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Please need advice on a serious family issue?

There is this girl I thought of as family have known her all of my life.
Even accepted her husband and kids as family.
she has this obsession with my mother has for a very long time and wants to see whoever gets close to my mom booted out including me.
I learned recently she asked my mom to move in with her and she was going to try to boot me as well.i spoke with this girl the other day and she basically only calls me to make trouble between my mom and me.this is not the first time she has tried to come between my own blood and me.i feel this girl has alot to do with why my mom and i argue so much.i want this girl out of my life for good but my mom is refusing to listen and still talks to her and told me that this is the past i should let it go when this was all recent this girl is always up to no good especially with me because she has been jealous since day one of me she wants what i have and has gone out of her way to destroy it including with my own blood.what can i say or do to make my own mother see what this girl is all about? i want this girl out of my life for good once and for all.

Serious issues going on in my family, I need your advice please, this is long?

Problem children are never fun.
First of all, I would go to his school and talk to his teachers, then enroll him with a psychologist. Then, turn his mother in. If he still acts up, give him these options:
1) You're the man of the house right? Go Out and get a job, then you can pay for the gifts since it apparently is so easy. Oh, and while you're at it how about you pay me the rent, food, heating, and all other appliances. And if you can't, then you can leave, unless you feel like listening and help me.
2) See if there is a Green Chimneys around, or any other place like it (if you don't know what that is, look it up on google), and see what they can do for your mother.
3) Now, I wouldn't completely suggest this but....give him back to your older sister; let him live life with her for a while and "see how much better it is".
4) Talk to your sister, tell her that you will turn her in if she doesn't knock (not literally) some sense into her son, and if she doesn't keep turning the children against your mother. You can also remind her of just how good your mother has been to her over the years; you may have to turn her in, in order to get her to notice all of this through rehabilitation.
5) Bring your nephew to some army man to have him get screamed out, and watch how he puts his tail between his legs.
6) Give him something productive to do; a lot of times when children act out it's because they have pent up energy that frustrates them because they have no other way of dealing with it. Or enroll him in some sports where he can get his aggression out. If you take him to do a martial art, tell your mother to do it with him, this can be both good for bonding, and it will teach her how to defend against him if he becomes to out of hand.

****What ever you do though, do not just ship him away and never see him again; that is by far one of the worst things in the world you can do to a child like that. It just makes the resentful and angry, and you don't want them to have those feelings when they are old enough to be on their own.




~~~~~~~~One More thing, if this persists after you've tried all, PLEASE contact me!!! I am absolutely MORE THAN WILLING to help you, your mom, hell your whole family through this. Like I've said, I've been through this, and I only wish I had someone to talk to during all of it. So I'm letting you know that I'm here to help, whatever it is.~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Please need advice on a serious family issue?

There is this girl I thought of as family have known her all of my life.
Even accepted her husband and kids as family.
she has this obsession with my mother has for a very long time and wants to see whoever gets close to my mom booted out including me.
I learned recently she asked my mom to move in with her and she was going to try to boot me as well.i spoke with this girl the other day and she basically only calls me to make trouble between my mom and me.this is not the first time she has tried to come between my own blood and me.i feel this girl has alot to do with why my mom and i argue so much.i want this girl out of my life for good but my mom is refusing to listen and still talks to her and told me that this is the past i should let it go when this was all recent this girl is always up to no good especially with me because she has been jealous since day one of me she wants what i have and has gone out of her way to destroy it including with my own blood.what can i say or do to make my own mother see what this girl is all about? i want this girl out of my life for good once and for all

Serious family issue - need advice please!?

Well it's very admirable that you have so much care, & concern for your family. But the truth is, there is little you can do about this, mainly because you are in no position to offer any meaningfull help in the 1st place, short of reporting your stepdad for incest, and rape, & you have no positive proof of that anyway. It's not your job to protect your mom from the man she chose to marry, & besides, she probably has a pretty good idea of what's going on anyway, & it's also not your job to go around making acusations to your mom about her husband either. Plus, I doubt very much that she is going to appreciate her daughter pointing out to her what a great big mistake she has made in her most recent choice for a husband. As for your step sister, well she is still just a child, & needs someone to step up & be a hero for her. You can report your concerns to the authorities in the jurisdiction where your family resides anonymously, & allow them to investigate the situation. In some jurisdictions a 16yo may be considered to be past the age of consent for sex, but was she 16 when she became pregnant? OK, technically there is no incest since she's adopted, but her stepdad has no business impregnating his wifes adopted daughter, and the possibility of sexual abuse needs to be investigated. Other than that, try to worry less about things that you have absolutely no control over, and more about the things that you do, like finishing college, & building your own life.

Serious family Issue : I don't know what to do about this !!! Do you have any advice ?

How old are your children? I have a 12 year old and 10 year old twins. Each one with complete different personalities and there is always one that you have to give extra special attention to. It would help knowing the age. Sounds like he's a little guy.

It's gonna be ok mom and dad! You had two children sounds like were a piece of cake. And you can't expect them all to be the same. They just aren't. You do need to stop putting him in the spot light and start taking some new approaches to your discipline.

I don't know a two year old that will sit quiet in his room when he's supposed to be "in trouble." Unless he's petrafied to move. If he hits, you need to find a consistant place for him to go. If you must sit there with him for a few minutes in a corner while holding his hands then do so without an argument from you. Let him know each time that hitting is not acceptable. Make him apologize for it. Keep doing it as often as need be and the more consistant you are the faster he will learn. I promise it will work and you will feel so much better. But find one spot in your home that he will go to and you may have to sit there with him unti he learns.

I need help with serious family issues?

Hello.

I am currently having serious family issues that I would like advice on. My wife and I have been married for almost a year now. I am 27 and she is 21. She grew up in a very enclosed environment at home with her parents, she was basically home schooled most of her life and has not had major social interaction with others. I have always been more of a social person, I have friends that I have known for over 10 years and are still friends to this date. We are still struggling to find that middle ground in our relationship, because it is always an arguement when I want to go and spend a few hours with my friends, a few hours meaning like 3 or 4 hours on a weekend, maybe to watch a football game or whatever. As far as I know I am a responsble father and husband and take care of things like have our finances intact. and all bills paid. I spend most of my free time with her and the baby because I avoid going out for a breather just not to have an argument. My mother recently is over to visit for a few weeks and my wife started an argument over petty stuff such as my mother and brothers holding the baby, claiming that they will make him sick (she is usually extremely worried about germs). I don't know what to do because my mother wants to spend time with her grandchild and I don't think my wife will even entertain that thought right now. I finally had enough and told her that if she is gonna act that way, she might as well move back to her parents house eight hours away and never tell my son about me because I was just fed up with all the obsessivness. I know its a terrible thing to say but I love my child so much and want to be around him, but as long as my family wants to get involved with seeing him and loving him it will always be stress for me convincing my wife to let them do that. Is almost like being asked to disown my my mother and siblings and just live in a world that is revolves aeround my family. What can I do to make things better because I know deep down she is really a nice loving person, its just that she has no social experience whatsoever be it family or friends. I want her to live a fulfilling life but she doe not understand that and prefers us to live like hermits. I don't want my son to turn out like that . What can I do to make things better?

Serious family issue. I need advice should i tell my cousin that her dad isnt her dad(ITS LONG)?

I read your whole story as well as what others before me wrote here.
If I were you, I will mix with her closely as you did before and find a good occasion where like a game or a fun begin to tell short stories to each other. And also criticize the events and roles in those stories immediately.
When your second chance to tell a short story comes narrate her story with added imaginations and extensions, not getting caught, and try to point out, during criticism, on the mistake of hiding the truth about the REAL FATHER and say strongly that you don't know hiding the real father in that story was wrong or right, so as to invite her opinion. Then slowly she will contribute as right or wrong. and that time ensure doubly that her decision was firm. SAY SHE agrees that hiding the real father's name was right then you argue as WRONG, and also vice verse. And see how strongly she fights to prove hers is right. Now that you are assured of her opinion. After a few seconds you argue with her telling hey! just for the story you support as right but what if that really happens to me or you? Would you or I swallow that hiding part to forgive? Her real opinion would now come out. STOP there and wait for another day boldly with the opinion to tell that in front of a therapist as some one here suggested. Hope I resolved a bit!
Good luck!!

Serious family issues and I need a lot of help with it. please!?

Tell your sister to get a prepaid phone and she can put $30 on it every month for 1000 minutes and 1000 texts. She won't need anything else. They're at walmart.

I would normally tell people to stick it out and keep helping but I think it's time to stop financially helping. I know you feel pressured to, but as long as you keep doing it they're just going to keep slacking and taking advantage. Even if they have to both work at McDonalds, they should be the primary breadwinners for their children.

I'm sorry for all of your trouble. Your mom probably isn't going to stop feeding this because she does want those babies around, but you know you can control your actions and maybe you can set an example for your mom to follow.
Your sister needs to learn responsibility.

OMG Serious Family Problem.. I really need help please!?

Im on my phone atm, I have no idea on what to do.. Im shocked..please stick to me on the following problem. Okay so yesterday my mom's girlfriend arrived to our house for a week vacation.. shes a very nice person and she brought her 13 year old daughter with her..okay so today we were cooking up a BBQ in our porch and our house was basically for bathroom use since everybody was outside eating and playing.. so I was on low cell phone battery and quickly ran to my brothers room since we both share rooms.. and the door was locked I said inside me uhm weird maybe my little cousins locked the doors room by accident so I quickly grabbed the keys to open the door , but the worst thing happened.. I caught my brother whose 13 years old on top (humping) my mom's friend daughter.. both were naked.. ! I shut the door and left.. I was quiet thru the day and my brother came up to me and told me to please dont say anything.. Im 17 btw.. Idk what the hell to do..? Im worried if she might be pregnant.. or something weird they were having sex..