps. Even though you might feel cornered by your girlfriend’s threat of suicide, both you and she can get past this.